Tips on Staying Home Alone for the First Time

Reading whatever you want since no one is around.
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Home Alone - At Last!

In every person's life, that magic moment comes when you are left at home by yourself. In some cases, some kids have been left alone a number of times before ever reaching his or her teens. In other situations, due to having many siblings or overprotective parents, a person never really gets to feel totally alone at home until reaching adulthood. It is OK. We all experience it at some point, yet some adapt to it better than others.

I am here to offer you some tips no matter what your situation is right now. You could be a 10 year old sitting at home for 30 minutes by yourself or you could be an adult sitting at home by yourself one weekend because your husband took the kids to see your in-laws. Either way, I have some advice for you to get you through the experience if you are having a tough time.

Not Every Sound is An Intruder Trying to Kill You

If you are alone at night, it is easy to imagine every sound is a killer trying to break into your home. This is most likely your imagination. Houses tend to settle and make weird noises. Also, familiar sounds like the refrigerator running sounds much more sinister when you are alone.

What I recommend to help you feel better is checking all doors and windows as soon as everyone leaves the house. Make sure everything is locked. Also, turn on some lights so if you do happen to hear something, you can easily check things without fumbling for a light switch. That always looks cool in horror movies, but there is no reason to live your life that way.

If you are feeling especially nervous, it does not hurt to keep a cell phone or cordless phone with you. You can always text someone and keep your mind off your situation. It is also a good idea to be able to call someone in case an emergency should occur.

Another technique I've found that works really well is to simply drown out sounds with other sounds. 99% of the time when you are home alone you are going to hear some sounds, like the faucet dripping, or the hamster running on the wheel, or something falling in the closet. All of these sounds mean nothing when you are not by yourself, but they can make you nervous alone. Drown those sounds out with a TV or music. I find the TV is nice because it creates light and sound. It almost feels like it is keeping you company. Sometimes I may even have the TV on with music playing on my tablet.

"Hi there, I noticed it is just us right now and I need some attention!"
"Hi there, I noticed it is just us right now and I need some attention!" | Source

Kill Some Time!

The best way to feel comfortable when you are home alone is to do things that keep you busy. If you are under the age of 18, you may want to check with your parents first before starting a major project. For instance, it is probably not the time to repaint your entire room while your parents are away for the weekend. However, it could be a good time to learn how to paint a small painting with that art kit you got for Christmas.

Some other tasks you may want to take on include:

  • Reading a book you have not had time to read.
  • Watching TV programs no one else ever wants to watch.
  • Teaching your pets some new tricks.
  • Working on homework or a work project.
  • Cleaning out your closet.
  • Organizing something in your house that you've been putting off.
  • Learning a new skill, like knitting.

Stuff You Probably Should Not Do

Unless you are pretty fearless about being home alone, there are probably some activities you should avoid. Some of these activities are dangerous, but other activities might make you unnecessarily nervous. In general, I find many of these tips are good for anyone, young or old, that is a little jittery about being alone.

Don't watch horror movies. Unless you live by yourself and you are used to being alone, I would not recommend watching horror movies, especially at night. You should really avoid anything that involves the lonely babysitter being terrorized or slasher films involving teenagers.

Do not answer the door without seeing who it is first. I don't care how old you are, you'd better look out the window first before opening the door. If your friends and family members always call before visiting, you'll know it is weird if no one has called or texted you. If you are an adult and it looks like a neighbor or a kid selling cookies, then by all means, open that door. Otherwise, don't take your chances.

Avoid inviting random people over. In many situations, if you are underage and home alone for the first time, your parents don't want you inviting your buddies over. However, if you are a mature teen and your parents gave you the OK to invite a responsible friend or two over, then it is cool. Just make sure you invite a friend that won't try to prank you to make you more nervous. Also, don't invite friends over that are going to invite the entire school over. Sure, it looks like fun in movies, but I assure you, parents never see the fun when they come home to a trashed house.

Don't call 911 for no reason. Yes, you may be a little nervous, but don't just dial 911 to have a chat about it. The operators are there to help people with real emergencies. For example, running out of Doritos is not an emergency. Unless you see a prowler or you just set the house on fire, do not call 911.

Do not try anything too dangerous. While on the subject of setting the house on fire, don't do anything that might do just that. Maybe you've always wanted to see what would really happen if you put that metal container in the microwave, but don't do it. I know there are about a million YouTube videos out there that could inspire you to try dangerous things, but now is not the time (if there ever is a good time). Even something as simple as climbing a ladder into that mysterious attic is a bad idea when you are alone. If the ladder breaks with you on it, who is going to dial 911 while you lay passed out on the floor? Be safe and avoid that kind of activity.

Home Alone Can Be Fun

The best part of being home alone is doing whatever you want (within reason) and no one is going to judge you. Don't be nervous about it! It could be the best time of your life. You can finally eat an entire bag of chips and there is no one there to stop you. You get to watch whatever you'd like on TV. You could even blare music as loud as you'd like as long as your neighbors are not grumpy about it.

Most likely, your home alone adventure will be nothing like Macaulay Culkin's Home Alone movies, and trust me, that is for the best. Just remember, this is an important rite of passage and it only gets better from here. So now, go ahead and crank up that music while eating everything in the kitchen!


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bravewarrior 20 months ago from Central Florida

I'll speak about being home alone as an adult. My 22-year old son still lives with me but sometimes he goes away for the weekend. I relish those times. I can get up out of bed to get a bottle of water without throwing my nightgown on. It's such a feeling of freedom to walk around the house naked! Just make sure all the blinds are closed.

I never answer the door - even in the daytime - without looking through the peephole. Looking out the window only lets that person know I'm home, regardless of the fact that my car is in the driveway.

I go to bed (alone, since I'm divorced) with the TV on. It helps muffle those noises that can drive you absolutely batty. Speaking of noises - a few months ago I heard a power saw at work in my attic. It was broad daylight and no one was home but me. Disregard the fact that there are no power tools in my attic. What's really freaky is I heard it several times through the day, along with heavy footsteps. No point in calling 911; that would have been a job for the Ghostbusters!


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Jeannieinabottle 20 months ago from Baltimore, MD Author

I know what you mean. I absolutely love being home alone sometimes. I actually do the opposite of what most people do. My fiancé insists on leaving the TV on all the time (he swears his house is haunted and does not want to hear mystery sounds). So when he is out but I am home, I turn off everything and enjoy the silence... until I hear a weird sound. Then the TV goes back on!

I can't believe you did not investigate the power saw sound. I would have been too curious. Maybe I would have called someone over to check it out with me. The heavy footsteps sound creepy, too. Good luck with that! And thanks for checking out my hub!


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FlourishAnyway 20 months ago from USA

I used to avoid taking showers while home alone because of the famous Psycho scene. Also, baking or talking on the phone can take your mind off being scared.


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sprickita 20 months ago from Reno

Sound advice , good info, & all the do and do not tips you have examined are refreshing solid points. The section on sound is very much me. I totally think some one is in every room I am not. This is a new feeling for me , and I kinda wonder if it is my ...well I wonder if it's a ghost?LAUGH OUT LOUD... sry tmi?

THANK YOU 4 EXCELLENT HUB

oh ps I would like to add that for scary non emergency situations dial 311 .


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lambservant 20 months ago from Pacific Northwest

I live alone so seldom have issues! But last spring I heard a violent pounding on my flimsy trailer door. I was at my desk 4 feet away. I was utterly terrified and completely froze. Then it happened again. It is pitch dark outside mind you. I managed to squeak out" Who is it?" And a frilly feminine voice replies" Missionaries Ma'am, is there anything we can do for you?" I was absolutely livid because I literally thought I was going to be raped or murdered. I said" Yes, there is, you can get me some new underwear since you scared the crap out of me. How dare you beat my door down after dark. Please leave and don't come back! They cheerily said good night.

Awhile later I went to a friends house around the corner to watch a movie. I went in and sat down and as my friend was shutting the storm door a flash light shines in her face. The" missionaries" had struck again. They got another chewing out! I called their church and they haven't been back since!


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Sunshine625 20 months ago from Orlando, FL

Great tips! Also if you happen to hear random conversations or music...check the volume of your computer or iPad before you panic. My granddaughter keeps her iPad on volume and has notifications set to alert her...she yelled my name in panic because she heard voices in her room...YEP, it was coming from her iPad. LOL!


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Jeannieinabottle 20 months ago from Baltimore, MD Author

FlourishAnyway, I also prefer not to take a bath or shower if the house is empty (it upsets the dog - he needs constant attention) but I do it from time to time. Baking and talking on the phone are good options for distractions. Thanks for your comment!

sprickita, it is so easy to let our imaginations run wild when we hear a sound. I think it is something normal we all do. Thanks you for dropping by!

lambservant, people have a lot of nerve coming to houses when it is dark outside. Who are they really winning over? I have a "no soliciting" sign with "no religion" listed on it that does not even work half the time. You can can imagine they get a nice speech about learning how to read when they knock on the door. Thanks for checking out my hub!

Sunshine625, I do the same thing all the time with my tablet. I typically have the volume down all the time, so I forget that sometimes I leave the volume up after listening to music. I will often here something very quiet, but it is usually music or some video left running on YouTube I forgot about. Very scary stuff! Thanks for your comment.


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bravewarrior 20 months ago from Central Florida

Jeannie, those sounds were short-lived. I'm sure they wouldn't have happened had I had someone else in the house. I know who it was, although I don't know why he came in after the fact.

My ex-husband had tools that belonged to his dead father. They are still here, but in my shed, not in the attic. Perhaps my ex's father was trying to find out where he is. My ex brought ghosts into my house. I've actually seen his brother that was stillborn. He was gorgeous and about 6 years old when he appeared to me. I don't know why his spirit took on that persona, but I saw him twice out of the corner of my eye. He was not a vapor presence, but solid. I wasn't afraid, but he disappeared as soon as I turned my head to look him dead-on.

I think his dad was in my attic. Why so after we'd been divorced is beyond me. Maybe that was the last forwarding address that his dad could zero in on. So far, I've not had any ugly ghosts in my house, although my ex had them in the apartment he lived in before he moved in with me. I commanded them to leave as we were moving his stuff from his apartment to my house. His son tells me that ugly ghosts have followed his father for as long as he can remember. It's a good thing I divorced him. I don't need anyone else's demons.


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Jeannieinabottle 20 months ago from Baltimore, MD Author

I think it is interesting who chooses to visit us and when. I do believe I've had ghosts in the past and I have also heard some weird sounds in my fiance's house. My mother believes my aunt drops by to visit her sometimes because she can smell her perfume... my aunt passed away years ago. I am not sure if it is actually that person's spirit or some part of them that somehow got left behind and it replays over again like an old home movie. I guess it is one of life's mysteries. Most of the time I am comfortable with it and accept it. I did see a shadow person once, and knowing what I've heard about them, I was quite uncomfortable. That is the rare exception though. Thanks for sharing your experiences, Shauna (bravewarrior).


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peachpurple 19 months ago from Home Sweet Home

great tips. My daughter sleeps all the time when she is home alone. I make sure the keys are near her, cellphone is not in silent mode and all elec plugs are pulled off. Just make sure.


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Jeannieinabottle 19 months ago from Baltimore, MD Author

Thanks, peachpurple. At least it sounds like she is relaxed if she is able to sleep the whole time. But yeah, better safe than sorry. It sounds like you are doing the right thing unplugging stuff, and keeping the keys and phone off of silent mode.


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drbj 19 months ago from south Florida

Excellent suggestions, Jeannie, for those who may be apprehensive about staying home alone at night. By all means, a horror film on TV is out of the question!


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Jeannieinabottle 19 months ago from Baltimore, MD Author

For me, half of the fun of being alone at night is watching horror movies, but I do not recommend it for jittery people. ;-) Thanks for your comment!

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