Spending Quality Time with Your Children Is a Sound Investment

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Our world is so busy. Sometimes it feels like we have to compete for time with the ones we love. Our most important investment as parents is our kids. Spending quality time does not mean eating dinner in front of the television together. It doesn’t mean spending time watching our kids in all their activities – though we should be there to support them. Quality time with our kids is one-on-one time. Sometimes your kids might feel like you are infringing on their time. They are in sporting activities, extracurricular classes, working or playing on the computer, texting with a friend, or watching TV. As a parent, you have to step up, and while you are there, put your foot down. Your children are going to feel a great sense of importance in the family if you create quality time for them.

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Dinner Time is Quality Time

Make it a habit to eat dinner together each night, or as many nights as possible. Turn the TV off, and listen to each other. Ask your kids about their day. Who are they are hanging out with? What happened at school? What’s new? If you have common interests, use them as topics, especially with older kids who are becoming more independent.

Dinner time is an investment in a long-term relationship with your children. You are taking at least 30 minutes out of your day to talk to your kids on a one-on-one basis. You are opening the door for them to ask you questions and for you to share yourself with them, too.

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Make a Date with Your Children

When your kids are younger, not working, not driving, and not with their peers, take advantage of it to build a sturdy foundation for a good relationship with them.

  • Take them to the park and play on the swings or walk the trails. Point out different types of trees, animals, rocks, and plants. They will love being with you as you explore nature.
  • Take them fishing, either off the shore or in a canoe or boat. They will love being near the water. You can teach them about water safety, how to worm a hook, and how to get a fish off the hook. You can watch them light up when they catch a fish. Revel in their joy.
  • Take them out in the yard and play catch, shoot hoops at a basketball goal, hit golf balls, play some family baseball, or even look for four leaf clovers .
  • Play board games around the table with the whole family.
  • Give them three choices, and let them choose what to cook for dinner. Teach them how to fix their favorite meals.


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A Wise Investment that Cost Your Time, Not Your Money

Almost anything active, outdoors, or creative will count as quality time. You will not have to even spend money during these times, which shows your kids they can create their own entertainment without material things. Not only are you building your relationship, but your kids are building their imaginations during these fun time with parents. Remember, there should be much laughter and silliness.

All these activities/dates at an early stage in their lives will help create a bond between you and your kids.These times will provide teaching moments for you, and lots of memories for you and your kids.As your children grow older and start becoming independent, they will still enjoy these times with you.The older they become, the more your relationship will mature and lead into their adult lives. Your investment will pay off when you meet your adult child for quality time as a friend in the future.

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You Can't Go Wrong with Quality Time

Quality time creates memories and encourages your children to feel important and wanted. You are helping them build values and a sense of family and loyalty. You are also building respect, love, self-confidence, and self-worth with your child. It can also ensure that your children will want to remain in your life as they become adults. The memories, laughter, and time spent will be an investment with many returns.

© 2012 Susan Holland

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

Susan, your suggestions are all great ones. But it kinda saddens me that there is a need for a hub like this. I cannot imagine not wanting to do these things with my kids.

Very interesting hub.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Susan......The hub is GREAT...but my comments are focused on the pictures.....(Using Caps to STRESS opinion)

YOUR FAMILY IS POSITIVELY EXQUISITE!! I'm sure you are well aware of this, but being the first time I have had the chance to SEE your hubby and children, I just want you to know that YOU ARE BLESSED...WHAT A PERFECT PICTURE OF THE ALL AMERICAN, HAPPY, HEALTHY, LOVING FAMILY!! Bless You!!!

(I'm kind of an expressive sort of gal)


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Susan - you have a beautiful family! I loved the photos! I am agreeing with you 110% again! I think people get confused about what quality time really means anymore. I see parents that just drop their kids off at our softball games and don't even watch that! Or the parents that think that IS quality times they lack other routes of communication,

This year my oldest child at home is in middle school - she drives with me to pick her sister every day...I make sure I leave early enough that we have 30 minutes of private time to chat. It's the only way I found to keep her in the same room with me now:) lol. I do not allow food in the living room - and we eat a family meal every night - together! We share so much during that hour. I wouldn't give that up for anything:)


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Awesome tips Susan. I believe in quality time with our family; people should realize that tomorrow is not promised and kids are no the same as they were just a week ago...they grow faster than we thought. Your heart is all over your hubs, and you did write an excellent example of devotion and love for your family. God bless them all!

LORD


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Melovy, it is our fast-paced world that has taken our time, and we have let it. Being raised in a close (BIG) family, I was bound and determined to keep mine close too. To anyone out there who was not raised in a close family and is trying to raise a family, I hope they read this hub and our comments. The information we collectively provide will hopefully encourage others to want that family bond. Thanks so much for dropping by! :-)


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Paula, I am not going to even try to disagree with you with false humility... THEY ARE EXQUISITE!! :D I hesitated on using family pictures and videos, but I wanted to show what quality time does for a family. We are so close, and I hope we are FOREVER!

I hope you watched the video of me and my daughter. It that ain't quality time and "sacrifice," I don't know what is. You know to go try this with your boys... ;-)

So glad you dropped by! Bless you and your wonderful comments!!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Oh Kelly, I get it! Trapping them in the car when they are pre-teens and teens is one of the best ways of having some quality time. LOL They use us for a ride, and we tap into what is going on in their lives while we have them there. Maybe I should add "Trap them in a car ride to and from all the busyness" to my bullets. LOL I am serious!! I had great times with my kids in the car.

Dinner time is so valuable. I am glad to know you enjoy your time too. Now that my daughter has graduated and works and goes to school and, and, and... we still have family time every Sunday night. My son and daughter-in-law come, and we have the best time. I am so glad they still want to make time. That is the reward!! :-)


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Lord de Cross, thanks so much for the kind words. Any time I write about my family, my heart is overflowing. I am very blessed. You are so right about time going by so fast. I cannot believe my kids are all grown up, but as I mentioned to Kelly above, my reward is that they still want to come home at least once a week to be a family. We have such a good time and love each other dearly.

Thanks so much for dropping by!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

The video? Susan....Bless your heart and your strong stomach! This would only serve as a good way for my sons to rid of MOM.....I do believe my heart would stop on something like that.lol


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Paula, I got to go on my daughter's senior trip (she actually wanted me to go, and since I teach seniors, I got to go!). I had to be both the COOL MOM AND TEACHER. LOL I was determined not to scream, and I DID NOT. I even gave a little "cowboy whoop" with the "roping arm" in the air. LOL It was fun and a great memory for us both. :-)


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Good for you! I have no doubt you had one incredily great time. If the opportunity comes up again, next time give a WHOOPEE for me. I'll be the lady on the ground.


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hectordang 4 years ago from New York

Thanks for sharing about your family. Nice picture! Children are such a blessing, both our biological and adopted ones! And the time goes by so fast! If I didn't have pictures, I would've forgotten so much!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Paula - I'll wave to you. LOL My daughter asked me to go skydiving with her today... Uh... I will have to think about that one. LOL


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hector, I know what you mean about pictures. I love going through our pictures and having all those memories flood back. :-)


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Wonderful Susan, but then I expect wonderful from you! What a happy family you seem to have! I raised my son alone and he and I would schedule days that were just for us and it was very, very important in raising him. Love all these suggestions! Have a peaceful Sunday with that great family of yours.


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The Frog Prince 4 years ago from Arlington, TX

Susan - Great read. Someone asked me the other day what I considered to be quality time. You just described much of it.

The Frog


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Bill! I am sure you and your son were able to bond on those "man" days. I know my son and husband used to and still do go out together to fish or work on something in the shop. My daughter and daughter-in-law and I can have fun just visiting. I am so thrilled they still want to come home. In raising children, I think that is one of the biggest objectives. :-)

Thanks for the kind words! I always love it when you drop by.


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Frog! It sure makes a difference breaking away from the busyness of life to spend time with our kids.

Thanks for dropping by! :-)


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jpcmc 4 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

This is so true. My daiughter is just 10 months old but I try to spend as much time as i can. When I leave for work she is usually sleeping. When i arrive at home, she is sleeping. I try to spend as much time as I can during the weekends. In many instances I secretly enjoy when she wakes up to cry and drink milk late in the evening or very early in the morning. At least i get to see her awake.

There's so much I want to do with her - go camping, teach her judo and aikido, teach her guitar, painting and drawing, ...the list goes on.

i appreciate the suggestions and tips in your hub. Bless you.


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debbie roberts 4 years ago from Greece

All many children want from their parents is quality time spent with them, it's cheap too!!

With the Easter holidays here I plan to spend some quality time with my two, before the onslaught of exams and the tourist season.

Voted up and shared.


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tsmog 4 years ago from Escondido, CA

Hello sholland10. I was getting a fast peek before heading off to sleep. I saw your hub, a little tired, so I looked at the awesome pics. A grin grew realizing everyone had a pet in their arms. How cool! I'll meander back in the morning to read. Thank you. I can sleep now with a family feeling and a silly grin painted from ear to ear.


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Debbie, I agree! I plan to do the same this weekend. :-)


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

LOL TSMOG! I hope you got a good night's sleep. Did you dream of doxies and a German Shepherd? We are animal loving fools. I should have dedicated a capsule to quality time with kids and pets because they all get attention at my house. Thanks for dropping by and making me have a silly grin. LOL :-)


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Phil Plasma 4 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

We learned of a tradition another family uses and we started it also - we do have dinner all together as a family most nights, and what we do is take turns around the table answering the question 'what was the best part of your day' and 'what was the worst part of your day'. Often it is the same things, but every once in a while we learn something from our kids that we would not otherwise have learned.

When my oldest child reached 5 years old (he is 9 now) I started a tradition we've dubbed 'daddy and me day' where I spend the day with him doing various things, just him and I. When my next child turned 5 years old (she is 6 now) she and I did the same thing, so now I have two 'daddy and me days'. There are a bunch of other times during the year that they get the quality time you speak of, but this tradition really gives the kids something to look forward to.

Great hub earning you a vote up, interesting and useful.


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raciniwa 4 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

time lost can never be taken back, and later you will be wondering where have all the time gone...great tips sholland...


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Phil, it sounds like you have started some great traditions with your kids. They will cherish and look forward to them for the rest of their lives. I have found quality time carries over into adulthood. :-)

Thanks for reading! :-)


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kashmir56 4 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Susan, all great advice and tips on how to spend more time with your kids. Enjoyed reading this well written hub and love all the photos of your very beautiful family,and your dogs are also very beautiful to.

Vote up and more !!!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Raciniwa! You are right - the time really does get away from you when you are raising your kids.

Thanks for reading! :-)


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Tom! Thanks for the kind words. I appreciate you reading and voting and more! :-)


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Beautiful family! I couldn't agree with more about quality time.

Here's a quote I like :

Having a place to go - is a home. Having someone to love - is a family. Having both - is a blessing. ~Donna Hedges

Up and awesome! Sharing too.


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bmcoll3278 4 years ago from Longmont, Colorado

Well done. My parents demanded dinner together. And my wife and I request the kids are home at 6pm every night for dinner. It is very important family time.


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Susan! I love that quote; it is so true. I felt that way about my mother's house, and I hope my kids always feel that way about mine. The way they go through my cabinets, I am pretty sure they know they are home. LOL


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

BMColl, my mother wanted us home by 6pm every night, too, and we were. When the kids were little, dinner time was easy. When they got older, it was harder, but we still had our time each day. :-)


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HawaiiHeart 4 years ago from Hawaii

Such a meaningful and important hub... with multiple kids its hard, but very necessary to try and spend quality time with each and everyone one of them.


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi HawaiiHeart! Yes, it would be difficult with more kids. I guess you would have to be more creative with how to schedule quality time. I am the last of eight, and raised during a time when it seemed things were not so fast. My mother insisted on dinner together. I think she learned a lot from us, and we left home with her sense of family values. :-)


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

Children are like a big investment for us as their parent. Spending more time with them is good for the warmest relationships among family members. Invite them with fun activity is good solutions. You mentioned this very well. Thanks for writing and share with us. Good job and rated up!

Prasetio


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healthwealthmusic 4 years ago from Everywhere Online ~ Fingerlakes ~ Upstate New York

So true... very well said! We spend very little on our children, and I believe they are happier than the children who get a lot of expensive toys. Their imaginations are wonderful, they can find many uses out of cardboard boxes, etc. And I try to spend sometime with them everyday, where the focus is on them, and not on my work.

Thanks for sharing, and for the great tips and reminders!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Prastio! They are our greatest investment. Thanks for reading and voting. :-)


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

HWMusic, my kids LOVED cardboard boxes more than the gifts they got. LOL Their grandpa used to keep an old refrigerator box for them to play in when they visited. They do need us everyday. Our work will eventually go away in our old age, but we want our children to keep coming around. :-) Thanks for reading!


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Millionaire Tips 4 years ago from USA

These are great ideas Susan. I did feel like I was intruding on her time when I insisted that my daughter do something with me instead of getting back on the internet or her busyness, and wish I had done even more of that. I will second what the others have said - you have an exquisite family, and it is due to the fact that they have an exquisite mother.


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Awww, thank you, MT! We have a good time together. I know what you mean about feeling like an intruder at a certain point in our kids' lives. They are so busy and involved with their lives, and as parents we get the rolled eyes. Sometimes you just can't fight that. I know I had my times, too.

Thanks for dropping by and your kind words. :-)


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

What a great topic. We always try to do things together as a family. I think it is important as it strengthens that bond and when they get older I want them to be able to come to me for anything.

Voting up, across the board, sharing and all that fun stuff!


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homesteadbound 4 years ago from Texas

What a great hub! But it's your pics that are extra special! So happy that you were able to share your family with us. You all look so happy and so loving! How wonderful!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

I know what you mean, BarberGirl. I want my kids to always feel like they can come home. Starting when they are young will help create that bond. At least that is what my mom taught me. :-)

Thanks for dropping by!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi HSB, we are a silly, obnoxious group who loves every moment. LOL Thanks for your kind words. It truly is wonderful!

Thanks for dropping by! :-)


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TToombs08 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

You make so many valid points in this! Loved it. Voted up and shared. :) You should link this up with billybuc's "Idiot's Guide to Parenting" LOL


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Terry! I will check into Bill's hub. I love the title!! :D

Thanks for dropping by, voting, and sharing! :-)


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carter06 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

This really is such a great hub I don't know how I missed it...loved the making a date bit I found it really helped with quality time together...up & shared...cheers


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Angela Brummer 4 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

This is great information on how to be a family. When I hear adults speak about their childhood they alway recall the time they spent with their parents but rarely bring up what their parents bought them. I will offer you hub love and share this with followers, twitter, pin, facebook and google+


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Daughter Of Maat 4 years ago from Rural Central Florida

Fantastic hub! A great reminder of what's really important! Had to share it!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Carter, you definitely need to make quality time because time flies by quick.

Thanks for dropping by!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Angela, you are so right. I do not remember what my mother bought me as a child, but I loved Saturday nights because we always popped popcorn and watched the late movie on one of our 3 channels. :-) HAPPY MEMORIES!!

Thanks for dropping by and all the hub love and sharing! :-)


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thank you, Daughter of Maat! So glad you dropped by, and thanks for sharing. :-)


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Glenn Stok 4 years ago from Long Island, NY

I had a smile on my face as I read your hub and even a bigger smile when I watched your video. One word to describe this, Susan, awesome! I can see you have a wonderful family and it sure must be due to the quality time that you all spend together. Quality time with family is really the best investment!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Glen, I am so glad it made you smile. I do love the quality time I have with my family. Time passes so quickly. The video was from my daughter's senior trip. We decided it would be fun to "make a memory."

Thanks for your kind words and for dropping by! :-)


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I've always liked this hub so much and had to come back and re-visit it.


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Susan! I am so glad you came back!!

Thanks for dropping by, again!! :-)

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