Top four morals to teach your children
Shaping the character.
‘In the final analysis it is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.’ -Ann Landers.
You love your child and want to give him the best in life. You pamper him with latest gadgets, trendy dresses and he has only to ask to be given whatever he demands. Since both of you earn a lot, money is never an issue. Your concentration is focused on giving your child top class worldly things and in the process you forget that you have another priceless parental duty. Are you wondering as what it could be? Well, teaching your child the morals in life should get your top priority as it helps in molding him into a good human being.
1. Respect others
Your child should be taught to respect others from the toddler age itself. What will a toddler understand? You wonder how, don’t you? But you will be surprised to know that he is watching you and imitating you. When you are respectful to your parents and elders, his young mind copies it and inculcates it in his behavior.
You should guide him to respect everyone as a human being. You should tell him moral stories about how to treat others. You should appreciate him if he obeys your advice. Difference in family status should never be an issue and he should be made to mingle with everyone with equal friendliness. Most rich parents do not allow their children to mingle with other socially less endowed children and thus instill a sense of superiority in them. A great mistake!
2. Not to lie
Your child sometimes lies to escape from punishment. If you punish him, he is not going to change, but he will feel resentful and angry and think that he has done nothing wrong to get such a punishment. Repeated punishment will make him immune to fear it. Instead of punishing, you should kindly guide him to tell the truth and make him aware that it is truth which will eventually win him trust and respect from others. You should not forget that you are a living lesson to him. if you go on lying, but advice your child to refrain from lying, he is going to be confused.
3. Hard work.
You should teach your child that hard work is essential for success in life. When you repeatedly pamper your child and get him expensive things he will grow up without knowing the value of money. As he grows up, the things you get for him becomes more costly and he grows up thinking that life is easy and hard work is not a criteria to climb up the ladder of success in life.
You well know that life is not that easy and you cannot keep supporting him throughout his life. You must teach him about the importance of money and how he has to be prepared to face life with will power and determination.
4. To share
Today sharing among even siblings has become very rare and unusual. With ‘one family, one child’ slogan getting vociferous support from young couples, it has paved way for a dangerous characteristic in your child. He does not know the value of sharing and so becomes very selfish and self centered. A very dangerous characteristic to say the least! You should advice him about the happiness sharing gives him.
If you are preachy and very self righteous he will not like it. He is very young after all, isn’t he? It is you who has to come down to his level and treat him like a friend. You should talk in a friendly manner and guide him into the right path of many good characteristics.Good behavior, respect for elders, friendliness with others, and humanity for the needed shapes him into a good human being and it is you who have to be his sculptor in molding him.
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