Home is Where The Heart Is

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The Place We Call Home

Home is where the heart is... you've heard this saying right? This describes perfectly how I feel about my home.

It has always been a top priority for me to make my house a place where friends, guests, and especially my family know that they are accepted, safe and loved. I believe a home needs to be a safe place and a get-a-away from the chaos in the world.

We have moved many times as a family. In each new city we found a place to call home. With each new place I invested my energy and took on the challenge of decorating, tweaking and forming it into a harbor of peace.

I have always thought of the home as the woman's domain. My home is a reflection of my own tastes and labor of love. Each room reflects my heart and the work of my hands which created my idea of a beautiful respite.

I am also the cook in our home. I relish the opportunity to prepare foods that pamper my family and guests. I go to great lengths to choose healthy, yet yummy foods that will draw the crowd to the table. Many memories are stored up inside of gatherings around the dinner table. Laughter, stories and sharing from the heart most often happened around our dinner table.

As I am typing my description of home I can imagine what some might be thinking ... What century are you from girl? ... Get with the times! My answer to you is .. No way Hosea! I feel so much has been lost in our society by minimizing the role of mother and wife. I do believe, with all of my heart, that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.

A woman who takes the role of wife and mother seriously has the ability to be the rock her husband turns to when his world is shaken. A mother holds the power to influence and equip many generations by her wisdom and strength of character. She will teach her children well and they will grow up to change their world.

We all can testify to the flip side of this - mother's who spit kids out but have no time for them. Mother's and Father's so wrapped up in themselves that the children grow up unnoticed, unloved and alone.

These children grow to be adults who often search their whole lives for someone to love them. That love should begin in the home and come from parents who are tuned in to them.

Okay so I got sidetracked a bit but I feel passionately about the role of parents in children's lives. Now let's trek back to the Home.

I believe that a home needs to be tended to and loved. A woman works hard to bring charm and creativity to her home. A home carefully tended to carries personality, beauty and comfort, It is a lovely, inviting place that calls out to family ... come home, rest and be loved. The world can be hard and treat you bad but at the end of the day family finds refuge in a place we call home.

I truly love my home; Allow me share a corny secret with you. Many days I have pulled out of my driveway while looking at my house. As nostalgia squeezes at my heart, I'll wistfully whisper, "goodbye house, I'll see you soon." Each of my homes hold so many memories and stories and if those walls could talk ... my what stories you would hear.

Now allow me pull back the curtain as you peek into our first two houses; places I loved and made into our very own home.

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Campus Home

A month before my husband and I got married I moved into our first home. It was really a campus apartment, but I treated it with all the care I would give to a home that I owned.

It was the place where the man I loved would live with me. This home was conveniently located On-Campus, nestled in amongst other newlywed apartments. Gary continued his studies and I went to work to put hubby through his last year.

This was a house of firsts. The first, and I hope only, time to live with a man in the sacred bonds of matrimony. The first meal I ever prepared for my husband, the first time I entertained my friends (I was so proud to have them visit and spoil them with dinners and delectable deserts.)

Great conversations, secrets and laughter were shared in that first place. It was the first time I cooked for my in-laws - it was a flop! I was so embarrassed when Gary tried to carve the chicken (well, I thought it was a chicken) but couldn't break through the skin. It was a tough old bird - a stewing hen. How was I to know the difference? My in-laws got a kick out of my disastrous attempt to feed them. We laughed and throughout the years they would recall the event with fondness.

In our first home, as newlyweds, Gary and I took baby-steps in learning how to love each other. We had our moments .... believe me. We had been two young and selfish singles with stars in our eyes. It was in this first house we had to learn how to share many things including ideas, procedures, housekeeping, responsibilities, the blending of two very different family systems. We argued over some really stupid stuff like who would decide which way to roll the toilet paper :) ... it was a process which included some pretty passionate discussions. In fact one day, the young man who lived upstairs told Gary ... "ya know sound travels really well from your place to ours upstairs." YIKES ... we were red faced and admonished to manage our young tempers better.

As Gary worked to complete his bachelor's degree, I worked full time to put hubby through his last year of college. I managed the house, cleaned it, polished it, planned meals and cooked. I cleaned and cooked all day on most Saturdays. I would make meals for the whole week and plop them in the freezer. Every day when I would leave work I would call Gary and ask him to take a meal out of the freezer and put it in the oven. I still remember the heavenly aroma's that greeted me and my hungry stomach upon returning home from work.

In this house Gary completed his Bachelors Degree with honors. I gladly worked and took care of the house because I loved him and wanted to see him succeed and do well in school. He so appreciated my decision to put my education on hold so he could complete his. Many nights he held a study group in our home. On those nights I would drift off to sleep listening to the hum of their intellectual conversations..

Our first home was definitely a time of growing up together and supporting each other. It was so nice to know we never had to part again.

Teens Having Fun
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Our little Boy
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Upstairs House

After College Gary was called as a Youth and Music Pastor to a Church in Ohio. A sweet couple from the Church offered their upstairs apartment for rent.

We started out our ministry with no children ... yet our home was always filled with kids. Our home was a safe hangout for some very interesting and lovable teenagers. We opened our home and our hearts to the youth group. The teens were free to come over any time and they knew they would always be welcomed.

Although this home was not big ... it was plenty big to pack 10 to 20 kids in on any given night. I remember the upstairs house fondly. The bright kitchen and homey living room. The large bedroom with three windows. I picked out my first pair of curtains and matching bedspread in this upstairs home.

I remember the tall boy with the Afro and winsome smile, the handsome boy with the problem so personal ... yet he entrusted it to us, the athletic girl with the knockout smile and sincere heart, the adorable couple whose innocent love made me smile, the senior Pastor's son who wanted to be cool without rocking the boat of his father's house, the trouble making girl who would push all your buttons just to prove she was unlovable... didn't work... :)

It was a house filled with love and a safe place where our teens could hang out, study the Bible, ask their questions, fight (yeah we had a big one one night), play games, celebrate birthdays together and so much more.

The creation and delivery of our first child, a boy, happened in that first house. He was a beautiful child with lots of dark curly hair. He had mischievous big brown eyes and a contagious smile. Daniel loved the teens and the teens loved him right back. At any given moment I would find him in the arms of one of our youth smiling, kissing or hugging their necks. Such wonderful memories were made in that Upstairs House.

Houses Hold Memories

Does your house hold memories? These two houses hold memories galore. I only shared a broadstroke view of each one but tucked inside my memories are detailed pictures that bring me great joy.

I hope you enjoyed your visit. Feel free to share stories about your home too in the comment section below.

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Mekenzie 3 years ago from Michigan Author

Jackie, When we give of our hearts it could be looked at as risky business but as you say the love or spirit inside us leads us to invest our lives in our home, family and friends.

It is an investment many women make that has eternal rewards. Someone has said, behind every successful man is a great woman - it is true. I also believe in the well known quote "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world." We have such an important role in our children's lives - We can ignore them, belittle them or we can take our role seriously to build into their lives teaching them character, values and strength. In my mind, there can be no greater investment. :)

Thank you sweet friend for stopping by and leaving a thought provoking comment.

God Bless you and Keep you close to His heart!

Mekenzie


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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

I agree with you about a home and a woman's place there. I can understand women's idea it is risky business to be the center of giving (to children, husband, whole families and friends) but to Christian mothers it is the chance we take and choice we make from the spirit inside us I think.


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Mekenzie 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Thanks dear drpastorcarlotta. I'm glad you too have sweet memories of Home. Now as a grandparent, I continue to make our home safe and a get-a-way from the chaos and hurts of the world for my grandkids. I am blessed to see how close they all are and what fun they have when they come to the House that Blesses.

Hope you had a Blessed Christmas. Your hubs and heart always blesses me.

Mekenzie


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drpastorcarlotta 5 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

Memories you brought back to me. Thank you soooooo much for sharing, it was NICE! Voted-up!


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Lita .. you've said it well .. the home is as special as the attributes of the people who live there. Thanks for stopping by. :0)

Mekenzie


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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

I missed the first click here. I'll try again.

Home can be anywhere, where there is happiness, mutual love, and understanding. What a beautiful start to build a home. You are blessed because you respected the "home" you both wanted.


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Awe Brenda, my eyes are filled with tears as I read your very kind and loving words. How could I NOT include you? YOU WERE PART OF THE UPSTAIRS HOUSE. We saw God's blessing upon your life .. and always knew He had his hands all over you .. You had a very special role and place in Brian's life as I am quite sure he had in yours. For everything there is a season ... It's nice to have connected on Facebook where I witness the works of God through you .. I see how God continues to bless many through YOUR life! God is GOOD!


Brenda Lea 6 years ago

You sure do have a way with words Sue!! I love to read your writings~~I do remember how warm and inviting your home was....a place of safety...a listening ear....You and Gary made it a wonderful place to go hang out!! when ever I drive through S.A. I look at that house and my heart warms!So glad God crossed our paths...I am a better person for knowing you! (I recognized the loving couple.))))blushing(( THOSe were the days !! GREAT memories wouldn't trade them for ANYTHING!!! Thank you for including me!! love you!


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Jacob, Yes very close to home ... especially that adorable little couple. lol HUGS!


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

I enjoyed reading this and it encouraged me to as a woman who will some day keep home.

There is so much difference between having a house and a home.

Thanks for a beautiful Hub. :)


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

my dear winsome friend .. thanks for gracing my page with your sweet words. Sounds like you had a similar household during your kids 'growing up' years at home .. I have many fun and precious memories of my kids friends pouring into our family room to watch a movie and hang out.

It was such a privilege to have them call me mom and welcome me to sit right in the middle of the group and partake in their conversations... guess my background in youth work and my love for teens paid off. Blessings!


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Winsome 6 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

Mekenzie, so nice to get a glimpse of your home and experiences there. My kids and their friends broke our house in early on and it quickly became a home and haven to many. Sounds like your husband and children will "rise up and call you blessed." Now I'm off to Part two. =:)

Blessings


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Pamela, so you know first hand the type of life those in the Pastorate lead. Kind of like living in a fish bowl .. which never mattered to me .. we are who we are and what you see is what you get. Sounds like you have a special daughter-in-law ... what a blessings. Thanks for stopping by with your encouraging words..


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

A wonderful hub of the beginning of your life as a married woman. My son is a pastor and his wife has worked hard to make their home a special place. There is so much love in that home, which sounds like your home to me. God Bless.


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Dear Calibar, I am so honored you came to visit my 'home'... These are my homes of my past and filled with sweet memories ... I am working on the next hub right now .. not sure the most current home will show up in the next part ... but the home we live in right now is God annointed and has been used to bless so many ... I am in awe of this house.

I know so many who have no home to rest in. The home of my youth was not a refuge to me ... it was a scary place. I thank God that He has granted me grace to change that generational sway for my family.

calibar, I would love to visit you in your home. I would hang my sweater on your deer antlers and be so comfortable in a home that reflects YOU and your conviction that less is better! You are a dear, dear man and I am so glad to get to know you here on the hubs.

Thanks for you Love and Wishes ... it touched me this morning and I needed to hear that message..

Blessings to you


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50 Caliber 6 years ago from Arizona

Mekenzie, a beautiful mental drawing of your home with all the social work included. I suppose that these days the best place to be is Home. A person can retreat no further than Home from the lights and noise of a busy unstructured world. If one cannot be happy at Home, then where? I've been told my home needs a woman's touch, but a a confirmed bachelor my home represents me and I am quite happy with it, as I come in and hang my hat on the deer antlers jutting from the wall in all it's crudeness if it were held against the world standards. Like you I have created a home just so, and I am grateful to God I am able to do so. I will be looking for part two, I have been having problems getting my notifications.

You have drawn a picture with your words so well, thank you for a nice morning read of good news against the world of bad. With much love and wishes of Peace for you and your family.


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Saintatlarge 6 years ago from Canada

Excellent writing Mekenzie. Thank you for the homey invite. Our home (at present) is an large early 1900s apt. Looking forward to reading more. Blessings, L.


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

sweet loria, thanks for the read.. I'm working on part 2. I need to get on over to your pages and see what's goin' on in your world.


loriamoore 6 years ago

Looking forward to Part II.


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Ann, thanks so much for the sweet words of encouragment. I'm working on part two ...


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Ann Nonymous 6 years ago from Virginia

Can't wait for part two, Mekenzie! You really know how to write from your heart straight to ours! Love it!


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Hey Pops - No, you're the best.. You are so stinkin' smart .. you amaze me. Thanks for your hubs and for speaking clearly, intellegently and boldly!


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Unchained Grace, After everything you have lived through I'm glad your feisty little southern gal spoils you! You certainly deserve to have someone love you and cook for you like that... one who makes you want to come home ... a place of refuge from the stark realities of life in this world. We all need a place called home where we can relax, recharge and renew. Thanks for stopping by dear man. Oh, and your pun cracked me up ... very funny ... lol


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breakfastpop 6 years ago

I love this hub and you are speaking what I feel in my heart. I love my home and I love my role as wife and mother. You are the best!


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Unchained Grace 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

Mekenzie, I have lived around the world in some very interesting places. Most of the time it was in places civilians wouldn't set foot near. However, my marriage four years ago to a small and very feisty southern woman changed all that. The grizzley bear had to come out of his cave and accommodate the outside world which took some doing. Now, I'm actually doing the husband thing. We both cook and she's always whipping southern recipes on me as does our landlady. Maybe I'm getting spoiled? Could be. But, there's no place I'd rather be than in our home. Thank you for bringing that point home again to many. (Pun intended!)


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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan Author

I can just imagine your loving arms greeting all who enter your doors. You radiate love and kindness. I am blessed to know you here on the hubs RevLady. Thanks for stopping by.


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

What a beautiful journey of sweet home memories. Made me think of my first home and the memories associated with it that sill bring me pleasurable smiles.

For me, home is now wherever I live, but wherever it is, it always contain that main element from my first home: love.

Great hub Mekenzie. Thank you!

Forever His,

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