Sexting: What is it and Should I Be Concerned

Sexting

Sexting - Common Between Teens

Sexting - Naked Photo Sharing

Do you have a teen or teens?

 

Do they have a cell phone?

 

A cell phone with a camera?

 

Do they love to text? Do they have a MySpace or a Facebook account?

 

If you answered yes to any or all of these questions; BEWARE!!!

 

In this new day and age there are many things that we as parents should be aware of. Most are familiar with the horrors of the computer age. There are the online predators that we try and protect our children from, keeping an eye on their MySpace and Facebook accounts so that they do not give out too much information. There are the pornography sites that come out of nowhere, even when you are trying to help your second grader find information on crawdads. Pornography is like those dastardly weeds in your garden, easy to find and hard to control. With so much information and the world at your fingertips there is a great deal that can happen on the world wide web especially since there is not a great deal of policing of the Internet going on. Add to that the cell phone with cameras which almost every teen has and it can spell disaster. With cell phones and computers it has become seamless to send pictures from phone to computer and from phone to phone or computer to computer and to that the ability to text back and forth between cell phones and even computers and it’s a whole new interaction. Cell phones and computers have opened up a whole new way of relating for that next generation, a generation that is now taking texting and sending pictures to that next level with sexting.

 

WHAT IS SEXTING? Sexting is basically flirting on the cell phone it involves sexy texting as well as risqué photos, photos in which teens and young adults are either totally or semi-nude. In a recent study which was commissioned by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com, 22 percent of teenage girls and 18 percent of teenage boys have taken nude or semi nude photos of themselves and have either sent them to someone via cell phone or posted them online. These pictures are usually taken with a camera phone and passed from phone to phone and/or from phone to computer. This form of digital flirting as teens call it has some serious repercussions as well. How far the sexting will go is up to the teen and young adult and whether it will lead to more in face-to-face contact is still unknown.

SHOULD WE BE CONCERNED? Yes we should be very concerned about sexting. It’s a new thing and it’s a trend. And the repercussions from their actions could be irreversible. Although it’s only sending pictures to other cell phones and to the computer those pictures in the wrong hands or in the hands of an angry ex could be detrimental. What teens do not understand are the repercussions from sending and posting these pictures. Posting nude and semi-nude pictures in social groups such as MySpace and Facebook could be seen by anyone who has access to these groups. This could be negative if an employer or college takes a look at the site to get more information on the perspective student/employee. And that is just what colleges and employers have been doing. Even if the pages are set to private there is still the possibility that these pictures could be released in the mainstream. If you have friends on your pages that copy your pictures they can send them anyway and in no time they can be around the Internet. The same thing can happen with cell phones because pictures can be easily shared from cell phone to cell phone and can get around a school in a matter of minutes. So trusting friends to keep those pictures private and between the two of you is not always the situation. In addition to what can happen when the pictures get into the wrong hands is how these teens are perceived by the people who receive and see the pictures that they have sent. Is there a stigma attached to that person that says if they are willing to do this online or over the phone then they must take it further offline or in real time? This might be the case only time will tell. But being considered promiscuous because of these actions can lead to further problems as well especially if sending a sext is misconstrued by he receiver.

What can you do to avoid this with your teenager?

 

 

  1. Talk to them – Talking is important make sure that they understand the full scope of what they are doing and the possible repercussions from their actions. Although it might seem like fun at the time it could get out of hand and they need to understand this completely.
  2. Monitor them – They are still teenagers and as such should have their MySpace and Facebook pages monitored, make sure that their pages are private and that the pictures they have up are not risqué, it only takes one person to pass that picture on for this situation to go in a bad direction.

     

  3. Listen to them – Understand what they think about sexting, texting and flirting. This is a new day and age and something that parents are not necessarily able to relate to because they did not experience this as teens. Try to understand how they feel what they think and where they are coming from.

     

 

These few steps can help build a better relationship which can only lead to positive situations. So now you can add sexting to your list of things to talk with your teen about along with drugs, smoking and sex. Sexting is the newest thing with teens and young adults and as a parent you should be concerned enough to learn more about, understand it and make sure your teen understands all aspects of it as well.

 

 

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lynn 7 years ago

This is great and very informative. As parents we are responsible for our children. That means it is our business to know what they are doing. But we must teach our children to respect their bodies. And they are not a piece of meat. And there are consequences for all of our actions whether good or bad. Sexting should not be taken lightly. Once something is put into cyberspace it is there forever. And things have a way of coming back to haunt those who have participated in these kind of things.


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Lynn thank you very much for your comments. Yes we have to be involved in our children's lives this is so true. The repercussions for these actions are irreversible and that is what makes it very scary. Thanks again


jordan 7 years ago

this is just something we teens like to do its our decision and if we want to do it then we should be able to


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Jordan, thank you for your comments. I have to disagree with you a bit. Because as a teen you are under age and under the care of your parents I do not think that you should be able to do anything simply because you like it. There are repercussions of any actions and understanding that is truly important.


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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

great hub - detailed and non-hysterical.


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Thanks LondonGirl, I actually find it quite eye opening so felt it important to get the word out.


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Benjimester 7 years ago from San Diego, California

Yet another reason to be proud of the fact that I've never once sent a text message. Kids these days. Thanks for the info.


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Yes stay away from the texting. It becomes addicting and causes a great deal of problems. I am amazed though so many people do it. That's cool that you have not.


misty 7 years ago

My 14 year old son was suspended from school today for this "sexting". His "girlfriend" was sending him text messages while they were in class and the teacher heard the phone signal and took up his phone. She went thru the messages and discovered several NUDE and close up pics of the girlfriend. Since the cell phone is in my name and my account I could be charged for Child pornography!! I am extremely upset by this


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Misty I am sorry to hear that. I had never even thought about that aspect of it. Most cell phones are in the parents name and that makes it a completely different situation legally. I hope it works out for you.


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Proud Mom 7 years ago from USA

Triplet Mom, THANK YOU for getting this out there.   I couldn't agree with you more.  After doing "Passport to Purity" with my daughter, she told me the most powerful visual she took from it was the first, when we took clean water and mixed just a tiny amount of soil into it.  She realized when I proved to her that there was no way to get that water clear again, EXACTLY what I was trying to say.  We can't take the filth back out of their brains once they've been exposed--accidentally or otherwise. You're doing everyone a great service by posting this.!!


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Proud Mom 7 years ago from USA

And jordan, Triplet mom is exactly right in her response to you. I know right now you think you know everything you need to take care of yourself successfully, but at your age, you've got a bit more maturing to do. Better to do it under the watchful eyes of your parents where they can catch you when you fall than to jump without a net.


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you Proud Mom. I think it is easy for children and young adults to get caught up in the moment without looking forward. I remember being the same way. That is why we as parent have to be able to show them what is ahead or the possible outcomes; negative and positive of any situation. Sounds like you gave your daughter a real eye opener and that is great.


Sedgrid 7 years ago

You can buy monitoring devices at www.spyparent.net to prevent sexting. They sale SIM card reader that allow your capture deleted text messages and photos.


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you Sedgrid that is really good information.


Adam B 7 years ago

Nice article, I just published one similar to your...with my spin on it of coarse. Check it out if you get a chance.


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you Adam, I will give it a look and see. I just recently heard of a girl who committed suicide after her pictures were sent around to everyone by her ex boyfriend.


EveM 7 years ago

Im 63 Year old grandmother with a 13 & 14 year old grandsons reading this article brings a lot to light about Sexting I made a copy of this and I

will share it with my friends very informative


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

Eve - Thank you, I really do think it is important to bring this to light!!


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linjingjing 7 years ago

Good article


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia

This is so true.I watched a show on telly last night about couples who text their saucy pics to each other, and guess how many have ended up on the internet. Beware.!!!


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast Author

BP - Since posting this hub I have heard two very frightening stories. One was a young girl who killed herself because her boyfriend sent her pic to everyone once they broke up and she was being ridiculed. And the second is a young man who had to register as a sex offender because he had pics on his phone of his naked girlfriend. He was 18 she was 16. Just scary stuff. Better to not take the pics.


close mouth.! 6 years ago

i feel we as teens should b able to do wat we want. no all the time but mostly. ITS OUR PHONE.! if we get in2 trouble for it then dhats on us. i feel its our fone. n our situation... mahny ppl try to fix thangs by sayin we should do this n dhat. we really yall makin dha problem even worst. if somebody thinks about sendin a nude photo to sumone that's their choice. they should kno. we as teens have to grow up. but we cant we adults dwn our bak.!


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Closemouth - Of course you feel that way because you are a teen. But when you do things the repercussions usually falls on the adults who care for you. So until you are of age we adults will make the decisions. Yes it is your phone but who pays the bill? Who got you that phone? The parent/adult of course.


close mouth.! 6 years ago

sorry for mii misspelled words.! but um i still think its crazy! for the reason. im doin mii senior exit project on this. n to b honest i neva knew this topic was n dha world.! but yall "adults" have to understand that this is freedom of speech we should b able to send a pix if we want. most ppl dhat do dhat should kno wats up wen dhay do


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Close mouth - Thanks for your comments. I am all about freedom of speech. However there is such a thing as pornography and there are age limits. Sending pictures of naked teens is first and foremost illegal. So something that might be considered private between two people can end up being public with the push of a button. Once that picture gets sent around then it becomes pornography especially if the person is under age. So its not as simple as letting people do what they do. This of course all changes when you exit your teen years and become of age.


close mouth.! 6 years ago

thanx.! like i told u this topic is for mii exit project. i was diagreein to get more information. mii topic is the effect of sextin n how it hurts teenage kids.! thanx for wat u gave me u really hit dha spot.!


close mouth.! 6 years ago

? will i b able to copy n paste the argeement we just had. to mii paper?? leavin everythang u said n it.!


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

That is fine with me as long as you make sure that cite the source. Thanks for the discussion.


BASKETBALL LOVER! 6 years ago

i totally agree wth yu triplet mom, but what if we flirt while texting and we r just playing around?


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Basketball Lover - I like basketball too!! I do not see a problem with flirting. I only have a problem with suggestive photos. It just gets into dangerous territory when a picture is sent through cell phones or emails.


BASKETBALL LOVER! 6 years ago

=] , yes i understand your point. i try to look at it from both points of views, and i agree when you say teens should not be able to do these things and after all there parents r the 1s paying the bills, and too much can happen, like 2 many consequences . im trying to forsee these things because i am only 14


Kelly 6 years ago

I think it's a bit much to have our pages monitored. Here in Aus the legal age for sex is 16, and I'm 16.5..... so to have our pages monitored feels like a breach of trust. Mum's first primal reaction to anything bad is to get angry. This makes me scared, so I'd rather not tell her. Though I'm learning to become a lot more open, so I believe giving on BOTH sides helps. If the teen does not want to talk about it, they shouldn't until they're ready. The parent should give them a few important points to consider, and make a time when they can prepare and talk about it. I know myself that I become flustered and I don't know what to say when Mum springs a talk on me. Being a teen, we don't tend to want to have a talk twice, so we don't ever say what we think of later...

Sexting really isn't that big of a deal really... It IS something we do... Yes it would be great to meet some of the people I text, but to me, I think I would rather keep it as a virtual relationship. I'm not sure why, but I just think it would be weird.... If I did want to meet any of my virtual friends (some only live a few hours away) I would let my mum know, and meet at a neutral place, definitely not my house. A lot of the time, we say we'd love to meet, but really... It's talk that to me, I'd rarely want to follow through with....

Hope that let you enter into a teen's world a little ^_^


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Kelly - Thank you for your insight. My problem is not with texting as much as it is with the sexting part and sending pictures of a sexual nature. This can lead to very serious consequences. Also meeting someone new especially when you are young and from online or through text can be a very serious endeavor. I have been a teen and am now a parent so I can see things from both sides. As a parent we have to protect our children and sometimes teens do not make the best decisions and do not think about the possible consequences.


Teen 1993 6 years ago

WHAT IS SEXTING? Sexting is basically flirting on the cell phone it involves sexy texting as well as risqué photos, photos in which teens and young adults are either totally or semi-nude.

-My view is that why cant you flirt over a text msg??? Flirting over a text message should not be called "sexting" that is just ridiculous and if some teens are smart they should not send nude pics of themselves. And if they did do it it was not love it was a rash stupid decision and they were not thinking after all we (teens like myself and I ) are young naïve and stupid


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Teen 1993 - Thank you for your comments and insight. My problem is not with the flirty nature of the texting. My problem is specifically with the partial nude and totally nude pics that are sent. This can cause devastating repercussions as have been seen lately in the news; deaths, arrests and having to register as a sex offender to name a few.


XxBoredAsHellxX 6 years ago

okay...im 12 and i think that this is the stupidest thing ever....yeah every teen sends pics..i get that..but really?? everyone is soooo focused on this rightt now but do they realize a lot of us do this thing called "RP" or role playing, its almost worse then sexting...

in "Role Play" characters such as * or - , are used surrounding words indicting an action. for example: *hug* or -hug-(that would be to hug someone.) but on the chat site i use many people take it way farther then that. "cybering" its kind of creepy..(and in my mind a hell of a lot worse then a couple people sending pics of themselves.) and many times it happens when you become close friends with someone. its really kind of sad that people are sick enough to do things like that...i mean i had no information out on the website and yet i was cyber stalked by 2 18 year olds... they knew my phone number and emails...its scarry..but its one of those things you dont want to tell your parents because you know there reactions will be bad..but it really isn't something you want to face alone...

but truthfully i think that adults dont trust us enough. Most of us know how to get into trouble but we are smart enough to find away out, we will go to you if we have questions about things but that's only if you give us SOME freedome and not try to control us completely. when parents trust there children less and less we become afraid to come to them with issues because they make it so hard.

im sorry if this doesn't make much sense but, its really hard to put into words.. lol hope this helps yo guys see this from the teen point if view


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

BAH - Thank you for your comments. It is always good to hear from a teens point of view. And your comments make complete sense. Just remember that trust is something that is earned not something that is just given freely. Since us parents are responsible for teens until they become adults then there are some actions that we have to take that you might not necessarily like. However I do agree that to make the relationship work there has to be communication and trust between the two.


Blazed 6 years ago

XxBoredAsHellXx, I have an idea you have no clue what you are talking about. Role play is fine, Let me emphasize something role PLAY. PLAY means that you are not being serious in one bit. I could never see how it's worse to PLAY then it is to send a naked pic with could potentially ruin someones life.It would take a very twisted person or a very dumb person to take role play serious. I think persons have the right to hover over this subject because they pay for the cellphone, you are in there care, they can get in trouble if you do something stupid, it's not only that they know that it could ruin your life completely.

-Blazed


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Blazed - Thank you for your comments and insight.


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harrymelcars 6 years ago

Great article - it provides much reassurance for the brave new world we're all trying to deal with.


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you! Times are changing quickly its hard to keep up with the new and improved.


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Jack Burton 6 years ago from The Midwest

My youngest just got married two months ago so I don't have worries anymore. :-)

A lot of our friends with younger kids and teens are using the stuff at http://www.weprotectyourkids.com. They swear it is amazing.


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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Thanks Jack!


Da Hawk 44 5 years ago

I think these are some purty good stuff, but hey everyone sexts, and porn is purty stupid in my opinion, it means that you dont get "any" in real life. So just keep in mind all thee kids hormones and learning in school about how sex is bad.IfYou tell a kid fire is dangerous, they will probly ply with lighters or matches.

From a fellow teen just thought i'd throw some stuff out there


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Da Hawk - Thanks for your comments.


4umm?89 5 years ago

i agree completely with it being wrong.. my boyfriend has been trying to get me to "sext" for awhile now. but i know what could happen and im not going to risk destroying my future all because of that. i see no point. me being a teen i have a lot of things to look forward to in life and jail, or court for sexting not being one of them.. if a person truly loves and respects you they should NEVER try to presure you into that. or be a jerk and send it out to the world! i think that people should try their best to put an end to this non sense..


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you for your comments 4umm?89. Good for your to stand your ground. No one should be pressured to something that they do not want to do.


Lindsey 5 years ago

Well i see where uu are going with this but, there are a lot of teens who do this cuz their boyfriends want them to and the teen is scared he will break up wit her especially if she "loves" him I am 15.5 and yes i do sex SOMETIMES but i have a limit. yes it is our phone and parents always want to yell at us about it but they are not the ones getting in trouble, we are some Teens send nude pictures but they are the stupid ones that sent it and then they wanna get mad wen their picture is everywhere.


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Thanks for your comments Lindsey. That's too bad that girls are doing it because they are worried about their boyfriends are going to break up with them. Maybe that should tell the girls that he is not good for them.


Lindsey 5 years ago

O trust me i have to ma best friend many times he wasn't good but she doesn listen cuz she loves him... I do think Sexting is dumb but it makes conversations in texting more fun cuz usually its just "Hey" "Hi" "Wat uu doin?" "nm" and then end the conversation...


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Lindsey I do not have a problem with the conversation as much as I do the pictures. Those are the type of things that can get a person in trouble.


special 5 years ago

teens wake up and smell the roses, listen to your parents they know what they are doing.


clever101 5 years ago

Listen to your parents and stop this immature sexting idea!!


special 5 years ago

that's it clever 101.. i am a teen only 16 and i have all the twitter(mxit, facebook) my lifes great without all the picture sending and if i can do it so then why cant you.


Whatwhat 5 years ago

Okay just wondering about what that guy up there said about role playing... What are your opinions about that? Like bc it's not just flirting it's worse than that and it gets really intense... Well at least with me an my bf... But yeah he's asked for pics and I got pissed bc I was like What do you think I'm stupid?? And he said he was sorry and wouldn't ask again... But yeah is role playing bad? And how do you think it effects the relationship?


ugh 5 years ago

i'm sorta scared about this. i really didn't know it was child pornography. and i regret ever sending anything.i regret ever getting involved with online things like chat rooms. i'm very scared for my future now. teens, please don't send it. THINK before u click that send button. u might be all in the moment and arroused and feeling these sexual feelings for the person...but u have to think...does he/she really need this to love me? am i really gunna ruin my life? am i really gunna ruin my chances of getting into college or getting a job? the answer is no. don't do it. cuz when it gets out of hand, u'll really regret it in the end.

43. 43 is the age u'll get off the sex offenders list.


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you for the comments Ugh! Its good to hear from someone who has experienced this.


ugh 5 years ago

notttt reallly. what you adults don't understand is the emotional agony. the stress. everyday u have to worry that" today i'll get caught", even though you actually did the deed a year before. I've been physically ILL! i've vomited.i've been paranoid for the last 5 months over this. i've woken up from nightmares crying over this. i really cannot tell my parents over the whole situation. its extremely terrifying. even if you're sorry you did it you can still get in trouble. it's completely frightening for a young teen. seriously.


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Ugh - Thanks for your comments. Sorry that you are going through this. This can serious consequences and repercussions. Beware!


Exmoor 5 years ago

@jordan: Teen to teen here. Sexting is wrong because who knows where those photos end up? If you sent a nude pic to a boy, how would you feel if you came onto a facebook account, or onto a completely different website and saw that photo. If you send a pic to one person, all that that person has to do is click the forward button. It's that quick, and that scary. Sure, we can take care of ourselves to a certain point, but we need extra protection and that's what adults and their laws are doing for us. They aren't trying to take away our freedom. They're trying to help us, and they do help us. :)

@blazed: Quit telling off BAH. I don't think you've been on a rpg before. I have, and know what goes on there sometimes. I'm on a minor one ruled by responsible teenagers like myself. Not all of them are that safe. What BAH describes is only something used as an example so you know what they mean. -hugs 'waldo'- is a minor example. Most RPGs, or role-play games, include writing. As with books, this can be anything! Some people describe the actions so well it can scare and scar teens. It isn't just -hugs-, believe me.

Great article, Triplet Mom. The word needs to reach out about this! I agree with you completely, as sexting can do harm to a teen and their family, as well as their permanent reputation. After all, no self-respecting teen wants to be known by names that come from the whole school seeing forwarded images like those sent in sexting.


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you so much for your comments Exmoor it is interesting to hear from a teens perspective.


Hayley 5 years ago

Teens are almost adults. Parents need to start trusting their teens more. Its our life, our body, our phone, and it should be our choice. We get that there are going to be some issues if we get in trouble for sexting, but if parents could back off a little bit and show that they trust us, we'd probably act differently. Tracking the websites teens go to is a total invasion of privacy. We may be younger, but we can know what's wrong and what's right. The average legal age of sexual consent is 16 in the United States. Therefore, if both people are ok with sexting it should be ok. If they mess up, well... Don't blame the entire country's teens.we're not all irresponsible.


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Thanks for your comments Hayley. I never said that all teens were irresponsible and do not think that. However, as parents we are responsible for teens until they are of age. If we are supporting a teen then it is of our concern. I agree that parents should be more trusting. The point is if they mess up it could have legal ramifications which in turn would be put back on the parents if not for anything else than financially. So a mess up as you call it is not just an "oopps" situation it can be so much more than that. As parents we have to be somewhat protective because we are the people that are responsible for you and provide for you.


pamela 5 years ago

Hi, I'm worried that my daughter is sexting... The main thing I want to know is that is it Illegal to sext? She is 12 and her bf is 15. I'm almost POSOTIVE she isn't... But you know... I'm her mother and I feel as if I should at least tell her about this... Thank you PLEASE reply


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

pamela - sexting in and of itself is not illegal.


5 years ago

You can't automatically assume all power over their mobile phone. In my case, I am a neutral teenage party. I have never "sexted" and honestly it's such a cringey term.. But I know who does and it's not that bad if they are responsible about it and in a secure relationship with someone who is emotionally secure enough not to do something as stupid as to send a picture of their partner around, even in spite. I bought my phone MYSELF with money I EARNED in a job and my parents have had 0 input financially into my monthly credit. Also, in Europe it is illegal for teachers to look through a students phone, they can confiscate it but the student themselves has to turn it off beforehand as a requirement. It is considered a massive violation to look through someone's mobile without their permission or permission from the local police station. I understand everyone's concern and I respect parents who want to look out for their children, but really some of these arguments are laughable.


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

X - I applaud your maturity in this matter but honestly I think that you are rare in the fact that you pay 100% of your phone. My question would still be do you live with your parents do they pay for your other needs? Not all teens are as responsible as you seem to be and those are the ones that I am specifically referring to. Also I would point out that even if the relationship is secure now that does not mean that something cannot happen down the road. Things change and once a picture is sent there is no undoing it.


5 years ago

Oh I know that, I just think that if there is any chance that your recipient could send it on, they are not worth the trouble in the first place because they're proving they're last of relax for the sender and it's the senders fault for making for such an error of judgement.


5 years ago

Sorry my iPhone autocorrected.. *they're proving that they have no respect for the sender


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

I agree completely but also still think its better off not putting yourself in that situation. Because honestly you never really know what might happen. Better safe than sorry. Thank you so much for your comments.


5 years ago

It's just a sad lesson learned too late. I wish all teenagers had a little bit more common sense.. Sex isn't everything. These are the sort of "harmless" mistakes that could damage them and their family beyond repair. Hopefully it'll be less prevalent in the future :)


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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

X - I could not agree any more! Lets hope.


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xenakou 4 years ago

at jared and close mouth i 2 am a teen and i disagree with you that's like saying wow all the teens are killing people nowadays so i want to 2 you still have to obey the rules and boundaries, get over urself bro...


qwerty 4 years ago

I'm glad you wrote this, but I'll admit I got a little frustrated before I read the comments.

For all the kids out there, if you have to sext, keep it to text. By that I mean *no* pictures.

I'm 15 and got caught a few months ago for a case that involved pictures - no nudity, though - and yes, it was absolutely terrifying.

The internet is the place where bad decisions live forever, so don't fall into that trap.

In addition to your own contributions, all the porn sites, chat rooms, and even the video games out there are too numerous and accessible to avoid.

Parents, stop being paranoid about your kids finding it. Stop the monitoring, the sneaky phone and history peeks, and the device restrictions. I guarantee you that they *will* either come across it another way, or circumvent your restrictions. My mom doesn't like me playing video games like Call of Duty, and her attempts to restrict me have not stopped me for a moment. I just stopped telling her about my life altogether.

The same principle as cybersecurity applies to these kinds of situations, the bad guys are always smarter than the good, and find ways around the system faster.

Instead of all this, TALK TO THEM. Explain the dangers. When I got caught, my mom yelled for what felt like hours. My dad sat me down - with a barely concealed look of amusement - and asked me why that was stupid. I told him. I've never done it again. Guess who convinced me.

This isn't all that bad if the prevention didn't make it worse.

Thanks for posting :)

On an unrelated note: kids, please stop posting likee yurr 4 yr oldzzz!!! Makes us look bad!


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Triplet Mom 4 years ago from West Coast Author

Qwerty - Thank you so much for your comments. It is nice to hear from the other side. I agree completely that talking about things instead of a one-sided yelling episode is much much better. I think talking things out and through is a much better road to take.


Code 4 years ago

You made some clear points reguarding younger immature teenagers that are being irresponsible, yet you have to let a teen develop in their own way shape and form. Let them learn, experience and understand for themselves instead of holding them back.


Code 4 years ago

To be honest there are to many paranoid people out there and many reside on this page. I'm glad that you take head to this new trend, yet every generation differs from the next. Now I'm not saying I support "sexting" I just believe that if a parent is willing to buy a teen a phone they better invest an amount of trust in their teen for there are choices that are available no matter what, if they don't trust their teen plain and simple don't buy them a phone..


Denise 6 months ago

Here's a great list of text message monitoring app that you can use to remotely monitor SMS - http://keyloggers.mobi/best-sms-tracker

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