Teenage Sleep-Overs With The Opposite Sex : Should It Be Allowed
There are liberal families and non-liberal families. I believe as parents we are role models and have to make the choice of either parenting or allowing our teenagers to be expressive. CNN reported in early 2011 that the birth rate for teenage girls, ages, 15 to 19, in 2009 had a decrease of 37 percent from 1991. There was approximately 410,000 babies born to young mothers' in the same year. That calculates to 39.1 births per a 1,000 women. Although pregnancies have decreased there are still far to many babies being born. There are teens who are either practicing abstinence or they taking some form of contraception. The CDC had also reported that teenagers were acting more responsibly than many have in the last decade. But still the amount of births are to high with an average of 1,100 teenage girls giving birth everyday as reported in 2011.
When you allow teenagers to sleep-over you are giving them an opportunity to co-habitat with permission. Why would any parent make it permissible? Many teenagers are not financially capable of providing for a child nor have they even completed an education. They are dependent upon their parents to provide shelter, food and clothing.
Not many parents wish to have the responsibility of a newborn, especially when there own children are almost grown. A majority of parents who have became grandparents early, have been accepting or send them on their way to fiend for themselves.
Being a parent is complicated enough but when you have an unexpected announcement your home can be turned upside down.
So to answer the question asked by MistyHorizon2003, should a teenager be allowed to have the opposite gender sleep-over? I am going to have to say no. You are opening up to many doors when you allow the opposite sex to stay the night. You are acting irresponsible as a parent and should not be so liberal. Teenagers may get upset, but you have to create boundaries. They have to respect your decisions while they are at home.
Should we trust our teenagers?
Yes. But we should not give them an opportunity to make any type of irrational decisions that they clearly do not understand. We should be teaching them abstinence before marriage and talking to our kids about the repercussions of unwanted pregnancies. We need to explain to them what intimacy and relationships are and not give approval by allowing them to coherse in our home.
If they wish to watch a movie, have dinner or do things with the family then I completely agree. But I believe a young man should respect the boundaries that are given. If the young woman is trying to cross those boundaries, then he should be respectful and refrain.
So long as I am a parent and have morals, there will not be any asking permission nor spending the night with the opposite gender. If any parent allows that to happen, knowing the possibilities of intimacy then that is their choice. But for this mom. As the big bad wolf said, "Not by the hair of my chinny, chin, chin."
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