Cause and effect of Teenage Pregnancy

How Could This Be Happening To Me..

Why did my father think I needed to see a Doctor. I was naive ,I really had not considered that I might be one of those young mothers that go through an unplanned pregnancy.

All the teenage pregnancy videos and information seem to flood through my mind. One video below is to help encourage and motivate you to see past the panic and unknown. Your teenage pregnancy video on pregnancy may be different ,but with a strong determination and good support the end results will be a happy an healthy mother and child.

Somewhere deep down in my gut ,because my father had been right about so many other things in life ,he just may be right about this thing too.OK I took time off work ,(again) so what I felt nauseous, no biggie, I worked in a factory ,probably some virus going around.

The week before that I did feel kinda weird,couldn't stop peeing,my girl-friend teased me about catching something nasty in the bathroom! but they had creams for that didn't they ?or was I having pregnancy symptoms?. I learned later this symptom was indeed a cause and effect of pregnancy

Life was good,wouldn't say great but it was ok .I had a cute boyfriend, no debts ,roof over my head ,week-ends free.Still,17 my biggest worry was time ,would I have enough time to get home ,shower,run to the shoe store (literally) before they closed ,then home again and look the picture perfect model of sweetness and serenity for my boyfriend when he knocked on the door at 7pm. Could never understand why my Dad wasn't more hospitable ,he really did need to relax more.

My Priorities were fine thank-you very much!

What If Its Positive.?...What will be the cause and effect of Pregnancy

Being Pregnant
Being Pregnant

That Doctors Appointment ,Pregnancy Symptoms

Doctors Appointment was scheduled for later in the day.Our family doctor was a second father to me ( not that I voted him into this role) such was the culture in a small town.plus he had taken care of my mother during her battle with cancer two years earlier so not only did he perform the usual medical tests he also delivered a lecture on dating ,and consequences for my stupidity. When he paused for a moment ,he asked me if I had any questions? Did I understand the causes and effects of pregnancy.

I got the feeling I was supposed to know all the answers ,and I muttered or nodded yes to most of his questions.

Just one I muttered How long will this virus last? I can still hear his laughter and he replied 9 months.

Being Pregnant, life would never be the same! I am a teenager having a baby

Find Good Support and Teenage Pregnancy Information

Emotions

Reliable Support was my biggest help way back then and fortunately for me, my dad stood by me and challenged my boyfriends long term goals,commitments and all those other grown up things. He was for many years practical ,and wise. The authorities pressured me to adopt and once when I was napping I woke to hear my father ordering some lady off his property.

My relationship with my boyfriend continued ,we thought we were in love, and so long as no long term commitments were a priority we kind of just coasted along ,like friends except one of them was pregnant. Eventually the routine of 'settling down' and domesticity bored the hell outta him and he felt the allure of greener pastures calling . I was devastated and didn't feel 'better off' as I heard my dad mention to a brother of mine. Being pregnant changed alot of things.

Friends of mine were not pregnant ,so while one or two remained in my life ,eventually we all did separate things.Those days were often lonely , I read a lot and grew restless with my environment.

Getting Closer

She Wasnt Prepared For This
She Wasnt Prepared For This

It Gets Better Hang In

Reality

Truth is most teenagers are not prepared for the cause and effects of pregnancy ,certainly not the emotional side of pregnancy or how to prevent pregnancy .

Sure they know what can happen , but to me? , no ( and all the reasons make sense at the time) Like I said I was fortunate to have at least a supportive Dad ( my mum had died 4yrs previous),so while I still felt like a fish outta water ,I wasn't completely alone.

Some days were easy and some days hard. I never had the opportunity to get pregnancy tips and education about sex attitudes and common misconceptions just was not available to me as a teenager. The causes and effects of pregnancy are learned easily in a loving ,supportive family atmosphere.

Coming from a large family myself, I guess the lesson on preventing pregnancy was around the corner but all the same I never considered abortion, I was raised with the attitude ,if you're old enough to have sex ,you're old enough to learn to be a parent, plus the attitude that a baby is arriving whether you wanted it or not!

So do the next best thing and learn the basics of pregnancy ,whats happening to my body, what to expect ? is this normal , is this abnormal? find information (like the groups listed below)

Yes I was still a child myself in many ways ,but time for that child to grow up ,and fast. Others survived and so will I.

Preparing to meet a Star Initial shock was over and hormones had settled down I prepared and became excited for this precious new life to hit the world stage ,well mine anyway.


Welcome Little One

Pleased to meet you
Pleased to meet you

Lets Get This Show Started..

Welcome Little One

Born during a storm , perfectly formed, and arriving with no pre-conceived ideas of how your life should be.

Babies Needs are simple and basic. What they need most is you ,you to love them ,hold them , talk to them , and care for them.

Food , A Place to Sleep ,Clothes ,Blankets


You Can Do It !

This Too Shall Pass

We muddled our way through the years and finally relocated to a larger city. We adapted together ,you began school and I went back to school ,we made new friends.

Eventually I married and went on to have three more equally beautiful children ,talented ,caring and loving .

Stars in my life and precious all the way through!

Supportive Networks

If you need help, or just plain afraid, reach out, and call someone.

You don't have to be alone in this.Online help is available and quick ,but I encourage you to find real people to interact with too. Caring genuine ,people who have maybe been there, or simply want to help.

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thelesleyshow 7 years ago from US

Great hub! Children are such a blessing from God and should be treated as such. Thumbs up!


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Thankyou for stopping by and for the thumbs up , appreciate the encouragement.


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trooper22 7 years ago from Chicago

I am humbled. This is a great hub.


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Thankyou ,Im so glad to have gotten it off my chest and most of it all hope it will maybe give maybe just one person hope.


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

ie. Thankyou so much Trooper ,nobody ever cared enough to make the suggestions you did Im really grateful.


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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

sounds like you were very lucky in your Dad - but it must have been tough to lose your mother when you were so young.

Does the father have contact with your child now?


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Yes I was lucky ,my dad was a very strong and down to earth kinda man. It was very tough losing my mum and I missed her many times for all kinds of different reasons. It wasnt til I gave my heart to Jesus did my healing begin. The son I gave birth to as a teen is now 35 , married ,beautiful personality and a kind soul. He sought out his dad around the age of 18, doesnt have contact with him now. He probably counts his step-dad as more of his father.

Thanks for reading and leaving a comment.


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LondonGirl 7 years ago from London

I'm one of four children too - having lots of siblings is fun! Do you have grandchildren?


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

No grand-children (yet). Im one of nine children, and yes fun and madness. Family re-union minus our mum n dad was incredible and my American hubby got to met most of them ( oh my thats a whole hub on its own) lol


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Thanks for reading and commenting BC oh life is what you make it huh, and even when ya get that curved ball either learn to duck or give it ya best shot! lol


JessicaEmm 7 years ago

great hub!!x

what age were yuuh when yuuh had yuur child??x


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Hey JessicaEmm sorry ive taken so long to reply. I was 17 yrs old when I became pregnant.


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Sunny Robinson 7 years ago from Tennessee

This is a beautiful hub. :) I loved this, it touched my heart very deeply.


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Aww..thankyou so much ,I am glad it meant something to you, and in turn your sharing has encouraged me....to your best life -ekiwi


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no body 7 years ago from Rochester, New York

Your story touched my heart.  Children are God's precious gifts.  My first wife and I never could have children naturally.  She lost two.  We adopted two beautiful children that immediately were MINE.  Thank you for not killing your baby.  After my ex and I split up and I was paying child support and hoping to get back with her, she became pregnant. It could not be mine because we had been apart a little over a year. One day she came to me and said she was considering coming back to me because of being pregnant. It was said so matter-of-factly that I just reeled!  I took her seriously and after a few moments I tried to think of something to say.  I guess the shock and everything showed in my face because she said she got her answer and she simply left.  I called the next day to say I would be there for her, but she said that the "procedure" was scheduled for later that week.  I called and begged her not to do it - don't kill your baby. I would raise it as mine or just simply pay child support or anything! but please don't kill that precious child.  She did.  and I mourn for a life that I knew I would never have had an impact on, even if it had lived but I still mourn.  So thank you for being a decent and noble woman, much to be admired.


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Thankyou for showing your appreciation ,and most of all for expressing your emotional pain from the past. I was blessed to have a wise father who could look past his disappointment and help his daughter who he loved ,frustrated too because he knew my sons father would not be mature enough to live up to his responsibilties either then or later. So thankyou for your compliments but I am not noble , actually I was terrified ,but babies (new life) can never be compromised ( my opinion).and I just wish I could help someone out there ,like my dad once helped me.

I can tell you have a caring and kind heart , God Bless you. The life he gives ,although not in your life I believe is safe with Him ( in fact , he has promised to be Father to the Fatherless) so dont be sad anymore.

Thankyou for commenting and one last thing ,that baby I talk about in my hub is a now a wonderful husband and manager for a power company , so he really did become a kind of star, lol.


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no body 7 years ago from Rochester, New York

Praise God that He is a father to the fatherless. I become sad when I think of the pain that you and others have gone through. God uses pain to mold us into the image of Christ. Even Captain Kirk, in one of the awful Star Trek movies, when offered a chance to lose every painful moment he ever went through said, "I need my pain. It makes me what I am." I don't know who wrote that line in the movie but I say that's wisdom. God changes pain into character if we let Him. I thank you for your heart as well because you don't want me to hurt anymore. So I guess in Jesus we can care and love each other to health.


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sequoiablessed 7 years ago from USA

God Bless you on your journey of Love! Very good HUB, my only suggestion is to write in a word program that will correct your grammer. Many typos and such. Content is great!


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Eaglekiwi 7 years ago from -Oceania Author

Hi sequoiablessed

Thankyou for reading and indeed you comments!. I appreciate your feedback and critque-to your best life ,Ekiwi.


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htodd 4 years ago from United States

Nice post..Thanks


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Eaglekiwi 4 years ago from -Oceania Author

Thank-you for your feedback.


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Rodric29 4 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

It is good for kids to get here in a family with a father and mother who love each other and will welcome us with love.

It is good to get here at all.

I teen mom is better than no mom. We should lovingly help all mothers raise their children by being supportive of the life and not judging her because of the act of doing it outside of the tradition


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Eaglekiwi 4 years ago from -Oceania Author

hello Rodric

Thank you for your comments.

Judging badly helps no one. It is a good thing to forgive and make the community and the world a better place ultimately.


William Robinson 4 years ago

Hi everybody nice to hear that from u kuyzzz it was challenging myself of being a man in the future an im so blessed bwt ya story, nice wun lolz


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Eaglekiwi 4 years ago from -Oceania Author

Thanks William Robinson for dropping by.

To Your Best Life~

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