Don't Speak to Strangers

Teach them well

May 25, 2010 is National Missing Children’s Day


No parent wants to learn that their child won’t be coming home. No parent wants to think of their child being hurt, tortured, neglected and in pain; with no one around that can offer them compassion, love and support. No parent wants to wonder what happened to my baby?

Today is Tuesday May 25th, 2010-and today is National Missing Children’s Day .


Parents need to take the time to speak with their children about the Danger of a Stranger. Since today is the National Missing Children's Day, today is a perfect day to have that conversation.

Explain to them what a stranger is-and how some strangers are very bad people. Take the time to tell your child how they should handle an encounter with a Dangerous Stranger, teach them how to increase their chances of getting away and making their way back into your arms.

All children that are able to slip from your sight need to know how to handle a situation when a Stranger is attempting to lure them away from others.

If you think your child is too young to begin discussing these dangers, think about this; if your young child of one or two was running towards a busy street, would you run after them?

Would you scoop them up and tell them, ‘No’? Would you discipline them over and over again and tell them that if they were to run into that busy road, something bad could happen to them and it may be a hurt that you can not fix with a Band-Aid and a kiss?

If you would tell them these things in order to keep them safe, then why would you not want to tell them about; strangers and what to do if a stranger tried to take them somewhere they don’t need to be?

When speaking to a child that may or may not understand all the dangers that this world has lurking in each dark corner, you need to speak with them in a stern voice and make sure that you are not giving them the impression that strangers are a laughing matter.


Help them Understand

Fight-Bite and Scream!

What to do, to get away


First, explain the dangers that believing a stranger can expose them to. Then tell what to do in order to get help and get away.


#1 SCREAM-SCREAM-SCREAM. Scream and yell stranger and help, as loud as they can, in order to bring attention to the situation. Tell your child to Scream and Yell for as long as possible, even if they don’t think that anyone can hear them.


#2 RUN AWAY- Explain to your children that if a Stranger tries to get them into a car or away from friends and other people, get away as quickly as they can. Remind them to scream while they are running


#3 PITCH a FIT- Most parents tell their children, don’t hit, don’t bite, don’t kick or pull hair. Tell them if a stranger makes an attempt to grab them-they need to do everything that you have ever told them not to do. BITE-HIT-KICK and never stop SCREAMING, and once you have a second to get away; do it. RUN towards a crowd. Tell them the more people they can be around the better


#4 PEE YOUR PANTS- Last but not least, if your child is out of diapers or even in diapers-tell them to PEE and/or POOP their pants, if a stranger has hold of them. Wetting the pants can catch a predator off guard for a moment, and in that moment, tell your children to get away.


Children need to know that they need to do anything and everything possible to keep from having a stranger take them. They need to understand that they may never see Mommy or Daddy again, and will not be able to play with their toys anymore. Please, take the time to talk to your kids about the Dangers or Strangers, it could help save their lives-and they are worth it.


Today is National Missing Children's Day- Please take a moment to pray for some of those families that do not have their children at home to tuck into bed tonight.

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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

H.C., excellent hub. But the sad fact is, we live in a world today where it is not the stranger who is the perpetrator but the people they know or acquainted with.


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Internetwriter62 6 years ago from Marco Island, Florida

Excellent Advice! If parents followed what you advice here, maybe we would see far less children on milk carton or on the walls of Walmart. Children need to know how to defend themselves, my mother was always considered over protective, and I'm glad she was since neither I nor my siblings have ever fallen prey to a stranger. Children need to know how to defend themselves. They need to be protected, even when parents are not around.


Justine76 6 years ago

I've told my kids since they were little to kick, scream, bite, anything they can. Once,my youngest, actually punched an old woman in the face when she said "what a pretty baby." my daughter thought..stranger in my space....

I didnt care. Id far rather someone was "offended" then my child hurt, or worse.


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Ivorwen 6 years ago from Hither and Yonder

I've told my children most of this, but never to pee their pants. I can imagine that would work quite well, for a moment or two. The best advise I was ever given was to bite and bite hard. Make them drop you or bleed. My kids think that if they have a pocket knife, they will be safe, but I know how quickly a weapon can be turned against someone smaller.


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ezzy1512 6 years ago

H.C Porter, all you said is right. Great hub.


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Rafini 6 years ago from Somewhere I can't get away from

Excellent article full of excellent advice.


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

I talk to my girls about this a lot. I do like the suggestion about using the bathroom on themselves. That seems like it would be a great deterance as well. Thank you for such a great reminder.


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Ken R. Abell 6 years ago from ON THE ROAD

Thank you for a great piece on an important topic. I appreciated it--I used to teach my kids (and now my grandkids) to scream "bloody murder", & then got/get them to practice doing so. There are some real sickos out there.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Samboiam, Thanks for the comment- you are right, often the ones that need to be watched out for are the people that we welcome into our lives and homes- But talking to you r children not only about strangers, but what an adult or another child should never do to them is a big deal, they need to know if anything ever happens-no matter what a bad guy tells them, they should always tell you (the parents).


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Internetwriter- I would think that not knowing where your child is, if they are okay, if they are crying for you-has to be the worse form of 'Living Hell', I pray for any parent who has had to experience such horrible moments. Thanks for your thoughts-Maybe one day will come, when the faces on the Milk Cartons and Wal-mart Doorways will no longer be those of Missing Children.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Justine76,

I am with you-Id feel much better if my children punched an innocent person in the face when they were approached, than if they ran up to them and started chatting. The sad thing about the world is- children are born so innocent, so good and so trusting...Then as we grow and are poisoned, some begin to do horrible malicious things to others, it is an endless process and an example of how evil spreads through society. Thanks for reading and for taking the time to share.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Ivorwen,

I was always told go for the eyes-and jab hard... There is no person that can be stabbed in the eyes (even by a finger) that will not drop what they have and reach up to cater to the pain. Until reading your comment, I forgot about that one-maybe I should edit the hub and include it... You are right though, make them bleed if you can-think about the pain they wont mind inflicting on you if they have the chance-and then give it everything you have. Thanks for stopping by and giving feedback, I appreciate it very much :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

ezzy1512,

Thanks for stopping by and for leaving a comment, I am glad that you enjoyed my hub


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Rafini- as always, thanks for stopping in and taking the time to read and to comment. I always appreciate the feedback :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Veronica- You are welcome, and thank you as well, for being a great Mommy and taking the time to have these types of discussions with your girls- you never want to be a parent that says, I wish I would have told them what to do... Gives me chills... Thanks for reading and commenting-and once again, congrats on your perfect score :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Ken, thank you sir for reading and commenting. Unfortunately I must agree with you, there are some very sick-cruel-thoughtless people, that will not hesitate to harm a child. Teaching children to fight for their lives is a very crucial lesson, that no parent can afford to not give. Good for you for being one of the people out there that look out for the ones they love, and tell them about these dangers :)


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

Excellent advice for children everywhere to remember and understand. I am usually always watching to make certain children are safe. It is sad to think of how twisted some people in the world can be, and I have no tolerance for anyone able to injure a child in any way. I will even stick up for kids if I see adults teasing them--I just don't believe a child should have to spar with adults on any level except in play and pretend.

I realize teasing isn't the point of your hub, and I don't intend to diminish the seriousness of your message. It is vitally important to keep kids safe, and I salute your wisdom in helping others accomplish this.

Mike


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Mike, Thanks so much! I think any time an adult can shield a child from pain, it is a better moment than the moment before. Teach them all we can, it makes for a better tomorrow all the way around. Thanks for your comment, here and in the forums :D I appreciate you following my writing :)


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Tuckerp 6 years ago from Clifton Tx

Kidnappers have a way about them to kids that is convincing . Like your mom or dad wanted me to take you some where . Or your dad is hurt , And I need to take you there .

I told my children a code word . It was a bird . But won't tell ya what kind :) Although they are grown .

And if I or your mother ever have to send for you . The person will tell you this word . If they don't know the word . We didn't send them .

Thank God it never was used or came into play . But we did our best , like some of the things you mentioned to let them know these things do happen .

Thx


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

tuckerp,

I like your key word suggestion- wih your permission I would like to add it to the hub? Thanks for the comment, I appreciate the depth that you went into. You having given me some more to consider :)


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blackreign2012 6 years ago

excellent hub in todays climate with all these freakoids and weirdos running a muk we must protect our children. Someone will learn something from this hub thus saving a child's life and that's what up. Peace unto you my sister ~hugs~ rate up for sure


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

blackreign2012,

I agree-what should be everyone’s first priority is to protect the innocent...I hope you are correct that someone will read this and think to talk to their kids –Thanks for the comment :)


Logan 16 months ago

Gee whiz, and I thgohut this would be hard to find out.

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