Part 2: The Long Term Effects Of Alcoholism

Alcoholism, it's a family disease

Who is effected by alcoholism
Who is effected by alcoholism
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It's a family disease

The effects of alcoholism is long term. The effects are devastating. There is little hope while living with an active drinker because they themselves have little hope. Their minds and emotions become altered and unpredictable and what can seem trivial to us can set off a time bomb in the mind set of an alcholic.

Alcoholism is a brutal disease. It shows no mercy, race, creed or color. You could be the President of the United States and still become an alcoholic. Some Alcoholic's use the fact that because they work in a high field it's not possible to become an alcoholic. This is called denial.

Alcoholism is a killer. It not only can kill you but it can destroy everyone in it's path. Alcohol destroys familys by way of the emotions the alcoholic displays. Here is a list of traits the alcoholic carries as an active drinker.

They are abusers

They are accusers

They are blamers

They are mistrustful

They are disrespectful

They are demeaning

They are selfish

They are jealous

They are condesending

They are demanding

They demand attention

They lie

They use foul language

Thet are rude and they boast

They threaten

They rage

They create fear and isolation

They attack and can cause mental and physical harm

They live in self pity

They are angry at the world

They hate

They dispise

Their bitter

Their resentful

Their depressed

They take risks with their lives and the lives of those around them

They are not concerned for the welfare of others

They are manipulators

They except no responsibility for their actions

They are unpredictable

They are violent

They are out of control

They flirt with the opposite sex

They are in denial

This is a very dangerous person to be around. They carry every emotion that is detremental to one's well being and the well being of others. You literally live in fear for your life and the lives of your children. They would sell out their best friend for a drink. The drink has become their god. You cannot live with an active alcoholic and not be effected by it.

Children of Alcoholic's

Children too are effected by this disease. Children absorb what they are exposed to. As they grow older they don't see their futures as hopeful or fullfilling or rewarding. Their lives have become unmanageable because they have been effected by all the traits I have mentioned above. They now exibit these traits and carry them over into their relationships. Now their husbands or wives and their children now live with this disease and on and on it goes until someone breaks the cycle of abuse.

Here is a list of the some of the ways children are effected by alcoholism.

As I mentioned, their relationships are effected

They experiance depression and anxiety

Their emotions are effected

Their self worth

Their identity

Their stability is effected

They have love and trust issues

Their bounderies have been effected

They become co-dependant

Their motivation has been effected

Their values have been compromized

Their perception, in how they perceive things has been effected

Their sexual desire has been effected

Every aspect of their lives has been effected.

No one should have to live with alcoholism. The effects are devastating and they can last a lifetime. If you are an active drinker and you exibit these traits, there is hope. Hope for you and your family. Do something before it's too late. Don't let your children grow up and not have a chance at real happiness. I was effected by alcoholism as a child and I know what it can do to you.

I am so thankful today for the healing I have recieved through Alanon (which is a program for family's of alcoholics) and the help from God so I can share my experiance with you.

Please do something for your children and their children before it's too late. Stop drinking and start healing. Your children need you to be strong. They need your love and guidance. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for them. One day at a time. Get involved in AA today. They will be so proud of you! They nor you have to live with this disease. There is hope but the hope has to start with you. Love your children enough to do this. The rewards are endless!!!

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Judah's Daughter 6 years ago from Roseville, CA

AMEN!!! See how God can use something so painful to encourage others! I'm thankful I didn't spend but three years in the home of alcoholic parents; nevertheless they were my "formative years" (age 2-5), so I've had to overcome "child-of-an-alcoholic" issues, mostly codependency; to be the hero and thrive on being needed, to my own detriment. I know this is why God's Word says "And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit." (Eph 5:18) That would be the Holy Spirit, not spirits (alcohol) ~ a little humor there.

Alcoholism is not funny, for sure. Alcohol and anger go hand-in-hand. It's a depressant, and depression is defined as "anger turned inwards". AA is an awesome program, and so is Alanon for the family members affected by an alcoholic. I go to Alanon whenver my codependency rears its head. It usually takes about two meetings to get back on the right track for me. God bless you, sis! I'm thankful for your ministry on HubPages. Your life is touching many others'.


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

Another wonderful PLEA hub that hopefully will touch the soul of those affected by alcoholism TimeHealsAll. Everything you wrote here is true and I join you in strongly encouraging alcoholics to seek help immediately.

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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you sis! I think we learn co-dependancy by way of the alcholic being dependant on our attention. They thrive on being the hero and demand our attention. One is almost forced to give it to an extreme. I think this is why we go overboard with others because this is what we have grown accustom to. I think this is my ministery. Thank you for your incouraging comment and God bless you too!


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you RevLady! This disease is powerful thereby devastating. One doesn't realize how damaging it is until they see how it is effecting their lives. I have gone through 3 divorces because of it and I won't mention what else. I am incouraged to write more on the effects of this horrible disease.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago

TimesHealsAll, This is an informative hub on alcoholism! You have made some very good and helpful points! Alcoholism is a very destructive disease. Recovery is available! Thank you for sharing, Blessings!


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you DeBorrah! I wish I had known when I was growing up just how much danger we were in. I would have done something to protect us. So much damage was done. I haven't told my story yet. It's a wonder I am alive today but by the Grace of God. Blessings to you as well!


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York

I sipped a shared mixed drink while married to my first wife. I sipped it too fast and became light-headed and hated the feeling. I thought why would anyone think this is a nice feeling. I have never become drunk because I avoided it mostly as a young adult. I became convinced in my own heart that I would not drink at all because why court danger I said to myself. From time to time I miss a rum and icecream drink that I had once but for the most part I never think of it. I can't imagine having a body craving the drug and its effecting my family. I can't imagine living with someone like that either. My dad's family's men are all alcoholics. All died early, grandpa in his 60's. I feel for the children of alcoholics. Another good hub sis. love you. Bob.


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you no body. My father was an alcholic and I lived with all the traits listed above and it was horrible. I would never want to see someone else indure this horrible disease. All of my brothers are either alcholics or drug addicts. My sisters and I want no part of it. I love you brother!!!


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susanlang 6 years ago

Well said Timeheals. You just sent a very strong a real message out to everyone. Love ya sister.


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you susanlang! I hope that's true. How can someone not effect or infect the lives of their children while exibiting these type's of behaviors. This is what children learn while growing up. It becomes "their norm" and it spills over into their relationships and that is what is sad. I am a grown woman and I am still living with some of the effects of it. I don't think we ever get over it completly. Love you too sister!


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susanlang 6 years ago

Every now and then I find myself comming back to this read TimeHeals.. you are a teacher of truth. Love ya!


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you susanlang! All these traits of the active drinker have a tremendous effect on their families. If only they would realize that and seek help. Not only would they be helping themselves but helping their family's tremendously, there would be hope for their children to have a better more fullfilling life. Oh how I wish they would take notice!


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susanlang 6 years ago

And now I see a beautiful face which covers your matching soul.


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

You are so sweet! I am glad I met you. You have a beautiful soul as well.


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myownworld 6 years ago from uk

very inspirational hub (as are all of yours)...and I agree completely. It's the children I worry most about....they really don't deserve to be in a family where parents suffer from a disease born of a lack of control. I hope your hub is able to help as many people as possible, especially alcoholics. Thank you for sharing!


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Timely 6 years ago from United States

Knowing individuals throughout my life that are and some recovered alcoholics, has proven and continue to prove your hub so true. The only thing you as a victim can do is pray the Lord intervenes. Great hub, thank you for taking the subject and disecting it into pieces that hit someone squarely into reality.


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you myownworld! In my opinion alcholics should never have children or be around them. My father was a major alcholic and my mother suffered at his hands. My nine bothers and sisters suffered too. My mother was barefoot and pregnant and miserable. All my siblings including myself are effected to this day. We are all doing our best just to survive. I don't hold any anger, I'm just pressing on. Thank you for stopping by my friend.


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you Timely! I do hope and pray this reality will wake someone up. Even when an alcholic stops drinking they still exibit these traits. AA helps them to understand why they carry and exibit these types of behaviors. I pray they seek this intervention for the sake of their families. Thank you so much for stopping by my friend.


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kj8 6 years ago from Australia

Great hub, this is a very important subject, you need to spell Alcohol properly though so that more people can find it to read it.


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada Author

Thank you kj8! You'd think I'd know how to spell it as I have lived with it all my life. Thanks for letting me know and thanks for the compliment!


Human Well Wisher 5 years ago

They have no fear put others lives in risks and those around them. 100% Band on Alcohol all round the world.

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