Tips For Being Stress Free For Overwhelmed Mom

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The picture on your right side is my 3 years and 4 months old daughter. She is very smart and energetic. I wonder how she gets all the energy. From the time she wakes up until time to bed, she always has something to do. After baths and breakfast she usually playing around with her toys, with everything she found in the house, go outside and inside the house for times, singing (almost all day long), playing with other toddlers in our neighborhood, collecting stones and grasshoppers (she dares to grab a grasshopper), tearing papers, coloring, drawing, start learning alphabeths and number, coloring her nails with crayon, playing with her lunch or dinner, sometime crying, and many many more until her time to bed at 7 pm ..sigh. As a stay at home mom, I should not be overwhelmed but sometime I just got it. I just have one child and many moms in my society have more than I and it's not common in my society to admit that you've got overwhelmed. But I learn that it's okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes, it makes you think and learn how to get out from this situation.


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What caused mom for being overwhelmed ?

I wonder if all the overwhelmed thing is related to the baby blues syndrome ? Is it possible that a mom who had baby blues syndrome or postpartum distress and not get over it will sometime being overwhelmed ? But I learn that feeling overwhelmed could happen to anybody. Men and women in different range of ages. With tight schedules and many things to achieve you may sometime get overwhelmed. So, I think baby blues is not the main reason. In my society (Indonesian people) is not common to admit if you got a baby blues syndrome. They will think that you're a spoiled woman :) I'm serious..They will say, "I got 3, or 5.or 10 children and I'm fine. You just spoiled," It is the obligation of woman to deliver the baby and taking care of it. That's the common thing in my society. So, if there is a woman that after gave birth of a baby and suddenly feel sad and unhappy they just don't get it. But actually the baby blues syndrome is a normal feeling of a woman after giving birth a baby. And I learned that the feeling was last only for first couple of weeks after I gave birth of my baby and never feel about it anymore.


Another thing that may caused mom for being overwhelmed is I think that usually mom intend to be "the perfect mom". Compete with other mom and be the perfect one :)


Being unemployed or jobless.


Many reasons, from the number of children you've got, the bad relationship, many troubled children, taking care of disable person in the family (like parents or spouse), hectic works, natural disaster (flood, earthquake, tsunami), etc



How To Calm a Crying Baby

How to Overcome Stress for Overwhelmed Mom

1. Give yourself (mom) a present : Time for yourself.
About 15 to 30 minutes before your child wake up give yourself time to relax and get prepared for the day. Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee for yourself and read the morning news on newspaper, or listening your favorit music in your Ipod would give you a better feeling.
After your child go to bed in the night, give yourself a treat. Doesn't have to be fancy like manicure or spa just a soothe warm water bath with few drops of essential oil that have relaxing scent like lavender or jasmine would be nice and comfortable.

2. Praying or meditating.
If you have a praying or meditating habit whatever your religion is you would feel more relief. Take time to pray, in the morning or night before you go to bed. Pray before you deal with your daily schedule.

3. It's okay to be not so perfect mom.
Make a priority of what you are going to do today. Decide what will you choose between clean up or play with your child. Concentrate only what you're doing in front of you. If playing with your child is your priority then let the whole of you be with that child. After that, you could move to another task. You don't have to do all those tasks in a perfect way just do your best.

4. Ask help from your spouse or partner.
Nowadays husbands tend to be more supported than year of my mother. My husband did the laundry until my baby is six months old every morning before go to work and took the baby in the evening to give me a moment time to relax. These simple helps are what mom really need.

5. Make a what to do lists.
If you are mom that has job outside the house, you may have to rearrange your schedule.You could make a list about all appointments and tasks for today. If you have someone to take care of your baby don't forget to store all your breast milk in plastic bottles and ask her to give it to the baby every 3 or 4 hours and bring the breast pump in your office, so that you could pump it and give it to the baby right after you get home. Call your baby sitter at noon to check the baby but don't do that so often it could make you stress. Check your lists and do what you can do next, like meet the client and shop for the grocery after work,etc.

6. Make a simple dinner and lunch.
You don't have to make feasts every day. Make a simple and healthy one. Or if possible make a stack of dinner and keep it in tupperware containers store it in refrigerator. You just need to reheat the meal. I made a simple fried rice for dinner and mix all the leftover like vegetables, egg, and meatballs in the early months after gave birth of her. Drink plenty of water and take vitamines and supplement. Eat more fruits and vegetables, those will help your health condition and plenty of breast milk. If you have plenty of breast milk, the baby will satisfy and sleep easily. That was from my experience.

7. Watching funny movies
If you feel overwhelmed, one fast way to feel more relax is watching funny movies. Rent movies like Rush Hour, Ace Ventura or Bad Boys are great to relief stress.

8. Be thankful and try to enjoy everything you do.
If you have to do the laundry, just think of people out there who doesn't have the laundrymat or the dryer machine. There are people in my country that still wash their laundry in the river. Thankful for the dryer machine is a great reason to feel stress free :)



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aimer la vie 7 years ago from California

I have 3 children ages 11,9, & 4 and, sometimes I wish they had a mute-pause button. Because there energy is endless, especially my 4 year old. I call him a bobble-body because he moves constantly! But all in all you gave good simple advice because, parenting is a balancing act and does get overwhelming at times. But, I look at it as a blessing and I agree with your number 4 & 8. Life goes by fast and of course everything can't be perfect but, taking the time to involve ourselves wholeheartedly with them is so important. And when they are driving me crazy I take a moment and appreciate that they are healthy and noramal to do so. lol


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK

Very good practical tips. Your daughter is so cute :)


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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

aimer la vie,

Yes, you're right parenting is a balancing act and need to be work on it. Wow..with your three children..it must be overwhelmed sometime, but watching them grow up in a healthy condition is a great blessing. Thank you for your supporting comment :)

Lady_E,

Thank you so much :) God Bless You


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cindycare 7 years ago from usa

Great Advice and good info for the stressed out mom


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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

Thank's for stopping by cindycare :) I'm glad you read my hub.


todaysmotherhood 7 years ago

I like your point #3 it's okay to be not so perfect mom and it definitely helps to reduce lots of stress. Thanks for your informative post.


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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

todaysmotherhood, thank's for your nice comment and I'm glad that I'm not alone ha..ha..


StressedtryingtoBaperfectmom 7 years ago

I loved reading what u wrote, I just wish I had some tips on how to let go of feeling like I have 2 do everything rite!!


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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

Hi StressedtryingtoBaperfectmom, wow..what a name :) I'm not a perfect mom either, just to try the best I can. Nice to see u.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =)

I find this hub very helpful since I am now a full time mom. Thanks for sharing! =)


Baileybear 6 years ago

Thankyou. I'm feeling overwhelmed/anxious at the moment. I have one child with special needs and I recently lost my part-time job. Feeling a bit worried about finances etc.


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febriedethan 6 years ago from Indonesia Author

DjBryle, thank you :)

Baileybear, I'm sorry, I don't know what to say in a moment like that, but I can pray for you. I hope you will find another good paying-job and you will be ok, keep your good health my friend! Thank you for visiting.


Baileybear 6 years ago

thank you. I realise that my depression and anxiety disorders are not quite under control lately so went to doctor to adjust my meds. I wrote a piece about parenting an Asperger's child having Asperger's myself - I will link your hub in


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febriedethan 6 years ago from Indonesia Author

Baileybear, hi! good to see you again, and you're doing a right thing, seek for medical help, that's good and I hope you will recover soon. Thank you so much for the link.

God Bless you Baileybear!


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jaylazmama 5 years ago

It's good to know that all moms of any age can get overwhelmed. Great tips! As a mother to a 1 yr old I can definelty use some "me time". Maybe you could add a link to my hub about dealing with baby blues so other mothers can see that other people go through the same thing and it will get better. Thanks!

http://hubpages.com/family/dealing-with-baby-blues...


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Chinthakayala 20 months ago

My daughter of 15 seems to have NDPH for 2 1/2 years. She was so alive until this hit her. We think this strtead from the Chicken Pox or maybe Mono. Her whole nervous system has been messed up. We have been to every type of Doctor you can think of. Her headaches start out around 4-5 in the morning and increase to level 7-9 at night before bed. We have tried every migrain medicine on the market but not one help the headache. We go to the emergency room sometimes 2 times a week. The doctors won't even admit her any longer. Some narcotics work the first time bringing the levels down from 9-10 to 3-4. The next time we go it does not work. She seems to get resistent to the drugs after first use. She is nauseous all the time and is no longer going to school. We are going to look into a spinal leak or possibly neck issues. She had a nerve caterized in her next with no luck. One treatment we hope to try is a lidocain or ketamine infusion. I was wondering if anyone has tried these for their headaches. The Childrens hospital in Seattle is using lidocaine infusion with some successs. There is a pain clinic in Salt Lake City that is using the Ketamine Infusions because they last longer (up to 3 months). We have tried the triptons, erogots, and every other type of medicine. She was put on a pain patch this last week but I don't think it will help at all. Her pain tolerance has been affected also. She had an out patient surgury to remove the galblader that should have been an out patient procedure. She was in the hospital for a week with so much pain. I will never stop looking for an answer to this. There has to be one. I am so tired of the doctors where we live. They think it is in her head and don't think she is in as much pain as she portrays. Make me so mad. I am glad i found this site but it made me even more sad and hopeless.

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