What To Do When Boys Stop Listening To Parent Before 18?

Last week I got a chance to stay with my friend for couple of hours. There, one thing that I noticed was her son's misbehavior. On everything her son would say 'NO'. Then I realized that there is some psychological problem with him that he is not listening to his parent. Both parent got embarrassed in front of me, but I told them that it's not a problem as boys are like this. But in my heart I was saying what a bad boy he is! His mother is taking so much care of him and look at him, he is showing his attitude.

I asked a couple of questions from my friend and got to know that she was fulfilling all his desires and demands, which is wrong. In my opinion that child should have respected his parent more than anyone on earth as from the very beginning they used to fulfill all his desires and demands.

For studies also they had to force him and make him realize that if he will waste his precious time, it will never come back.. He can perform all the extra-curricular activities in his leisure time.

Now the question is what one should do?

In my opinion, his parent should pull his reins and they should keep an eye on his activities, that is:

  1. With whom does he go?
  2. Where does he go?
  3. Which type of boys are his friends?
  4. With whom does he spend most of his time?
  5. What are their activities?
  6. They should not indulge themselves in any type of dangerous activities.

After observing him for a month or so, his parent should make him realize that today they are alive, God forbid if tomorrow he has to live alone, none of his so called friends would come to help him in any way. Today he spends money on them and that is why they are his friends, tomorrow when he isn't left with any, they will abandon him or if he wants to borrow money from his friends, they will make some sort of an excuse.

In a nutshell, parents should not be very lenient with their children and should keep an eye on their activities. Parent are treasure for children, neither they should treat them as garbage nor humiliate them rather they should respect them with love and care.

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SpaceAge 6 years ago

If I ever had a kid who disrespected me, I'd kick them outta my home. I grew up around abuse, & I have no tolerance 4 stuff that kids pull these days.


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drdspervez 6 years ago from Pakistan Author

Thanks SpaceAge for your comment but in my opinion if we kick out the kids,they would adopt a very bad path instead of improving their habits they will indulge themselves into bad and dangerous activities .


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Miss Paula 5 years ago

Thanks for the information i have a 17yr old who sometimes need to be reminded on who the boss is,


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drdspervez 5 years ago from Pakistan Author

Dear Miss Paula thanks for going through my article and appreciating it. :)

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curiousx 5 years ago from Hyderabad

The points you have listed are true. Parents should keep an eye on their child's life style. However, the ways of making kids realize about the realities of life is the most important part. If a parent says that friends would abandon him or that friends will make some sort of excuse when asked for money, the child will definitely not like it or will feel bad about friends. Instead, parents should tell how to choose good friends and how to leave the bad ones. And then, what boundaries should be demarcated with the good friends. And this should be said in a peaceful manner.

Anyways, nice hub! Good you posted your observations!


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drdspervez 5 years ago from Pakistan Author

Dear curiousx,

Thanks a lot for reading my hub and your good comments, yes you are right parents should tell their son about his friends in a peaceful manner if they find anything wrong with their friend's activities so the child should leave that bad boy's company. In Asia parents care and love their sons more than their daughters, when a son is born they celebrate but in my opinion girls are as precious as sons for children parents are treasure so the children should handle their parent with care and love.

DR. DURRESHAHWAR PERVEZ


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onelove2728 5 years ago from Worldwide ?

Honestly I believe that something is missing in that child’s life misbehavior doesn’t come from the air. All children young or teen reflect on something they have seen. For example: I had a friend who had both parents act one way when people were around and change once they turn their backs. So in reality we really don’t know what happens behind close doors but something is not clicking in that child’s life something is strongly influencing him at home making him rebel toddlers try to call parents attention by crying, teenagers try by action. Example: My husband loves to joke around when I am serious and we notice that the children thought they could do the same when we were being serious, instead of just ignoring it my husband stopped and things changed. So I believe your friend should look into what they failed in..Hey we are not perfect but we can sure fix anything that is broken. “Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes”


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drdspervez 5 years ago from Pakistan Author

onelove2728 HI, thanks a lot for reading my article and your comment.Yes you are right sometimes husbands try to pull his wife's leg in front of children especially boys and if the wife ignores it or laughs then the child thinks that mother does not mind leg pulling and then if the child does the same thing just to make father laugh and if the mother is in a bad mood she would mind it and get angry on child at that point the child is confused so parents should also think that if they will give too much liberty to their children and sometimes try to hold their reins they would not listen to their parent. :)

DR.DURRESHAHWAR PERVEZ


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slaffery 5 years ago from Kansas, USA

Glad to have found this hub as I am currently going through some of this with my son. He is at the talking back stage. We have started with taking away priveledges and are working on it with him. He is getting better and we know that this will pass but I think what you said is important or least the message I got was that as parents we have to stay on top of it and we have to be consistent in our expectations of our children and follow through when they push the boundaries.


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drdspervez 5 years ago from Pakistan Author

Thanks slaffery for giving time to my hub and your good comment.GOD bless you. :)

DR.DURRESHAHWAR PERVEZ

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