The most challenging thing about being married is staying married. It is a full-time job, but it has its rewards. You must keep your marriage alive. You must invest in your spouse. You can't just say "I do" and think you're done. Like I said, it's a full-time job. You have to keep it interesting. You have to cherish your spouse and you have to show it. You have to perform Random Acts of Kindness every chance you get. And you can never stop and never get tired of it. If the flame starts to burn out, you're not investing. Just because you live together doesn't mean that you're spending quality time together. You have to go on a date once a week or at least every other week, without the kiddos. It has to be time that you devote to each other, one to one. This is a non-negotiable. And you have to be best friends. You have to confide in each other. You have to support one another's dreams and goals. You have to trust each other and be trustworthy. You have to remember why you fell in love and keep it going like when you first met. There has to be good communication. If your spouse is doing something that offends you or turns you off, you need to express your feelings. But you have to talk about it rationally. And you have to keep an open mind when the shoe is on the other foot. And most of all, you have to have balance in your life. You can't be a work-aholic and think your marriage is going to last. How can you devote time to your spouse if you're always working? It's like you're married to your job, not your spouse. Marriage is hard work, but it's well worth it. A good, strong marriage has unlimited life-long benefits. So do yourself and your spouse a favor - stay married.