Scientology Parenting

I'm always fascinated when people live by strict codes and doctrines, and with so many celebrities practicing the religion of Scientology, I had to know what this belief system says about bringing up children. I'm not the only one. The recent media attention on Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes' daughter Suri has got lots of people curious.

The Church of Scientology is a pay-as-you go sort of faith, so it's a bit difficult to get direct information. Here's what I've been able to dig up. Feel free to add information in the comments below. Let us know if we've got it wrong or tell us ways real life Scientologists are raising kids away from the paparazzi.

Silent Birth

Silent birth got a lot of attention when Katie Holmes was pregnant. Apparently Scientologists believe babies should come into the world in an environment where nobody speaks. (Grunts and screams are okay.) They think that whatever a newborn hears during childbirth is significant. Therefore words spoken out of pain, or under the effects of pain medication, can adversely affect the child later in life.

Barley Better Than Breastmilk?

There is supposedly no official stance on breastfeeding, but Scientology founder L. Ron Hubbard is quoted in many places stating that his recipe for a formula made of water, barley, milk, and corn syrup is often "better than breast milk." I think anyone would be hard pressed to show how barley and sugar are better for baby than a healthy mother's milk.

Read more star parenting antics at Celebrity Playdate.

Scientologists Only

Children being raised as Scientologists are supposed to attend Scientology classes several hours a day. The idea is that they are not to be influenced by people with other views. I didn't find anything about what age this is supposed to start or stop, or whether children are supposed to be involved in traditional education.

Don't Freak Out

Scientologist parents are taught not to overreact when a child gets hurt or otherwise is involved in an accident. They believe they are helping avoid irrational fears being recorded on a child's subconscious mind. This one may be common sense. Kids take their cues from their caregivers. A cut squished pinky hurts a lot more when Mommy gasps and scrunches up her face.

Just Say Yes

Hubbard apparently warned parents in his 1950 treatise, Dianetics, against disciplining a child. His argument is that kids need love and affection from their parents.

Scientologists are supposedly forbidden to say no to their kids. They are also urged to act like the child's friend. If the child does something wrong, parents should gently point out the "wrong action" but are not to dole out punishment.

Read more star parenting antics at Celebrity Playdate.

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Idrathernot 4 years ago

Ok, having acutally grown up Scientology.. I can assure you its much worse than this article depicts it. I laugh at anyone sitting here trying to give you the light side of it, as they are still under the Scientology veil. If you really want to know how they treat kids look at Sx-Scientology kids websites, any article written about the Mace Kingsley Ranch, or better yet Youtube Wally Hanks and listen to him BEAT a child while he makes him stare at a photo of Hubbard. Now, realize that these people are the ones "trained" to help and instruct kids within Scientology. That the COS actually protects these individuals. Its a sick sick organization. Now all the trollers are going to say its my out-ethics, which is laughable. They will tell you that I have slighted the COS in some way and so Im out here Black Pr'ing it. Funny how no one has stories about how the COS appologizes for their staff members beating me and hundreds of other kids. Starving us in 104 degree weather with no food, water or toliet. Funny how its ALWAYS the person whos stands up for themselves within this organization who is wrong. The people dancing to the Scio dog and pony show make me sad for the life they COULD be living.


vivianne 5 years ago

Scientology is a dangerous cult! It KILLS PEOPLE WITH BRAINWACHING CRAP! silent birth!! let me laugh! it has been made by a man!!

all those false doctors should be banned!! STOP BELIEVING BULLSHIT!


Kristen 5 years ago

I'm glad there are people willing to defend what they believe is right. However, I think I will wait for the church based on the Twilight Saga by Meyer, or maybe Discworld by Pratchett.


Megan 6 years ago

I grew up in Scientology so I have some personal experience on what it is like to have Scientologist parents. I graduated from a high school that uses the study methods of L. Ron Hubbard, and as an adult have done some years of child care and counseling of Scientologist children, using Scientology principals. I am also a trained Scientology counsellor and as an adult have had a significant amount of training and practice in the field.

Apparently, what the media says L. Ron Hubbard says is very far from what he actually says. It seems at times that they just make something up that sounds nuts and then say that he said it. Easy work if you can get it. Often it is the exact opposite of what he actually says.

His writings and books are all freely available to anyone who wants to learn the actual beliefs of the Church - his books can be found on Amazon.com and there is free information available on official Church websites.

To see the actual writings on the subject of children and parenting, you can visit http://www.volunteerministers.org/solutions/childr... which offers a free online course including a free eBook containing Hubbard's writing on the subject.

Some of the things written in the Hub above are not only written in no Church policies or text, but I have never seen them practiced in real life by Scientologists.

Scientologists consider that discipline is vital in the rearing of children, in addition to love and respect.

A permissive "do as you please" attitude when parenting is against any and all Scientology policies and is not tolerated when it occurs. In fact, mosts Scientologists I know are far less permissive of destructive behavior than many non-Scientologist parents I know, and if you read the texts of Scientology you understand why.

Scientologists do, however, tend to believe that children have rights to their own determinism and goals. You would not find a Scientologist insisting that his child "must be a piano player" when he grows up or some such.

To see the actual writings on the subject you can visit http://www.volunteerministers.org/solutions/childr... which offers a free online course including a free eBook containing Hubbard's writing on children and parenting.

As Tad states above, Scientologists breast feed their children wherever and as much as possible, and the baby formula is used in cases where baby formula is necessary. That goes for every Scientologist parent I have known (hundreds) including any Scientologist in my own family who has children, some of whom were breast feeding for far longer than usual.

I am not sure where the idea about Scientologist children having to attend several hours per day of classes to comes from. I attended my first class at age 11, on my own determinism, because I was having a hard time getting along with a step-grandparent of mine. The course was called "How to Get Along with Others" and it helped me solve that problem - to name one. When I was a teenager I left to travel the world for 2 1/2 years on my own, and that's about as unsheltered as it gets. In fact, for 2 1/2 years I seldom saw a Scientologist.

In regards to births, here is what L. Ron Hubbard actually says in the book Dianetics the Modern Science of Mental Health:

“A woman who wants her child to have the best possible chance will find a doctor who will agree to keep quiet especially during the delivery, and who will insist upon silence being maintained in the hospital delivery room as far as it is humanly possible.” — LRH

Here is a good website on Scientology Parenting: http://scientologyparent.com/


William 6 years ago

I have absolutely no idea where you get the "Just say yes" to your kids idea from, it certainly does not originate from any Scientology teachings. I was raised by Scientology parents, and frankly I simply can't remember how many times I was told "no" in no uncertain terms.

As regards to silent births, one merely need to look at the common sense value of not making a lot of commotion around a person who is injured or in pain. When you have just been hurt, the last thing you want is a whole bunch of people wildly chit-chatting around you, you usually need some time to yourself just to get over the pain. Whats so strange about that?


Tad 6 years ago

Whoa - as a Scientologist and a parent I can tell you this article is off in a few major areas. Unfortunately @EricBlair, you didn't just learn about Scientology in this article, so what you did 'learn' you'd be rightful to be disturbed about. To wit:

*Breastmilk: Scientologist are absolutely behind breastfeeding. The barley formula that was referenced in this article is presented by Mr. Hubbard as a workable solution for parents who are having trouble breastfeeding, and as an alternative to pasty, artificial, manufactured formulas. See for yourself - there's a free online course where you can read the material yourself:

http://www.volunteerministers.org/training/childre...

Second, there's a point of "Children being raised as Scientologists are supposed to attend Scientology classes several hours a day." Rubbish. You weren't able to find what age this "starts and stops" because it ISN'T WRITTEN ANYWHERE and is not a part of Church policy at all. What is written is that you work with the child's OWN determinism, like this:

http://www.scientologyparent.com/2010/08/25/scient...

I have plenty more about what it's actually like to be a Scientology Parent, and if you have questions ask me. It's not remotely like how this article is saying it should be.


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dvdpro 6 years ago from Studio City

I noticed the link above didn't work in my comments. This is now it:

http://www.correctscientology.org/silent-birth.htm


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PennyShares 6 years ago from London UK

It gets a lot of bad press but I would say that at a basic lower level the principles that are taught, as with most religions, are good rles to live buy but when someone becomes obsessed by something like this and takes it to an extreme its harmful


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Eric Blair 6 years ago from United Kingdom

The more I learn about scientology (I refuse to capitalise it) the more it disturbs me.


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dvdpro 9 years ago from Studio City

Hello and thank you for sharing… I will explain…

I am amazed how many people are really confused or misinformed on the

subject, including those that write negative books on it. (I suppose they may

have “another” agenda or just be acting based on their current mental and

spiritual state, where we realize they too are, and have been, subject to the

pressures of this universe.) After reading the book Dianetics which led to the discovery about the importance of silent birth, and Dr. Lamaze picked up on this theory and created a program that teaches doctors and nurses this technique which does help not only the mother but the newborn in a very gentle manner delivering with much less pain. It helped to read the material and find out for myself and not believe the hearsay about the subject.

ANYWAY… this small website my friend put together tells more about silent birth (no words) for those that haven't read about it in one chapter of Dianetics.

http://www.silentbirth.org/mediaadvisory.php

Don't worry, I promise the neighbors and their children are just fine and just wanting to help make a better world.

http://www.able.org/

feel free to ask me any questions

Kathy


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Angela Harris 9 years ago from Around the USA

Goodness, I agree with Marye Audet. I wouldn't want those undisciplined kids as neighbors, either.


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Guru-C 9 years ago

LOL!!!

According to my mother, I remember being born. That being the case, I'm glad there was no grunting and screaming in the room. That would have been awful after nine months of hearing people ooh and ahh over her belly!


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Marye Audet 9 years ago from Lancaster, Texas

I hope no scientoligists with kids move in next door if that is the case.

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