Wanting to be a pregnant Mother at over 50

'Pregnant women are people two."
'Pregnant women are people two." | Source

Pregnancy over age 50

Media coverage this week has been saturated about the case of a woman wanting to be a Mother at the age of 50. More accurately wants to become pregnant at the age 50. This topic is often taboo here in Australia. The process of paying for eggs and or carrying someone else's baby for money is against the law. A woman has become so desperate to have a baby she has advertised for eggs and pleaded her case in the media. The media are exploiting the topic for all it's worth. Lots of questions are being asked about the woman's suitability to be a Mother. Is she too old? According to Doctors as long as she does not reach menopause they are willing to go through treatment using another woman's eggs. As a man of course, I am not allowed to comment o rather pass judgment." The view is living in a Man's world we can do anything we want to include having children from conception into our sixties."

Pregnancy over the age 50 has been made more possible due to advances in assisted reproductive technology. This includes fertilization resulting from egg donation. This is not to say women have not become pregnant in their fifties before, though the success rates are very rare. Typically, a woman's fertility ends with menopause, which by definition is 12 consecutive months without having had a period. Peri menopause usually begins between ages 40 and 51. This is when the periods become irregular and eventually stop altogether. Men, in contrast, generally remainfertile throughout their lives Lots of women are taking to the airwaves to voice their opinion. There seems to be about equal amount of opinion on both sides. Some says she is now too old and unsuited to having and caring for a baby. Others prepared to speak out, hope she is successful both in procuring the eggs from a women whom is willing to donate their eggs without charge or payment. It is against the law in Australia to buy or procure the payment of fertility eggs from another person here in Australia-You will be prosecuted. However, you are able to advertise providing you do not give or offer payment for such service. This law has strong support equally has opinions strongly against it. Iwas surprised about the amount of vitriol thathas been spewed out about a woman that was to give birth to a child even though her age is 50. Those againstbelieve amongst other things thatit's against God's Will that the person becomespregnant as such sheis not entitled to give birth

Actress Demi Moore when pregnant
Actress Demi Moore when pregnant | Source

Egg donation is the process by which a woman provides one or several (usually 10-15) eggs (ova, oocytes) for purposes of assisted reproduction or biomedical research. For assisted reproduction purposes, egg donation involves the process of In-Vitro Fertilization as the eggs are fertilized in the laboratory

Egg donation is regulated and /or prohibited in many countries. In the United States, having an attorney draft a contract is often necessary to establish and confirm the parental rights over any child. Using an attorney that specializes in reproductive law is highly suggested.

A need for egg donation may arise for a number of reasons. Infertile couples may resort to acquiring eggs through egg donation when the female partner cannot have genetic children because she may not have eggs that can generate a viable pregnancy

Egg donation carries risks for both donor and recipient, although it must be made clear that the procedure for the donor, and the medication given, is basically the same as the medication given for any IVF procedure (with or without a donor). The egg donor may suffer complications from IVF, such as bleeding from the oocyte recovery procedure and reaction to the hormones used to induce hyper-ovulation. The costs for in vitro fertilization are certainly not cheap and still there is still only a 40 per cent chance of pregnancy occurring through this treatment.

As I said at the outset the motivation for donating ones eggs to another woman in Australia cannot be monetary. No payment can be given or received for the donations of a woman's eggs or in fact any other part of the body. This differs in other countries some countries limit the payment to $1500. Often counselling and a written contract is mandatory so that the woman who gives the eggs cannot claim later to be the mother of the child produced.

Many argue well why does not the woman adopt a child given that she will be of senior age when the child becomes a teenager. The counter arguments are that adoption is still very difficult in Australia. Even if you choose to adopt from overseas the waiting time and costs ares till high and very prohibitive.  This is a wake up call to society to both simplify the adoption system.  As well to women that child birth years quickly diminish when one reaches one's late forties.

Women Pregnant over 50
Women Pregnant over 50 | Source

Birth mothers over 50 (small sample)

  • 1669: Elizabeth Greenhill, born 1615, who had 39 children with her husband William Greenhill, gave birth to her last child, London surgeon Thomas Greenhill, in 1669 at the age of 54 had her last child, having conceived naturally.
  • 1880: Lucy Gauss Kenney, a Confederate veteran, gave birth to her last child at age 53, after a natural conception
  • 1992: Geraldine Wesolowski of New York gave birth to her own grandson Matthew in December 1992 at the age of 53, after IVF treatment in Christian Fertility Institute in Easton, Pennsylvania, in order to act as a gestational surrogate for her son and his wife, who underwent hysterectomy and was not able to have children
  • 2009: 54-year-old woman gave birth to twins in Bnei Brak, Israel, in November 2009. Her 71-year old husband became a first time father, while she had adult children from previous marriage.
  • 1956: Ruth Kistler of Portland, Oregon gave birth to a daughter in Los Angeles, California on October 18, 1956, at the age of 57. The birth predated the advent of in-vitro fertilization (IVF) making Kistler one of the oldest women known to have conceived naturally
  • 2005: Rosie Swain naturally gave birth to twins, Diana and Christian, in USA on April 20, 2005, at the age of 57. Swain and her husband Jay, who already were great-grandparents, decided to go through IVF in order to give their last child, 6-year-old son Jimmy, a sibling close in age.

 

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Carrie 22 months ago

oh i definitely agree with the Bible studies through God all things are possible children are a blessing according to God i hope and pray that i will be able to have my blessongs from God my Husband and i do not have kids together but we are putting our faith and trust in God for he is able to do all thingss no matter what the situation is we BELIEVE.


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FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

Very interesting how the laws are different in Australia vs. the US. I certainly wouldn't want to be pregnant at 50, as it demands so much from the body. Whew, the thought of it is tiring alone, and then you have to raise the little boogers.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

Just because we can doesn't mean we should. The risk of birth defects rises after the age of 35 and increases the older a woman gets. We were not meant to have babies at age 50 we should be grandmothers. If the maternal instinct is there become a surrogate grandmother to children who do not have one.

Women having babies later in life is why we have an increase in autism and other disabilities in children.


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Excellent hub. I find it amazing that there are women over 50 throughout history who have successfully conceived and delivered babies without the interference of government,LOL. Congrats for taking the challenge.


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J.S.Matthew 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Very interesting Hub!

It's a bit different here in the States but what makes me chuckle is all the talk about woman in their 50's who want babies...what about all the aborted and abandoned children?

If a 50-something woman decides that she is ready to have a baby, whether through maturity or financial ability, why would we question that while we turn a blind eye to abortion.

I'm not hating anyone who has gone through that dramatic event, but I am trying to raise consciousness to the fact that babies and children are left behind every day.

Furthermore, I think that it is great that Australia makes it a crime to sell a woman's eggs for money. Adoption is a great thing and I would like to add that I have an adopted brother. I have 3 wonderful step children and I have yet to "create" my own as a 33 year old male.

My wife can not have anymore children for medical reasons-she is severely anemic and had to have several surgeries that stopped her body from being reproductive, if you get what I mean. We have discussed having children despite the situation, and although I am not sure how it will happen, something will work out. I put my faith on that.

There are so many things here to discuss and I think I have spent a lot of time on this subject. This is truly a great Hub and I am glad to comment!

Good luck on the "30 Day Challenge"! You have certainly made us think and share our opinions!

JSMatthew~


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

A very well written and topical hub with much food for thought.

Take care

Eiddwen.


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MPG Narratives 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Barry, its nice to hear a man's perspective on this issue. Having longed for children for years (we now have two thankfully), I defy anyone to deny a woman who desperately wants to fall pregnant the right to do so. No one can know the amount of negative emotions that go with being unable to conceive, these emotions can and will make you do anything to achieve a pregnancy.

If and when a pregnancy is achieved then these negative feelings do subside, but until that goal is reached you do literally go quite mad.

Adoption is an alternative but it is the woman's urge to fall pregnant and feel all that goes with the experience that is the crux of this problem. How do you stop the body craving a pregnancy when the urge is so strong?

Age can be an issue but in the end it is the woman's decision as to whether she feels too old to fall pregnant, each individual is different.

As far as paying for eggs/sperm, we were lucky enough not to have to go down that route, however, it would have been considered had that been our only avenue. Basically whether it is against the law or not, a woman who wants to fall pregnant that desperately WILL find a way to do so.

Thanks for a great first 30 day challenge hub Barry and good luck with the challenge.


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psychicdog.net 5 years ago

Thanks Barry. My sister will be very interested in this - I'm sending her the url for this hub.


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barryrutherford 5 years ago from Queensland Australia Author

BkCreative

Again thank you for the information about the cost of 'buying' eggs in America. Thanks for your opinion


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barryrutherford 5 years ago from Queensland Australia Author

Earth Angel

Thanks for your beautiful carefully considered comments. I guess some women at 50 would pass for 20 -30 being fit & health whereas others you could tell are not fit enough for child birth.


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barryrutherford 5 years ago from Queensland Australia Author

Gramarye

Thank's for dropping by! indeed I think I am brave taking on the world of womens fertility. :)


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BkCreative 5 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

Your hub is so well done. I appreciate the fact that Australia does not want money involved unlike here in the U.S. where you regularly see ads wanting to buy eggs for about $8,000.

If you get pregnant and give birth perhaps that means you are healthy enough to have a child. If you cannot get pregnant I think your body is telling you something very important and you should listen. Such a pregnancy can kill.

Most of all I enjoyed reading your thoughts here.

Rated up!


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Earth Angel 5 years ago

Blessings to you this morning Barry,

I'm surprised by all the debate? Here in the U.S. women of advanced age give birth to children all the time! Eggs, sperm and fertilized embryos are bought and sold all the time! Some women hire surrogates to carry their fertilized embryos!

For me, the money spent on all these measures seems extreme here in the U.S.! We have soooooooooo many wonderful children alreay born that need adoption into forever homes!

For the last decade in the U.S. there has been a saying, "50 is the new 30!" Certainly in California where so many are health and exercise conscious, organic, green and fit, someone in shape and pregnant at 50 is admired!

It really does depend upon the individual! If the lady in Australia is 50 but is worn out after a long hard life, I could see the debate!

Australia to me is always a bit ahead of the curve in its independent thinking; I'm surprized by this one!

I look forward to reading more! Thanks Barry for this interesting subject and dialog!

Blessings always, EarthAngel!


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gramarye 5 years ago from Adelaide - Australia

Very brave of you to go in the 30 day challenge. I liked this hub very much... keep it up, I'll be watching


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barryrutherford 5 years ago from Queensland Australia Author

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Thank you very much for your comment...


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Bible Studies 5 years ago from PA

Very informative. I'm not going to pass judgment. I would hope that she will have a back up plan as to whom the child will go to if anything happens to her before the child becomes an adult.

As for those who think it is against God's will, take a look as Sarah. She was 99 when she conceived with Abraham if they want to go that route. Besides, God always said children were a blessing.

Good luck in the contest. :)


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barryrutherford 5 years ago from Queensland Australia Author

My first hub in the 2011 30 Day Challenge please feel free to comment

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