The Phenomena of the Mean Girl

The phenomena of the mean girl culture has been decried by psychologists, sociologists, and other social scientists.  They maintain that the phenomena has come into prominence in recent years.
The phenomena of the mean girl culture has been decried by psychologists, sociologists, and other social scientists. They maintain that the phenomena has come into prominence in recent years.
However, the mean girl culture is not new. It has been occurring among girls & teenagers for decades.
However, the mean girl culture is not new. It has been occurring among girls & teenagers for decades.
Girls & women have been competing with each other since time immemorial.
Girls & women have been competing with each other since time immemorial.
However,the issue of female competition & aggressive behavior towards each other has not been acknowledged. This often goes against societal ideas of feminine behavior.
However,the issue of female competition & aggressive behavior towards each other has not been acknowledged. This often goes against societal ideas of feminine behavior.
Girls & women are considered to be less confrontational & more cooperative with each other. However, girls & women can exhibit confrontational & other forms of aggressive behavior towards each other.
Girls & women are considered to be less confrontational & more cooperative with each other. However, girls & women can exhibit confrontational & other forms of aggressive behavior towards each other.
Although mean girls exist in the prekindergarten to elementary school levels, it is prevalent in the junior high & high school levels.
Although mean girls exist in the prekindergarten to elementary school levels, it is prevalent in the junior high & high school levels.
Alpha girls are often the leaders of groups &/or cliques. These are the girls who make the rules that other girls follow. Any girl who defies the alpha girl of the group is oftentimes ostracized or excluded from the group.
Alpha girls are often the leaders of groups &/or cliques. These are the girls who make the rules that other girls follow. Any girl who defies the alpha girl of the group is oftentimes ostracized or excluded from the group.
The in between girls are chameleons.They exhibit personalities pertaining to the particular group construct. They usually go along to be part of the group.Whatever the group does is all right by them.
The in between girls are chameleons.They exhibit personalities pertaining to the particular group construct. They usually go along to be part of the group.Whatever the group does is all right by them.
Then there are odd girls out.They are outsiders and at the bottom of the pecking order.  They are often viewed as misfits that no one of note would want to associate with.
Then there are odd girls out.They are outsiders and at the bottom of the pecking order. They are often viewed as misfits that no one of note would want to associate with.
There are many factors to lead to girls being ostracized by mean girls, being the odd girls out. These factors can include socioeconomic, familial, &/or academic background.
There are many factors to lead to girls being ostracized by mean girls, being the odd girls out. These factors can include socioeconomic, familial, &/or academic background.
In some girl cultures, smart &/or athletic girls are ostracized & stigmatized, being viewed as outsiders by mean girls,
In some girl cultures, smart &/or athletic girls are ostracized & stigmatized, being viewed as outsiders by mean girls,
Many odd girls out have supportive friends & family who help them weather the storm of childhood &/or adolescence drama.
Many odd girls out have supportive friends & family who help them weather the storm of childhood &/or adolescence drama.
Many odd girls out are very content & comfortable in their own skins. They REFUSE to permit the mean girls to impair their sense of self.
Many odd girls out are very content & comfortable in their own skins. They REFUSE to permit the mean girls to impair their sense of self.
Many odd girls out are so impacted by mean girls that they feel that all is loss. Some become depressed &/or self-destructive.
Many odd girls out are so impacted by mean girls that they feel that all is loss. Some become depressed &/or self-destructive.
Parents & teachers have to come together and to put an end to the mean girl culture through education &/or other programs. Each girl & teenager has a right to live without bullying &/or other forms of harassment.
Parents & teachers have to come together and to put an end to the mean girl culture through education &/or other programs. Each girl & teenager has a right to live without bullying &/or other forms of harassment.

Who's In , Who's Out, and Who's In Between

Psychologists, sociologists, and social scientists decry the so-called recent phenomena of mean girl culture. There was even a 2004 movie called MEAN GIRLS which a girl was first accepted and subsequently ostracized by a clique at her school. However, mean girl culture has existed for decades in junior high and high schools. There was always a girl pecking order based upon socioeconomic backgrounds, grade status, and the attractiveness factor.

Females have always competed against each other from time immemorial. However, this was never acknowledged by society. Females, especially girls, have been characterized as being docile, gentle, and peaceful. Females were also characterized as being less confrontational and less argumentative then males. Girls were further inundated that they must be "good girls" and to be assertive and aggressive were unfeminine.

Many girls succumbed to this artificial feminine stereotype, thus sublimating their aggressive and assertive feelings. Girls learned that being outwardly aggressive is wrong; however, they use this energy surreptitiously, being aggressive towards each other. decided to be surreptitiously aggressive towards each other. It comes as a revelation to many people that girls can be bullies also.

Even though there are mean girls at the nursery school, kindergarten, and elementary school levels, the phenomena of the mean girl becomes highly prevalent in the junior high and high school level. I have discovered that the apex of mean girlness is at the junior high school level. At this stage of life, girls are trying out different personas and on their way to discovering what type of person they wish to become. Formerly nice girls are becoming more catty just to fit in a particular clique and to gain the acceptance of a certain alpha girl.

Many alpha girls have excellent leadership girls but they elect to use those skills negatively. Alpha girls are usually the head of a particular clique. The word of the alpha girl is law and all the other girls in the said group follow her. The alpha girl thrives on control. She does not believe that the girls in her group should express their individuality. A prototype of the alpha girl is the character Christy Masters in ROMY AND MICHELE'S HIGH SCHOOL REUNION. Ms. Masters was the alpha girl in the A -listed group of cheerleaders. These girls were on top of the high school pecking order who periodically derided girls whom they deemed inferior.

The main objects of their scorn were Romy and Michelle who were near the bottom of the high school pecking order. In one scene when the A-listed group derided Romy and Michelle, one of the cheerleaders tried to defend the two girls; however, Ms. Masters gave the cheerleader a glaring look, putting the cheerleader in her "place." Alpha girls believe that group think is more important than individuality. Any girl who elects to be an individual within a clique is often derided and oftentimes ostracized. As a result, many girls who are in cliques sublimate their true personalities in order to belong.

Many girls have the status of being the in betweens. They are neither insiders nor are they complete outsiders. They are in pecking order purgatory or limbo so to speak. These girls have a wide variety of associates and friends, believing in playing it safe. These girls maintain that they are in the best situation possible. These girls also cam be classified as bystanders regarding the girl pecking order situation. In between girls have different types of associates and friends as a barrier i.e. in case one group excludes them, there is always another group. These girls can be classified as beta girls; however, they are not as low on the pecking order as the odd or outsider girl.

In between girls can exhibit various types of personalities in order to fit within their particular group of the moment. These are the girls who are most afraid of asserting their individuality because they want to be part of a group. To reiterate, they are in group purgatory. They clearly do not want to be alone for whatever reason so they oftentimes do harmful and/or cruel things to other girls to conform to their group. These girls know that they do not have the power that alpha girls have. In between girls have secondhand power.

Then there are the girls at the lowest end of the pecking order. They are usually the odd or outside girl. No one wants them at all not even the in between girls. These girls are in hell figuratively. The are reasons for being the odd or outside girl according to girl group think. Probably the outside girl is different from the group in terms of socioeconomic status, familial background, academic status. Oftentimes girls who refuse to go along with the crowd are quite frequently ostracized within the junior high and high school culture.

Sometimes in certain cultures, girls who are studious and serious are ostracized by their peers. For example, girls who are not boy crazy and adhere to the average adolescent girl group think are severely ostracized. I know this firsthand. When I was in the 7th and 8th grade, the alpha girls in my school were boy crazy and into romance novels. These girls wore the shortest miniskirts and the tightest clothing. Many of those girls started dating in the 7th grade and they were not into sports.

Academically, an overwhelming majority of them ranged from B to C-students. They also were physically beautiful and very middle class. I remember one of the girls stating that they did not want girls who were "unattractive within their group." They considered themselves to be the MOST MATURE girls around. They considered girls who played sports to be immature. I recollect one girl indicating that a girl was totally immature because this girl was into sports and not dating yet. This group considered the girl to be at the kindergarten level emotionally.

These alpha girls had all the boys around them. Although this group had two A students, those students were not the leaders but were followers. Let us not digress. The aforementoned outside girl was an independent girl, not a follower. She was never afraid to express her difference and her individuality. She was excluded from group after group.

Furthermore, this girl was an extreme beta girl. She was ostracized from the time she entered school because she was different racially and ethnically from the regular school population. Besides being from a different racial/ethnic background, she was also one of the poorest students and came from an extremely Duggarish large family. Most of the girls derided her, often holding their noses when she walked by. However, she was never fazed by girl groups making fun of her. She believed that she was just as good as anyone else.

There are many odd or outside girls who use their status as a source of strength. Many odd or outsider girls learn to be highly creative and individualized young women. These girls often have a rich inner world and pursue activities different from that of the other girls. Many odd or outsider girls have friends and activities outside of their school. Odd or outsider girls usually follow their own drummers.

For example, in my high school, there was one girl who was ostracized because of her extreme brilliance. She was never shy in expressing her brilliance; furthermore, she was an early feminist. The other students refused to understand her because she was the smartest student in the class. The other students often made fun of her last name. However, she did not care, often electing to pursue solitary hobbies. She was a very outstanding artist and a very advanced thinker. During her high school career, she had very, very few friends; however, she had activities outside the school and a very supportive family.

Many odd or outsider girls have supportive family members. The average odd or outside girl is usually quite mature beyond her years and believe that conforming to the "normal" girl culture is somewhat asinine. This girl believes that she has something better to do. However, there are some odd or outside girls who are so traumatized about being excluded from the group that they feel as if they are nonentities. These girls have little or no self worth and would do ANYTHING, even harmful, stupid, and/or deleterious to be accepted by the group. Some of these girls even commit the ultimate act of suicide because they believe that they are totally unworthy of living and that life is a hellish experience.

There are programs as to how to remedy the mean girl culture. However, these programs are very few and far between. Many parents are either unaware or indifferent to the culture of mean girls. To many parents, the mean girl culture is just girls being girls and a normal part of life.

However, studies show that the proliferation of mean girls indicates that this is a very serious matter. Articles in THE NEW YORK TIMES and other magazines clarifies how the culture of mean girls adversely impact on our young women psychologically ranging from low self-esteem to suicide. Talk show hosts such as Tyra Banks and Oprah Winfrey regularly discuss the issue of the mean girl culture so this issue should be taken seriously and not to be casually demised as mere girl's play.

Parents and teachers must be jointly involved to discuss this issue and to institute workable solutions to this ongoing dilemma. Our young girls should feel good about themselves and have a right to develop their human potential to the utmost. Furthermore, young girls should have an as unencumbered childhood and adolescence as possible.

© 2011 Grace Marguerite Williams

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phoenixarizona 5 years ago from Australia

Great Hub! Well done!


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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Thank you so much.


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LADYGIRL 5 years ago

Hi,GMWilliams you know I never did want to be in CROWD and I say again in the CROWD. Always wanted to be an individual unique in my own way. Most girls that were in a clique back in the days a lot them have emotional problems. I don't need to be a group in order to up lift my self-esteem. Wonderful Hub your writing skill is marvelous.


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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

To Ladygirl: Thank you for your support. Your comments made my day. Thank you again.


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Monisajda 5 years ago from my heart

As usual great info. Especially interesting to an outsider, someone from a different culture like me. I guess I was lucky not to experience all this as a teenager.


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cre8ivOne 5 years ago from Midwest, USA

The first thing I thought of when I saw the title was the movie, Mean Girls. The topic is very relevant for today and seems to be an increasingly important issue. My oldest daughter was more of a passive girl, pretty and nice to everyone. She had her share of dominant girls doing horrible things to her. After living through that not only through high school, and then the first few years of college, I would support any programs that can help to tone down the incidence of girl hate.

Great Hub!


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Christy Stewart 5 years ago from Oklahoma

So true. Unfortunately, it doesn't get easier when mean girls grow up. I find it interesting that women will go so far as to shoot down an otherwise great idea at work/church/community groups if they don't like the woman the idea came from. As women, we are subject to letting our emotions rule our decisions sometimes to our own disadvantage. While men are subject to letting logic or 'laws and rules' decide their actions to their own disadvantage. It takes great wisdom to know whether to follow our heart or our minds, perhaps from one who is greater than man or woman.


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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

To Christy Stewart: You have made some excellent points. Mean girls just do not apply to tweens and teens. Grown women often do exhibit such immature behavior mechanisms. It is analagous to the crab in a barrel mentality. We all must agree and anyone who dares disagree with the majority consensus is immediately ostracized and derided. We women must adopt more mature and sensible behaviors if we are going to advance and be taken seriously! Again, excellent points made!


TotallyOutsideLoveIt 4 years ago

I've never understood why all the magazines, websites and books call the independent girls the "outsiders" since to me it's totally the other way around. Once a girl played clique with me, whether in school or later on in the office, I did not want ANOTHER thing to do with her since she is pretty darn shallow and stuck on herself. Who needs it? Like my mother used to say, there are plenty of fish in the sea, works for girlfriends too.


Guest 2 years ago

Actually, men and boys are far more competitive with each other, especially for dates and relationships with women and girls. It's been going on for ages and it's very natural. Men tend to let their emotions rule.

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