Relationship Building Exercises for Teens and Parents
Relationship Building Exercises
Adolescence is a challenging time for teens as they continue to develop physically, mentally, and emotionally. Often when children move into adolescence the relationship between parents and teens becomes seemingly more distant and sometimes parents are at loss as to how to strengthen the bond between themselves and their teens. To parents, teens can appear to be withdrawn, disrespectful, selfish and out of control. To teens, parents can seem insensitive and invasive. Teens often feel that their parents do not understand them and do not know what they are feeling or going through at this stage of their life. They feel misunderstood and sometimes act out in frustration. These simple relationship building exercises can help improve and strength the bond between parents and teens. Sharing experiences and quality time with your teens can improve the connection you have to each other. Many of these exercises can be modified to accommodate younger children.
Many researchers agree that open communication is a significant factor in forming a positive and healthy relationship between parents and teens. This first exercise can help build communication because it allows parent and teen to practice effective communication skills and active listening.
1) Sit down with your teen in a quiet place where there will be no interruptions
2) Each participate needs a pen and a piece of paper
3) Write down three things you like about the other person on your piece of paper and three things you would change
4) After you both are done, take the time to agree that you will both try your best to listen when the other person is talking, without interruptions, and that you will give the other person your undivided attention. Also agree that you both will do your best to react respectfully in the discussion without becoming defensive, angry, or judgmental. Remember: this is an exercise to strengthen communication skills.
5) Take turns discussing what you both wrote down.
Trust is one of the fundamental building blocks to a strong interpersonal relationship. It is important to remember that trust may build slowly and it also can be broken down easily. Trust is a two-way street. This next exercise involves building trust.
1) Blindfold one person, making sure the person cannot see at all
2) Have the person that is not blindfolded walk the blindfolded person around the house, guiding him/her for approximately 10-15 minutes
3) After, have a discussion about the experience and how it felt to be guided around the house with no sight and have to completely trust the other person
4) Take turns conducting this exercise
Analyzing an Event
. Often, it is hard to communicate about an event that has occurred, especially if it is negative, because we may not feel the other person understands or is listening to how we feeling wholeheartedly without judgment. This is a writing exercise that involves examining an event or situation that has occurred between parent and teen. The event could be either positive or negative.
1) Sit down in a quiet place with paper and pens
2) Without looking at each other’s work, write a 6 sentence poem reflecting how you feel about a particular situation or event that involves both parties
3) Read your poem out loud to the other person
4) Have the other person try to guess what situation the poem is reflecting
5) Discuss your feeling with the other person and the significant impact the situation had on your life
6) Take turns doing this poem exercise
Building Listening Skills
Supportive listening skills are essential for interpersonal communication. Learning how to be an effective listener can help strengthen relationships, assist in resolving conflict, and offer constructive support to those who need it. Take the time as a parent to teach your teens what active, supportive listening looks like.
1) Sit back to back with your teen on a comfortable floor, you may wish to use cushions or other supportive aids for comfort
2) With paper and pencils in hand have one person explain (using one step at a time) how to draw something, this could be a face, a scenery picture, etc…
3) After, face each other and examine each other’s drawings
4) Have a discussion on the exercise
Note: this exercise could be altered to include other mediums such as painting or molding with clay. You could also use building blocks or lego to build something colour-coded or symmetrical.
Getting to Know You
Although parents with teens most likely live and interact with each other daily, do they really know each other? This is a writing exercise that allows parents and teens to know each other’s favorites.
1) Sit in a quiet, comfortable place
2) With pen and paper in hand, and without each other looking at the other person’s work, write a list of your favorite colour, number, movie, tv show, book, subject in school, food, drink, friend, and things to do
3) Have each other guess the answers
4) Conclude with a discussion on the activity and what you learned from each other
supportive communication builds strong relationships
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