Tell Your Child How Much You Love Him - Telling Your Children You Love Them

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Don't Wait Until its too Late

Right now, before you read this, go tell your child how much you love and appreciate him or her. Go on - I'll still be here when you get back.

Monday

Monday, usually a dreaded day, started out nicely for me. It strayed from the norm quite a bit and I got to sleep in an extra hour. I usually get up at 6:30 am to get my kids up, make them breakfast, get them dressed, and get them to the bus. But on this particular Monday, none of that happened. On this particular Monday my husband, who usually leaves for work in the wee hours of the morning, was still home when my alarm sounded. It turns out he had a late appointment close to home and was able to get up a little bit later. As soon as I realized my husband hadn't left for work yet I started begging him to take our 7 year old to the bus for me. He agreed to it, much to my utter surprise, and woke all three of our children and made them breakfast while I lazed on the couch. It was a fantastic feeling and I was glad to take my time waking up; I had a killer sinus headache, my ears were buzzing from drainage, and it was raining out to boot. When it was time for my husband and my daughter to leave, I got up and gave them both a kiss goodbye and went back to the couch to my flannel blanket of comfort.

When I finally got my behind off the couch I played with my other two children for a short time - too short of a time as they were not ready for me to go in the other room to my computer. But I had to sign on to see how many views my hubs had gotten while I was sleeping and to see if I had any new comments. You see, HubPages.com has become an addition of mine and I check my status continually. My Mom was online so I sent her an instant message and we chatted for a few minutes. Just as I was signing offline, my husband called my cell phone on his way to work. He wanted to tell me about his appointment of the morning. While I was talking to my husband, I heard my back screen door open. All at once several things entered my mind; I remembered I didn't lock the door behind me after I let the dog out to go potty, I pondered the thought that maybe it was my Mom since she usually comes in without knocking, and then I realized I had just chatted with her online a second ago. As I was mentioning the noise at the screen door to my husband I heard a loud, forceful knock. I peeped through the tiny hole in the storm door but could not see anyone. With my ferocious sounding dog at my side and my husband on the phone, I opened the storm door, thinking it was probably a delivery from UPS or FedEx - it is the holidays after all. Much to my complete surprise, a uniformed policeman stood on my porch. I quickly hung up with my husband and I could feel my forehead scrunch up with confusion as I stared at the policeman, but I couldn't help it. Being the paranoid worry-wart that I am, I immediately thought of my sweet little girl that had left for school just a short time earlier. I knew nothing was wrong with my Mom or my husband because I had just talked to both.

This is my ferocious dog, Meatball
This is my ferocious dog, Meatball

I struggled with my dog to get out the screen door for what felt like 20 minutes. We both competed aggressively for the same small opening I had created to get onto the porch. Finally, I gave my dog a shove on the nose to make him move back and I was able to exit without him on my heels. The whole ordeal must have been quite the spectacle, because the policeman looked as entertained as a policeman can look. In my most professional voice, I asked the policeman "May I help you?" What the heck, was I back at work all of a sudden? Or was I simply shocked into submission by the uniform? The reason didn't matter because the policeman explained that he was looking for a missing kid that never made it to school that morning. Realizing I hadn't physically seen my daughter get on the bus this morning, the first thing I said was, "IS IT MINE?!" I couldn't help but yell it. The policeman quickly calmed my nerves by telling me it was not my child. At that moment, all desire to be professional went flying out the window as I lunged toward him in relief, maybe even saying a few swear words, to thank him for not bringing me that news. Then I realized, even if it wasn't my kid missing, it was still someone's kid missing. The policeman explained that a boy had left a note for his parents saying that he was sorry to be such a bother and that he had run away from home. The policeman wanted permission to search my property and any buildings on it to see if the kid had ducked for cover from the rain. It was good thinking on the policeman's part because I do indeed have several unlocked vehicles, an unlocked motor home, and an unlocked buck barn in my yard. Of course I gave the permission and even told him of a few more ideal hiding places on my property. Sadly, he did not find the missing boy and told me to call immediately if I notice anyone out of the ordinary. I promised I would indeed call if I noticed anything at all. With that, the policeman moved on to my neighbor's yard.

I went back in the house and walked in to my children, my heart still pounding from the adrenaline rush. I hugged my babies and told them how much I love them and thank God for them every day. My 4 year old hugged me back and told me she wanted to be my best friend forever.

Not my barn and yard, but a similar look  http://www.flickr.com/photos/powi
Not my barn and yard, but a similar look http://www.flickr.com/photos/powi

I kept checking my yard throughout the day hoping to find the missing boy, but I never did find him. As the temperatures dropped into the upper teens last night, I hoped he had been found and was home safe and sound. And I also hoped that if he was found, his parents give him a huge hug and told him how much they love him and that he is not a bother at all. I know his parents care about him and love him tremendously because they acted so quickly. When the school notified them that their child had not made it to school, they must have dropped everything to go home and check on him, where they found the note. They must have called the police immediately because everything took place so early in the morning that he couldn't have been missing for long.

I know many Americans are worried about their financial futures right now. Everything is declining rapidly and right at the holidays, but please be sure to let your children know they are important to you and that they are a special part of your family.

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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast

Ardie wonderful hub!! Very touching. I tell my children everyday how much I love them and make sure to give them hugs and kisses often. It is truly important. Being a mom when I hear about missing children my heart always sinks into my gut. If you have ever had that moment when you can't find your child it is heart wrenching even for a few seconds or minutes, I cannot even imagine what that mother and father were going through and I hope that the child was found. Thanks for sharing!!


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Thank you very much. It broke my heart too, for the parents and the kid. I just want to call the police and see if they found him, but I know I just cant do that. I always tell my kids I love them too and give them hugs and kisses. But the event made me think of something I often say to my 7 year old that I'll never say again. See, once she gets home from school, yelling and fighting and little sisters crying happens a lot. I used to tell her that the other two would be good all day until she came home. I will never tell her that again, I don't want her to think she is a bother to me. Yesterday when she came home I just told her how nice it was to have her back from school.


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

Anyone who is a parent knows that instant gut check of what matters in life. great hub.


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debi56 7 years ago from bremerton

That was wonderful, we often take things for granted but we never know how much time we have with our loved ones. I hope and will pray for the child and the parents. Let us know if he was found.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi goldentoad, Yah - it was definitely an eye-opener that I need to watch what I say to my kids. Unfortunately, Im not perfect and I have a tendency to run my mouth... I still checked my yard all day today...I wonder how long I'll keep doing that.

Hi debi56, I never did hear anything more about the kid. I don't want to call and bother the police since Im not close to the family or anything. However, I didn't hear anything on the news last night asking people to keep an eye out for him, so Im hoping that means he made it home. I would think with the below freezing temps they would have said something.


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Ken Devonald 7 years ago from Edinburgh

Hi Ardie,

Very true, it is essential to tell your kids you love them - I do it all the time, both my nineteen year old daughter ("yeah, and I love you too - deep down!") and my 21 year old son who has just made us grandparents ("yeah, me too"). And as for hugs and kisses, they can struggle all they want... they ain't getting away!


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Good Lord, man...I am not ready for the day when my kids are in the double digits :) Sadly, my 7 year old recently decided to struggle to get away from the kisses when the school bus pulled up. So...I tackled her to the ground and gave her a giant bear hug. Needless to say, the next day she was more than ready for a simple kiss goodbye.


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Ken Devonald 7 years ago from Edinburgh

Good for you Ardie! Keep it up it is good for their inner confidence - I spent most of my childhood & youth being hugged by someone or other - I was just adorable I thought! Then I reached my fifties and realised - God Damn It - They Were Right - I Am Adorable! :-)

Take care and keep loving 'em, even when they come home with tattoos, fines for drinking with under-age friends, black eyes from getting falling down drunk and any other mischief they get up to.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Yes, the tattoos will be an issue. I don't have any, but my husband has 10 and counting. But I will surely love them even with dragons on their tummies. :)


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Wayne Litchford 7 years ago from Nashville, TN

Ardie,

Very well written. You had me at "Right now". A riveting and very moving story. My children are all grown. Whenever they leave our house it's always with a hug and a "I love you" (and a "Be Careful" because, you know, they really never do...grow up)!


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Nayberry 7 years ago from nayphat@yahoo.com

Great hub! I tell my kids that I love so much that I think that they are getting tired of hearing it. lol

I would not know what to do if anything ever happened to any one of my four. Thanks for the wonderful hub. As a mother, you can bet it touched my heart.

Tootles!!


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi Wayne, I completely understand where you are coming from. Even though my kids arent yet grown, I still tell them and anyone else in my family that I love them and to be careful! I even tell my Mom to be careful any time she goes anywhere :)

Hi Nayberry, Thank you. I bet its better for your kids to be sick of you than to wonder if you care. When I was younger, Id get annoyed with my Mom for being too protective, but I always knew she cared about me. Your kids will appreciate it too :)


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christinekv 7 years ago from Washington

Love the picture of your dog and what a great name! I sure hope they found the boy. Nice hub Ardie and such a great reminder, to hug and kiss and love on our beloved children every day!


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi christinekv, Thank you. It reminded me that know matter how often I think it, I need to make sure I tell my children how much I love them. I never did hear about the boy...Im hoping they found him. (And my dog, he actually acts like a real meatball)


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Ardie- Such a touching story. Btw you can call the cops who told you to inform them if you find anybody just to enquire if he was actually found or not. A kid in a moment of anger may do something for which the whole family will forever not be the same. I hope they did find him otherwise it would be very sad. Can you please call even now? I will check this comments section to hear the news (hopefully good news).


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Lgali 7 years ago

nice picture of dog and hub


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi countrywomen, thanks for stopping in :) I was worried I would be impeding efforts if I contacted the police. But I have still been thinking and worrying, so maybe for my own piece of mind, I should call. What can it hurt? I will call them and get back to the hub shortly for an update.

Lgali, thank you! My dog is such a ham. He poses for pics all the time :)


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

At the request of others, most recently countrywomen, I contacted the police about the missing boy. They did indeed "find" the child. He made his own way back home that day.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Ardie- Thank God. Finally it was a happy ending. I had bookmarked this page just to come back to check the updated status. On a serious note I was deeply shocked and pained while following about that Caylee Anthony's case. It really pains me when I see kids ending up so badly. Hence hope you understand my inquisitiveness in this matter. I am really glad that you took the time and set my mind at rest.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

countrywomen, I do not mind you asking. It had been bothering me since the day it happened and maybe now I will get a good night sleep without wondering if some kid is lost in the cold. I followed the Caylee Anthony case closely too, and it pains me more than anyone can imagine. I just kept thinking about my baby that turned 3 close to the same time Caylee would have turned 3, and I wanted more than anything for them to actually find her alive.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Ardie- Thanks for not minding me prodding you so much. Even I was hoping for her to be found alive. That case really baffles me for the fact that the the police suggest her own mother was involved in this horrible murder. I don't know if any mother would ever do such a thing to her own baby it is simply unbelievable for me. Such horror stories bring tears in my eyes. I just pray that all kids stay safe and have a wonderful childhood.


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Aya Katz 7 years ago from The Ozarks

Ardie, great story! Glad it turned out happily for the boy and his family.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Thank you so much. Im glad it had a nice outcome too. I just hope they get help for the child, now, instead of placing him in a detention home.


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

Great hub and a great reminder. It's something I tell people as well. My son died in 2003 and I'm grateful that I can say that my last words to him that morning as he rode off on his bicycle to school were "I love you". My daughter and I don't take those words lightly.


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Proud Mom 7 years ago from USA

I think we've all been there in one way or another. You're a wonderful person to recognize it, admit it, and change it. Your children are blessed!!


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

KCC, Im so sorry to hear about your son. Im sure it had a huge impact on your healing to know you told him that you love him. I NEVER let my daughters out the door before a hug, kiss, and love you. I often hope and pray it is not the last time I get to tell them it.

PM, I think we all have too. Parenting is a tough business - much tougher than I thought it would be. And thank you for the compliment. I try harder each day to make sure my kids know just how big of a place each one has in my heart and life.


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

I have been there too. My Parents never showed their love except through money. I grew up having no attachment with them. I now understand that not all wear their heart on their sleeves and parents love us no matter. But I was annoyed then and even committed some mistakes because I wanted to get to them. The good thing is I learned my lessons too and would not behave the way by parents behaved. I also learned to look at the positive points and ignore the negative. My Mom is no more now and I did not get a chance to say I love you to her when she was alive. My Dad is a changed person now. I made peace with my dad and never waste an oppportunity to show that I care for him.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi Anamika, your story has a bitter sweet sound to it. You realized the errors of someone's ways and used that realization to be a better person yourself. Im so sorry you did not get a chance to tell your Mom you love her. As a second side to this hub, we also need to remember to tell our parents we love them. I don't think I tell and show my Mom just how much I love her...its something you make me realize I need to work on. Im glad to hear you and your father have made peace...it will help your heart and your soul to make you a happier person.


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Carson Creek 7 years ago

That's a heart breaking story. My son means everything to me. I'm a stay at home Dad who believes "T" is my mark on the world. I love him and tell him everyday. I din't hear it much growing up so I'm probably a little over the top with it.


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Ardie 7 years ago from Neverland Author

Hi Carson Creek

Thanks for stopping by :) I also thought it was heartbreaking which is why I wrote about it. I didn't want to make anyone's situation into a 'story' but I thought it was important to remind anyone that may stop and read just how much a child may take things internally. I am so proud to hear you are a stay home Dad! Your son truly is your legacy and your mark on the world. The time you give him now will most likely help him grow into a strong man one day.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

You are so very right. We do not know what is round the corner and we should always tell those we love how much they mean to us.This hub is a very true reminder of why we should do this!! Thanks for sharing.

Take care.


Lynn 5 years ago

As a child, I was never shown any love. My mother & father never kissed or hugged me & never told me they loved me. In my father's eyes everything was for my mom's sake, his Queen of the Nile. I had to turn over half my paycheck to my mother, wasn't allowed to date, & wasn't allowed to have any friends to ensure that my mom always had money in her pocket. Well that only lasted 5 years. I had to date a man secretly by telling my parents I was working overtime. I have been married now to the same man for 34 years & have a beautiful 30 year old daughter that we tell her everyday we love her & my father is dead & I have no regrets of not being there when he died & I have no connections with my mom & my daughter never knew my parents & vice versa & I have no regrets over that either. I did not want my daughter around abusive grandparents.


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Sun360 5 years ago

Informative article which i enjoyed reading from and learnt a lot form.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Thank you Sun360. I haven't stopping in to this hub in a long time. Reading it again reminds me how lucky I am to have my children. Funny - last summer the boy in this story started coming to my house to play with my daughters. It took me a few months to realize he was THIS boy - and I made sure he knew he is always welcome at my house. Now if he ever feels like he needs to get away again - maybe he'll come to me and I can keep him safe until his parents get here.


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Haunty 4 years ago from Hungary

I'm glad that the boy was found. This was such a suspenseful hub, and a good reminder that love is never obvious until it is said and shown. I guess the love of their parents means the world to these kids and I firmly believe it will make a huge difference when they've grow up. Thanks for this, Ardie!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

You are so right Haunty! You can never say "I love you" too often to a child. Thanks for reading.


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Moon Willow Lake 4 years ago

Thank-you for sharing! This is an awesome, well-written reminder to spend even more time with my little one. And I totally agree about always giving and receiving many hugs!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Aaaw, thanks Moon Willow Lake :) it can be hard sometimes to remember just how much our children need us with the day to day rush. If I remind one person to spend time then I've accomplished my goal. Thanks!


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crazybeanrider 4 years ago from Washington MI

An excellent hub, makes one appreciate the not just the kids in your life, but everyone. I have 4 nephews and a niece that i from the time of birth insisted on hugs and I love you upon entering or leaving a room, now that they are grown into teens, they still give hugs freely and say i love you to all the adults and even each other without pause. I am so glad I taught them hugging and they are so affectionate. If they know they are loved and wanted it makes all the difference. Tweeted!


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland Author

Hello Crazybean :) Your nephews and niece are lucky to have you sharing and showing love. I think its very important to tell those around us just how we feel about them. Imagine how awful it would be to wait only to realize it was too late... Thank you for reading and commenting.

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