My Best friend loves my Girlfriend

My Friend Likes My Girlfriend

Life couldn't get much better, you have a new girlfriend and she is the best thing that has ever happened to you, you are totally besotted with her and you know that she feels the same way about you. There is only one small problem that needs to be fixed your best friend is in love with her too.

Getting angry will not solve any problems, flying into a jealous rage and throwing punches at your friend will not only lose you a good friend but I am quite sure that your girlfriend wouldn't be too impressed with your actions either and you would probably lose her as well.

You don't want to lose either your girlfriend or your best friend, so you have to be mature and deal with it in a calm and collected manner.

He Hates Seeing us Together

In a loving relationship it doesn't matter that anyone else likes her, she wants to be with you.
In a loving relationship it doesn't matter that anyone else likes her, she wants to be with you. | Source

When you're in Love with a Beautiful Woman (DR. Hook)

My Best Friend Loves My Girl

If you are secure in your relationship with your girlfriend and you are sure that she feels the same way about you, then it shouldn't really worry you that someone else likes her in the same way that you do.

She wants to be with you as much as you want to be with her and even if every man in the world fell in love with her it is you she has chosen to be with.

Your friend will have to deal with the disappointment at some point and get on with his life and you need to help him to understand that as soon as possible before he starts to resent you.

Talk To Him

The simple fact is that you have to talk to your friend, clear the air so to speak, let him know that you really want to keep your friendship with him and that he must accept that you and your girlfriend are an item and meant to be together. Think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot.

Ask Your Girlfriend to Talk to Him

If your friend isn't willing to listen to you then perhaps it would be better from him to hear it straight from the horses mouth. Your girlfriend will be able to tell hm that she likes him as a friend and that she doesn't share the same feelings that he has for her.

She Loves Me Not You

Love and trust go hand in had without one you can't have the other.
Love and trust go hand in had without one you can't have the other. | Source

My Best Friend Has a Crush on My Girlfriend

As your best friend he has told you that he has a crush on your girl, there is nothing in this world that you can do that will stop him feeling the way that he does.

The probability is that he will respect your relationship, after all he was honest enough to tell you how he feels. If he cannot accept or respect your relationship then you have to consider the fact that he is not a true friend, because a true friend would support you in anything that was making you happy.

How many crushes did you have before your girlfriend came onto the scene? You felt the same way as your friend does now and you know that although he has a crush on your girl today, another girl will be the focus of his attention soon enough.

Trust Your Girlfriend

Your girlfriend is into you and you should trust her 100%, just because someone has a crush on her does not mean that she likes them too. Your know your friend has a crush on her because he told you but what about the other guys out there that you don't know about who also have a crush on your girl.

To put it bluntly, if your relationship is true you have nothing to worry about if you become possessive and jealous every time another guy looks at your girl you will never have a relationship that lasts. If you don't trust your girlfriend then your relationship is set to fail before it begins.

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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA

Cool hub, good idea to trust your gf and be secure.


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precy anza 4 years ago from San Diego

Well said. There should be no worries if the two are really in love. Such situation can be a good way too to test how mature both are, but mostly the boyfriend to handle such situation. :)


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Patty Kenyon 4 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

Well stated!!! Trust is extremely important in a relationship and if you can't trust that your other half will react accordingly than the relationship won't work in the long run!!!

Voted Up, Interesting, and Useful!!!!


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GoodLady 4 years ago from Rome, Italy

Really important to do everything to keep the relationships going, all three of them. Love is total though and if 'friend' is in love with your girlfriend, that is too, too hard.

Nice hub.


carozy 4 years ago

Good article with good advice.


chucktheduck 4 years ago

I have had this happen. Me and my gf were together for 6 months when my bestfriend told me he liked her i am not known for fighting of corse self defense is different but cmon i wasnt going to punch my buddy because he told me that but i did notice he looked at my gf more than he should and yes i do get jealous but i kept my cool then not a few days after my bestfriend told me he liked her she left me and it broke my heart i told my bestfriend to not make any moves on her so i can get over her it didnt help she led me on for months after the brake up but my bestfriend ingnored me and dated her their relationship ended 12 times and they got back together 11 times over period of two months i know this cause i would always hang out with her and text her and just try and get attention from her hoping she would be mine again but eventually i found another girl her bestfriend i dated her right after my bestfriend left her when i did that i could tell how sad she was she got all of her attention from me i would catch her i she fell and this time i let her fall after i left her bestfriend she told me she had loved me for awhile and wished she never made the mistake of hurting me i told her to F--K OFF.... Im not sure if this was revenge or just me realizing she was a waste of time you can decide i just wanted to share my personal experience on the subject

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