The Happiest Baby Name - Allegria

Dedication


I dedicate this article to Mr. Happy. His nickname suits him so well that I have difficulty remembering such harmony between a person and his nickname. Name is a suggestive command, they say. Did Mr. Happy choose his name or his name chose him? He has his own story to tell and his own theory about names. But I wonder whether it is a coincidence that he recommends to his readers the book “Happiness is Overrated” written by Raymond Angelo Belliotti. The only thing I know is that Mr. Happy brings HAPPINESS to my world.


Italian hit "Happiness" with English subtitles

What do the words “STUPID” and “HAPPY” have in common?


Maybe, you would say “STUPID” + “HAPPY” = “IGNORANCE IS BLISS”. These words are neither synonyms nor antonyms, but what do they have in common? Like all words both “stupid” and “happy” are concepts. Names are words and more often than not, names are words with a meaning; therefore, names are concepts.


What concepts do you know that are often used for names?


The list is long, but let’s say:


Light, God, Defender,

Happy, Happiness,

Farmer, Warrior, Glory,

Names of Flowers,

Hope, Freedom, Angel… Judge…


Judge? Yes, Judge. I have one at home.


Name is Daniel = “God is my Judge” (origin: Hebrew)


Why did I choose a name that is not Russian and which meaning does not appeal to me at all? That is another story, but in essence the decision was strongly influenced by conservatism of my husband. He was determined to prevent me from choosing a STUPID name. A STUPID name? A name that HE DID NOT LIKE.


But most people including me do not want a STUPID name for their child and it is all in pursuit of future HAPPINESS. Something like that.


Would you like to call your child “HAPPY”?

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Would you like your child to be called “STUPID”?

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What makes a name STUPID? Who is to judge?


“It's not given to people to judge what's right or wrong.

People have eternally been mistaken and will be mistaken, and in nothing more than in what they consider right and wrong.”


Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace


Most of the time a stupid name is nothing more than an unusual name. Stupid and unusual are not synonyms. Conservative people prefer choosing and using familiar names, familiar as in accepted by the majority, safe names. Unfamiliar names, names created on the spot, badly, oddly sounding names are denounced depending on the level of intolerance.


The message that society sends to defiant, eccentric parents is “Don’t you dare to invent your own names!” But all names were at some point created. Somewhere. By someone. At some point all names were just new.


But even on ACCEPTABLE/ACCEPTED names opinions differ and fall into different categories:

  • · I love it
  • · I like it
  • · I dislike it
  • · I hate it
  • · I am indifferent



You cannot like/love all names, can you? Neither can I. How do I make a judgment? What aspects of names irritate me? My likes and dislikes are very personal, but I have come up with a few reasons why names are declared STUPID:


What do you dislike in a name?

  • 1) Gender ambiguity
  • 2) Meaning of the name (concept)
  • 3) Form (the way it sounds and the associations it brings forth)
  • 4) Short (diminutive) form used as a full name
  • 5) Name is too common
  • 6) I just don’t like it
  • 7) Other
  • 8) All of the above
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Gender Ambiguity


There is a strong desire to keep names divided along the gender line – female versus male, girls versus boys. But as it often happens, there is some blending, some diffusion – boys get names that USED TO BE for girls and girls get names that USED TO BE for boys. It has been speculated that a name affects his or her bearer so strongly that girls with boys’ names become more masculine and boys with girls’ names become more feminine. I am not going to argue.


I know that sometimes when names cross a geographical border they cross the gender line as well. They become TRANSGRESSORS OR IS IT CROSS-DRESSERS? Long time ago Roman names RIMMA and INNA were male names. Now in Russia they became strictly female names.


Maybe Romans would have objected, but it is too little too late. They are all dead now. But the words live on.


A word spoken is past recalling.


Romans will be fine, but we have to accept this everlasting trend. Names migrate and they change their gender. They always did and they always will.


For example: NIKITA is a male name in Russia and it took me quite a while to get used to the idea that it became a girl’s name abroad. I do suffer from the same affliction, I thought it was STUPID. Then another name bothered me – MISHA Barton – MISHA is a male name, short for MICHAEL. But…I relaxed my views with age.


Why? Well, maybe where is MICHAEL, there is MICHAELA and then MISHA would be just fine except for the fact that it is a short form and that is another trend that I cannot stand – using short (diminutive) forms as full names. It sounds so immature. Can you imagine MISHA Gorbachev? I cannot and I don’t want to.


My first bout of “Stupid Names Intolerance”

...happened when my mother had bought me a present – “Dictionary of Russian First Names”. I opened it eager to find a mind-boggling variety of names. And I did, only the mind-boggling part of it was my shock that those names were NOT Russian by origin and most of them were completely unacceptable, in other words, STUPID.


For example:


Female: Hariessa (? – but it comes from the word Charisma)


Male: Sozont (? “zont” in Russian means “umbrella”, but in Greek it is “He who saves”)


You see? There is nothing wrong with the concept, but there is everything wrong with the way it sounds. No one, correction, no Russian parent would choose a name like that.



Where did these "RUSSIAN" names come from?


We love to collect, especially in our childhood. We collect mostly worthless things, but things that fascinate us. I keep things, but I am not a collector. My passion for COLLECTING names did not last too long, but my passion for names remained.


At the age of ten I started collecting … names. I was recording every name in a notebook, every name that I could find.


The problem was I could not find too many. All names in use seemed to be so common, so used and overused. In every class, there would be a few Svetlanas, a few Irinas, a few Marias, a few Natashas (Natalias), a few Yekaterinas… Same crap for male names. Russians lacked either imagination or they lacked names.


Lack of imagination is nothing else than conservatism, but what about lack of names? Why were the choices so limited?


It turned out to be that Slavic names were thrown to Dnieper when Russia took Christianity together with all pagan paraphernalia such as statues of Gods. New names were taken from the Bible and they were mostly Greek, Roman, and Jewish with a few additions here and there. I don’t think Russians ever became ardent believers or devout Christians, but they accepted and used new names. They accepted, but apparently they were not HAPPY. Why apparently? After the Revolution in 1917, religion was denounced, abolished, persecuted and one of the freedoms the Soviet (Russian) people got was freedom to choose names. Of course, there was a surge of ridiculous (STUPID) new names like REVOLUTION (female), but they did not make it in the long run. But those Biblical names that were inflicted on Russians a thousand years before did not make it in the long run either. And a thousand years is an awfully long run.


Nobody, nobody kept naming children with those abhorrently sounding Greek names. It’s not their stupidity that did them a disservice, it was only phonetics. Most of Greek names were too unpleasant to the Russian ears. It was all Greek to us and it was not SOUNDS OF MUSIC.


So, here we go. The majority of names used before Revolution was abandoned, but Russians never returned to the old Slavic names either. Now those names sounded STUPID (as in strange, unfamiliar, new) as well.


What was left?

Next to nothing.

Next to nothing.


Words are not only concepts, but words are SOUNDS!

MODEST


I don’t think anyone, correction, any Russian who speaks English will call their child MODEST or MODESTA. It is a modest, but not a HAPPY choice. Nothing wrong with the meaning, but I don’t like it.

SOSIPAT(E)R


What is your reaction? Something like “So? What is wrong with that?”

This Greek name actually means “to save” + “kin, father”.

Nothing criminal, so to speak, but to the Russian ear? A disaster.

Because the first part “SOSI” means suck, the whole thing sounds like “Suck your father”.

AKAKIOS


AKAKIOS (Akakiy) means “not evil”. It may mean “not evil”, but no normal Russian parent will choose a name that sounds almost like “defecate”. That would be EVIL. That is when we say STUPID.

Names originate in one language and then migrate. If in the original language they mean something “not evil” and most of the time really good, good, HAPPY things, in the host language they become phonetic combinations that get associated with… the closest PHONETIC combinations.


But it is JUST ME. I don’t denounce these names as STUPID. But some people do, they have long lists of names they don’t like and don’t accept. SIMON, ELECTRA, DAMIEN


I wrote a whole (long and winded) article trying to say that there is nothing wrong with the name SIMON(E).


Stupid Kid Names


Now there is a new list (long and winded) that I took from the web site Stupid Kid Names and while I don’t know most of those names (as never heard of them and have no idea what they mean), I got that unmistakable feeling of hatred so often associated with everything not to the likes of the people behind it.


I was puzzled why these names were proclaimed STUPID:


Achilles, Aidan, Allegra, Chloe…


I don’t have to like these names, but I find them quite acceptable.


Especially ALLEGRA. Happy, happiness.


Remember it is a concept. Those HAPPY names are used and accepted. In English? In English.


The problem with HAPPINESS is that you cannot make everybody HAPPY.


To some, ALLEGRA means HAPPY, while to others it is nothing more than a string of sounds… (that make them unhappy). ALLEGRA is a bad, foreign name, but what if the name is translated and instead of its form it would keep its meaning (concept)? What if a girl was called HAPPY?


Spectacular clip!

ALLEGRA makes you feel and it makes you feel strongly


As for the sound, please listen to the song – I can guarantee it will stir and elevate your emotions. This song ALLEGRA makes you feel and it makes you feel strongly. By the way, do you know what the name of the singer means? PETRA means “rock, stone”. If I had to choose between these two names, I would go for…

I am happy


In English, the name HAPPY would sound the same for a boy and a girl. Right? I am dreaming… Who in their right mind will call their child HAPPY?


In fact there are plenty names used in English language that mean HAPPY.


FELIX is just one of them. And you know what? I considered it for my son.


Only my husband thought it was STUPID. Was it?

Every time I would have called my son, I would have said:


HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY,

HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY,

HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY,

HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY,

HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY...............Go Lucky.



Remember WORDS have tremendous power and if you hear HAPPY every day, maybe you’ll become happier. Maybe our ancestors knew better after all.


Do you think that Allegra, Allegria and all its forms are acceptable and "normal"?

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What about name Happy?

  • It's stupid
  • I accept it for others but not for my child
  • I accept it unconditionally
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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Svetlana, this is an extremely interesting and well-written hub!

For centuries down here in South Africa, Western parents named their children according to a specific code of conduct. First son was named after the father’s father and the second after the mother’s father, BUT the first daughter was named after the mother’s mother…. And so on and so forth. One child could have been ‘cursed’ with up to four names. One of the names would be converted into a nickname – i.e. Martha = Martie, Catherina = Rina.

My generation started to reject family names, but not completely. They would combine the names of the mother’s mother and the father’s mother, for instance Martha plus Catherina = Marina...

Parents of today don’t care at all about family names. They search all over for a name with a good sound and meaning, or they will coin something based on the name of the father or mother. For example my daughter’s eldest is called Dané (Danay) after her father, Daniël. The second, Mia, contains accidentally (and to my delight) letters of my name, but it is also, accidentally, a diminutive of her mother’s name (which is also my mother’s), Wilhelmina. My daughter-in-law named her daughter Juneane, after the month she was born, and then she decided her son’s name should also start with a J, so she called him Julian.

The traditional black’s in our country have the most interesting names, because the babies were observed for a couple of weeks before they were named after their personality or a specific emotion or event at the time of their birth. Many of them were in fact named ‘Happy’, of course in the relevant language. These children became very proud of their names and tried to live up to its meaning. For example, Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela. Like all black children he was given a ‘Christian’ name, or at least a ‘Western’ name – Nelson - because the Westerns could not pronounced African names. (And they still can’t.) Rolihlahla means "troublemaker", so already as a baby he revealed his potential to make trouble, which he indeed made for the whites until he finally succeeded in his mission to get the unjust regime of ‘Apartheid’ demolished. (The letters ‘hl’ in his name is a clicking sound made by the tongue against the middle-to-back of the palate.)

Sorry for this l o n g comment, Svetlana, but I thought it would be relevant to this most interesting hub of yours.


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you, Martie, for your comment. I did not know anything about naming "code of conduct" in South Africa, neither for whites nor for blacks and I found it utterly illuminating.

Do not even think about apologizing for a long comment, it was lovely. I think you almost wrote a hub and if you want it, I would "delete" it and you can publish it as your own work (which it is).

Combining names? Does it always work? My mother planned to name me after either grandmother: Anastassia or Nina.

Do you think those could be combined:

Anasstassia + Nina = ?

I do not have enough imagination for it.

The way blacks name their children as equally fascinating.

"Nelson Troublemaker Mandela" - could be a great hub name. You write fast and in an engagingly flowing manner, why don't you do it?

The beauty about names is that every "name" has a story and every child has a "naming" story, sometimes a story of a combat between parents or extended family. I've enough heard stories and even mine... both for me and for Daniel are stories of disagreement and disappointment.

This "happy" story was a sidetrack from my son's naming story... I hope to finish it.

Thank you again,


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Twilight Lawns 4 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

An excellent and thoroughly entertaining hub, Svetlana.

I laughed, I smiled, I was entranced by the Enya video. How really beautiful to watch.

My mother was a clever woman, Her name, Ann, she loved, but her whole family, and therefore nearly everybody in the village called her Annie... which she hated,

I don't like diminutives and neither did she, so when I decided to appear, she chose a name for me that can not be shortened, and there isn't a diminutive form, and one can't even add "y" or "ie".

So it's Ian... Plain and simple, and cannot be bastardised.

Ian is the Scots version of John - Gift of God (That's me).

She had considered naming me with the Welsh version of the name, which is Ioan. She was Welsh, so it would have been appropriate. But I am so glad she didn't because it is a somewhat difficult name to pronounce.

Once again; great hub. I've marked it UP and INTERESTING, and because I laughed out loud while reading it, there's a FUNNY as well.

Thank you for brightening up a Sunday evening for me.


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you, Ian for such a lovely comment.

I am glad you could laugh.

I agree we all have our preferences for names.

Some people do not want them shortened, some people do not want them lengthened.

Indeed Ian is a variation of John. But look at the way it was shortened from the original Hebrew form

Ioann - I(o)an(n).

If you look at it this way, your mother’s name Ann is contained within Ioann.

The name Ioann came to Russia in its original form but somewhere in 16th – 17th century even Ioann the Terrible was referred to as Ivan the Terrible and as some say Ivan The Awesome.

In English Ian has two syllables, but in Russian there is another reduction to Yan. “Ya” is one sound similar to German “Ja” and represented by one letter. Even though the name Yan is short as it could be (two letters only), there are plenty of diminutives. I like diminutives, but I also take a consideration what a name bearer wants. I ask how can I call a person and I respect the wishes, I think it is the very least we can do to show respect.

Ever since I introduce myself as Dolores it is another comedy. I might write about it if I have time – if before people were messing with Svetlana (we cannot pronounce it, can I call you Lana?), now once they hear Dolores they WANT to call me Svetlana. What is your real name? What is your legal name?

Now I have a temptation to change my names more often. Why not? It’s fun once in a while.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Well, I was the only one (for now anyway) who answered the last question with: "I accept it unconditionally". Cheers to the whoever said: "It's stupid". Haha!!

I have to accept it ... it was given to me, what else can I do? Or why not?

"The problem with HAPPINESS is that you cannot make everybody HAPPY." - No, it is not a coincidence that I am promoting Angelo Belliotti's book "Happiness is Overrated". Ya, I'm overrated ... for sure! Haha ...

Gotta read the book - I do not comment on it except to say that it is a great text, worth every penny and the time for sure. I should know ...

Thank You for the ride again Kallini and thank You so much for the dedication. You know a lot about names ... I'm nowhere that informed. I actually do not care much about names - I think they're just labels which people put on us. I have many too - everyone who meets me seems to give me a nickname. I'm fine with it, I don't care; whatever works ...

Thank You for putting this together, for sure! Loved the songs too: the Albano and Romina Power was fabulous, a favorite since I was a kid and all the others too. My Tatone (Montepulciano D'Abruzo 2007) goes great with the Alegria song. Cheers! : )

Happy-happy joy-joy!


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

You are very welcome, Mr. Happy, but I have to admit that I went for a ride myself. This article was not intended and it started with just stupid names with no happiness in sight.

It was almost ready when I came across Allegra and I said to myself - "What is wrong with Happiness?"

Right or wrong, but for me Happiness and You are a very strong association. And even though I did not read the book, I read the excerpts (out of curiosity) and I agree - it is a must read. When I have time I intend to read it.

We all have our interests, so names were always an interest for me, even more so - a passion.

So, that is why I keep writing about them.

Thank you for reading and enjoy the wine, it is a good choice for an evening like that!


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Twilight Lawns 4 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

Thanks for pointing out that the Weslh spelling of my name is probably a direct transfer from the Hebrew. Ioann with the last "n" removed, I didn't know that. The Welsh are a pretty religious group... well the ones in my mother's village were when she was a young girl, so maybe...

One learns every day, Svetlana... err... Dolores.

But a rose, by any other name would smell as sweet... and in your case, write as exceptionally well.

Thanks, my friend.


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randslam 4 years ago from Kelowna, British Columbia

Thanks, Kallini, for a hub that informs and invites along with some silliness...for added happiness factor...lol.

I've always been intrigued by names, because so often, even when a person doesn't know the meaning of their own name--the label seems to fit.

My own theory involving the 'what's in a name' quest resides there--even if you don't know what your name means it very likely describes elements of your nature and personality.

If more people looked at the importance of naming one's children with purpose maybe it would be a happier world?

However, the diminishing of names as the Christian Russian example fascinated me--shows the limitations that one's theology can place on parents--and their children.

Good hub...with lots more to say...but I don't want to name call anymore than I already have.


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Dear Ian:

While I was pondering my answer to your comment and went to check your name specifically and I was surprised to see the results - one learns every day INDEED! - I did learn more about your name,

but the real shock was

when I came across my own name. For the first time in my life I discovered that it is not an old Slavic name even though it sounds like it

it was invented. In 1802 for a romantic song. The article contains way too much information and my internet access is limited for a few days, so I will read it later. The source is a saga in a sense.

One does learn every day.

And Ian is a beautiful name.

Your mother was a very wise woman.


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you, Randslam, for your comment. I am pleased to meet someone who is also intrigued and interested in names. I find that names have very deep roots in history, sociology, liguistics and personal stories. I agree that a name influences character development, but it makes a difference what exactly a name bearer “hears”. If the name is a part of the language and therefore the meaning of it is clear such as Victoria, Earnest, Gloria, June, April and such…. It is one story. Meanings of foreign names are not transparent, therefore the subconcious mind makes phonetic associations.

[for example, Slavic names would influence us quite differently – Vladimir, Dragomir, Bogdan, Miroslav – unless you speak the language, they are “empty” for you]

There were studies showing

That Laura is more likely to become a lawyer

Dennis is more likely to become a dentist

Alexis would be better at math…

But it is a long story, of course. I don’t write research papers on names or treteases – that would take all my life to learn about names, I simply write lyrical essays sharing my thoughts on a subject.

I am trying to express myself and to pique curiosity of my readers. Maybe they will look into their own names, the names used in their families, the meanings, the history…

I felt it, too, that the Russian Orthodox Church had robbed the nation of its cultural heritage, but if you have to think about what Churches/Religion is capable of – that is not the worst (compared t crusades, massacres, inquisition, burning witches, etc.)

I wrote an article a year ago and I thought I said everything I wanted to say about names. Even though, the premise was to write about my own name, but after having read it again, I realized it was more about concepts rather than one single name.

Just a few days ago, doing a light research for another “name” article – What a beautiful Russian name! – something that I wanted to write for ages – I came across the information that my name is not an old Slavic name. It was coined in 1802 for a poetic personage. The article is very long and I intend to read it, but in essence I felt like

We never know. We never know enough. Even such trivial subject matter as names can be looked at from so many different angles. Every single name as a thread – if followed – can lead into the Cave of Wonders.


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randslam 4 years ago from Kelowna, British Columbia

So very true, Kalline, even my own uncle had no idea what his last name--which is the same as mine--meant.

Our family has mysterious European roots that likely date back to the tribe of Levi in the old testament...the name is Zacharias.

In the Peasant, Low German that my uncle was so used to speaking, the last name meant "sugar water." In essence, the Hebraic meaning of our last name means "God has remembered." He had no clue of the origins of our family name and, therefore, had lived 70 years without a clear understanding of his own unique surname.

It is misunderstandings like this that can turn what is perceived by one as a "sweet" name into a very significant 'name shield' that one bears.

It was simply in the sound of the name in Low German that brought him to believe he was "sugar water," instead of a quick study into the genesis of his own name bearing the responsibility of a deity's memory.

Silly, huh?


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Anasstassia + Nina could become in my language Anina, Anine, Anastine, Tasnia, Natasni, and so on....

Ian in Afrikaans is Jan. Diminutive: Jannie.

The comments in here is as interesting as your hub, Svetlana :)


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Oh, I don’t find it silly at all. If even now it is hard to trace etymology of certain words and there might be limited interest by linguists only, how could you expect the general public to even wonder? What does this or that mean? We think that we understand. Until we learn something and realize that we had no idea.

Just today I was browsing a linguistic section and while I had no time to read, one fact jumped off someone’s article. That someone by the name Noah Chomsky had a theory that people tend to express themselves in a similar way and the understanding is universal. An example was simple (simplistic if you want) “a black car” – it would be understood regardless of a particular language that a car has a black exterior, not interior. My reaction? I take it in, it seems very logical… Later in the day, I browse another article and there is information about Slavic names – Light(part2) or Black(part2) names would refer to the hair colour. It makes sense, too. To me. In fact, I remember when I immigrated to Canada during the first couple of years when I was describing people I was “translating” from Russian sentences and sometimes it changed the meaning. When we refer to a person as “black”, we refer to the hair colour. “He is black”. It is so AUTOMATIC, that it took me a while to stop and think. There were a lot of moments when structure affected meaning and I would not know as much if I did not have to struggle for clarity. It is the 2nd, 3rd and so forth languages teach you to understand your own better and better. And it also sparks interest. Before, we tend to take OUR OWN language for granted.

Even now I am not always aware that certain words in Russian and English are practically the same. They do not sound identical, but when put together, it just jumps out. The latest “revelation” was the word “crash”. In Russian it sounds “Krakh”. In fact there are way too many words in European languages that are interconnected that I began questioning to what degree Slavic languages are indeed Slavic? When fundamental words are practically the same?

And speaking of Sweet Water – Zucker Wasser, Sugar Water, Sakhar Woda

And “Sakhar” (sugar) sounds almost like Zakhar (Russified version of Zacharius). But without you I would not notice it. You have lived long enough with this word… I find it all simply amazing.


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Martie – you are more creative with combinations than I – maybe you had more practice at it, as well. But does it not constitute creation of new names that is frowned upon?

I wonder what you would choose for yourself if your mother informed you that there were only two choices – Anasstassiya or Nina. I did not want Nina, but that name is less common and what could have been really a deciding factor for my mother in choosing between those two names – Nina went much better with my patronymic and last name. We have to think about it, too.

That was one of the reasons some names I suggested for “Daniel” did not get an approval – they created some awkward phonetic combinations with his last name. But if I got “understanding and agreement” with his Dad – I would have gone for a Slavic name. I’ll write that story later. And if I really, really, really have time – I would write a story about my own name – it turns out its story is truly unique and I had NO idea until a few days ago. We don’t know our own history.


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aethelthryth 4 years ago from American Southwest

In my experience (usually but not always), children with unusual names are usually named by the mother, and "normal" names are usually the father's idea. I noticed this after a couple named Jim and Susan argued about children's names. Jim, having grown up with a "normal" name, wanted the same for his children. Susan, having grown up with a "normal" name, wanted her children to have something more interesting. (They compromised, on normal-sounding but rare names.)

My husband, who has an unusual name (picked by his mother), wanted our children not to have to go what he went through. I have what is now an unusual name, but in my generation, a very common name, so I thought it would be nice to be the only kid in the classroom with one's name!

So that is how I ended up with the name "Aethelthryth" on HubPages, because my husband did not want a daughter to have to live with a name nobody could spell, and I wanted to use such an interesting name somewhere!


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank you, aethelthryth, for your comment. I did not think it was a real name until you told me - I am not an expert in names, but I looked it up -

http://www.pronouncenames.com/aethelthryth -

of course, it is a difficult name to pronounce - for me!

but in an English speaking country, it should not be a problem. At least it would be my assumption. (My struggle is with "th" sounds simply because there are no such thing in Russian as "th").

In any case, it is a choice and having a difficult name can have two distinct outcomes -

some children go through "torture" from others who dislike everything unusual, ab-normal

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they learn how to fight for themselves, their names included. I saw a living proof of that when a Spaniard was named with a typical Russian name. He was fighting for it like a lion all his childhood.

I wanted a special name for my son, but I went for peace in the family. I wrote that story

http://www.pronouncenames.com/aethelthryth

So, I think, when it comes to names, there are no stupid names - there are choices.

I honestly believe that a child must have a say in choosing a name.

If a person is conservative, then s/he will go will a common name.

If a person is more creative, then s/he will go will a more unique, rare name. (I chose a pen name - Dolores, well, there are reasons. But when I warmed up to the idea of having multiple names, I can accept changing them daily. Just for fun!)

In any case, it is in our adulthood we are capable of standing up for our own choices. Children are ill prepared for that.

Maybe you will consider writing your own naming story as well.

And thank you again for letting me know of such a beautiful name as yours.

All the best,

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