What to do When YOUR Daughter Starts Dating.

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What to do when YOUR daughter starts dating!

What to do when YOUR Daughter Starts Dating

When my oldest daughter started dating it caused a whole new set of thoughts, research and an action plan. I am a planner by nature so I always have a plan. First we sat down and talked about the rules.

I agreed to let her start dating, as in the boy picks the girl up and they drive off in a car somewhere in the universe when she was 16. We discussed the rules in detail first according to my outline.

Rule #1 She must supply me with his name, address and phone number. I also looked at the most recent year book-pictures to see if I could tell anything from the way he looked. Does he have shifty eyes? Maybe he looks a little over-confident, like a "playa"? Also, it is further proof of his age, what clubs he might be involved in and so forth.

I have the advantage of having several databases that I actually have to pay for related to my other research business so I can get a lot of background that way. In Missouri, we have a wonderful tool that is called CASE NET. It covers most of the counties in Missouri and provides a wealth of information. Futhermore it is free. I have added a link so that you may investigate to see if your state has something similar.

All you need is a partial name (the last name for sure, then I only pop in a few of the person’s letters in the first name slot). That way if Lawrence goes by Larry, I’ll still find almost any law that person has violated including speeding tickets, lawsuits pending involving that person and they include civil as well as criminal violations. Note – some of these violations can be removed if an attorney intervenes on the defendant’s behalf. I will also add that there may be numerous people with the same name. If you have a middle initial it helps exclude some cases. If not, click on parties involved and it will usually list an address of the plaintiff/defendant.

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Rule #2 Take his fingerprints! This is where my younger children come in. They have all kinds of stamp kits with little hearts or shapes and inkpads. While waiting for the "could be" date I say something like this, "Girls," in a sing song voice, "lets do some crafts!" Then we get out all the inkpads and stamps and spread them all over the dining room table.

After the unsuspecting "could be" date arrives, I try to make casual conversation, and ask the regular questions, are you involved in any sports or where do you work, introduce him to the girls and say sweetly, "girls show "Larry" how the stamp kit works! Show him how we make fingerprints!"

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Rule #3 Take photos! Whilst all this stalling conversation is on going, my husband would slip out the back door and take several photographs of the "could be" dates car. Including a real clear one of the license plate! Also, if you decide everything looks okay and you actually let them leave the house together, make sure you ask them to pose for a quick photo. It’s always helpful to have a picture of the person you are letting your daughter drive off with.

Rule #4 While you are making "casual" conversation try to bring up your past mistakes. I have noticed if someone discloses something about himself or herself - the other person may open up and offer a similar mistake. I attempt to lead up to mentioning that I have actually killed before, and probably would kill again, while I check my nail polish. I don’t really feel bad about telling this sort of lie, I mean, I did kill a water-bug in the basement and I really would do it again. It was alive and crawling – I stomped on it and then it stopped crawling. In my book that makes me a killer!

Rule #5 She must have her cell phone on and answer that phone at all times. If she does not answer it due to an unforseen circumstance such as, she is using the rest room, she must return the call with 10 minutes. If she isn't able to return the call within 10 minutes - there is too much going on!

I did get some grief from my daughter about all this inquisitiveness, but she is 23 now and understands why I was so irrational and she has come to forgive me for it.

She brought a guy over that she has been "talking to" last night. I think that is the same thing that my age generation called "going together." I was a little nervous meeting him, because he is really a man. Like, he works in IT and owns his own house and lives alone and all that nonsense!

Just before he arrived, that old irrational fear kicked in and I yelled, "Girls, lets do some crafts!"

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Motown2Chitown 5 years ago

The ending is priceless! Love it. Funny and useful and definitely 1 up!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Thanks Motown!! I've enjoyed reading your hubs so much! I was on your page late last night:)


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zesha 5 years ago

i like your work it is so good. very good job u done


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Thanks so much! Your comments are greatly appreciated. I am still new - and a bit scared to write things I actually let other people see:)


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Thanks - and you are right - while I use humor to demonstrate my point - check out who your kids are hanging out with!


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ltfawkes 5 years ago from NE Ohio

"Shifty eyes" . . . funny. Nice hub.

L.T.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Yeah - gotta watch that body language:-) thanks - was just checking out your hubs! Amazing work!! I can tell you are a pro and I'm going to be able to learn from you!


dj7it 5 years ago

Good job, well written.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Thanks DJ! Your comments are appreciated!


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Truckstop Sally 5 years ago

What a fun hub! I was telling a friend that my kids respond to almost anything I say with "nunya" standing for none of ya business. Guess that answer would be a deal-breaker for the date!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

That is so ironic! My favorite t-shirt said "nunya business" in really small words on the front - the back it had a great big eye ball and it said in big letters "WHAT DOES YOUR WORLD LOOK LIKE? Wish I hadn't worn that out - and thank you with all sincerity!


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dianne143 5 years ago

Nice hub, you are a good mother... May you have a happy family and God bless you and your family.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Thanks Dianne but I have made lots of mistakes being a mother - lots. Just like everything else - it's how we learn to do something better the next time!


Longhunter 5 years ago

When my daughter started dating, one guy showed up and I asked him for his driver's license. I had a home office and made a photocopy of it. I let him see I had the copy and told them to have a good but not too good evening.

Great hub.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

I love that one Longhunter - and I do confess - I actually had my husband follow her and a date once! Good for you - I promise you can't be too careful!!


Longhunter 5 years ago

Oh, I did a lot more than that but your hub gave me an idea for one of my own. It's in the works now. Believe me, she dated some real losers. Thanks for the idea and the follow.


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Dawn Conklin 5 years ago from New Jersey, USA

I love it! We dread the day the girls start dating. They are too young yet now tho. We joke around and tell them they might be able to date when they turn 30 :) I know I will be a nervous wreck with all the stuff you see happening in the world. While we have bad things about living where we do, the good thing is that people are stupid enough to be very open about any illegal stuff they do here. You get a good idea of who to not talk to.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

I hear you Dawn and feel your anxiety! I can not tell you how much sleep I have lost pacing in front of windows that face the street, waiting for big girl to get home! It is so hard to let go at times - the oldest really does still live here - and I still pace when I do not know where she is. I finally got hardwood floors installed last fall:-) wore out the carpet;)


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Granny's House 5 years ago from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time

Nice hub. Very enjoyable to read. I did not let my kids date until they were 16 and that was the date could come to the house. You did everything right. It is our job as parents to make sure our kids are safe.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Thank you Granny! I wish I could have known about hub pages THEN - I have found a wealth of info here for mom's that have teens! I have two more slowly approaching those years and I know I'll have to be on my game!


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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

RH You have such a great sense of humor! This was fun to read. It is times like this that I am so glad I had boys even though I did want a girl. Hit all the buttons!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Haha! Thank you so much Susan! I love your hilarious sense of humor too so it's great to hear from you:)

Ooohhh my best friend has 2 boys, I can't tell you which set of problems I would rather deal with! I think girls are easier to scare! Lol!


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Harlan Colt 5 years ago from the Rocky Mountains

Having a 16 year old daughter, you guys are my kind of psychos! However, I go one step farther... I go on the date with them or they don't go! Yep! True story! She hates it but oh well too bad - so sad. And her dates are always welcome to come to the house and sit in the living room with her, and with me, and visit - all of us together! LOL

- Best wishes with those kids!

- Harlan


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hilarious Harlan! I seriously thought about a GPS tracker! Haha! I love your attitude - you CAN NOT be too careful.

I always invite them in for a good talk:) yeah, you know the kind;)!

Best wishes to you and yours and thanks for a needed laugh as always.

Kelly


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Harlan Colt 5 years ago from the Rocky Mountains

(grins) um... her cell phone... I can track her anywhere online... courtesy of the cell service. I can go to the website and pull up a map with her location on it. She has no idea... (giggles). Dad knows all - (well enough anyway).

- Harlan


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hey great addition to the hub Harlan! I use at & t - I can also see who they are talking to for how long. If they may try to dodge me but answer for another - oooooohhhhhhhh no phone!

That is a great point!!!!


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gr82bme 5 years ago from USA

Real, the first car date my daughter went on was to the movies. We all went. Me her two brothers and two sisters. hehehe. The guy asked her out again. He thought it was cool that her family thought that much of her.

Tina


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Tina - ROLF! Omg! That is great! My kid wouldn't have let me in the car with her! Lol! I'm glad you added that really - I mean it's a good idea. I might have to insist with the next one!


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Spirit Whisperer 5 years ago from Isle of Man

Pocahontas, you crack me up. I thought we were bad until I read this. I have visions of barbed wire and claymores all around your house and you sitting in the command centre directing operations. LOL This is going on my FB wall. Brilliant! You are joking about all this though aren't you???


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Pretty much - except Dave does sneak outside and take pictures of the car and license plate. She was in a car accident with a date once and we had no idea what car she had left in.....she was gone far too long and I could have used that info;) Turned out she was in hospital all night with head trauma - she looked fine no stitches but she had a concussion and was knocked out for a while! Terrible - so you really can't be too careful dear!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

My kids are going to be so upset with you for writing this... now when they become dating age... I am so doing the fingerprinting! Oh yeah, and lots of snap shots... it would be not only informational, but horribly annoying for my kids. Isn't that the purpose in life anyway! :)

I learn so much from you!! But I still don't believe you have a 22 year old daughter. :)


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Yup I had her when I was 21! Omg! Isn't it crazy? Yes I learned a lot about how children can lie! Manipulate! Oh so I got real good with the body language! She was a pretty good kid for real, but you know I could guess everything! It killed her!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

Ha ha - doesn't it make you feel great when your kids can't get away with anything... lol! I had it good when I was younger. My older sister was the troublemaker which meant there were no eyes on me. Oh the stories I could tell... ha ha ha!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Wow! Mw too BBG! Omg! I got away with murder because she was so bad - then she left home at 16 and got married (dumb) but since I never did the really dumb stuff and I always told on myself - I did what I wanted. I'd sneak out the window and go in the door so I could let them know I was home:)!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

LOL you two! LOL! Hey sorry for disappearing they didn't let us gamers know ahead of time it would be time for VIP people to go to Beijing so sorry I had to trip to Beijing, you know how much I'm loved in anihC ugh! NOT Anyway, Oh, you could ALWAYS DO WHAT MY LOVELY DADDY DID. Say nothing, then go out and write down the license plate # to the car and come back in and give him the stink eye. Yeah, there was usually not date #2. ::sigh:: I ran away and got married, so um, nevermind! I guess I shouldn't of ate that cat soup in Beijing.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Well I'm glad you go to go to Bejing! Haga!

Now she's 22 I don't even know where she is except during work or school:)


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

I am glad my daughters aren't old enough yet. Although, I will have to admit... it is my husband that is going to be harder to manage. LOL - and I am jealous about Bejing! LOL


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Yes good luck too - Dave has actually followed them before - and he wasn't being discreet! Lol!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

Ha ha ha - that is too funny! "Hey - is that your dad behind us in the fake moustache... lol!"


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

No more like, " is that your dad with the big dam truck and the pissed off look on his face?! How soon should I take you home?"

Seriously once she went to this boys house - I didn't want her there - the parents said she could stay (against my wishes) so I called the police on them. (I showed 'em who the dam boss was)!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

BBG: Trust me don't be jealous of Beijing it kept me up all night! LOL But my "helpers" didn't help me in the events! You know how to block the games right? click the corner then "hide"? I meant to warn ya guys.. I can't do anything for 2 hours so I'm stuck! and I hurried on my hub for the day so I could get to it! When the game takes a trip, we all kinda all the sudden go NUTS lol!

RH let me get this straight, now, the girls parents were going to let him have a girl stay OVER NIGHT? omg I wasn't allowed a boy to SEE my bedroom! My parents would hate teen movies of today! And people wonder why.. (don't get me wrong I'm a total teen flick nerd LOL and chick flicks like mean girls LOL! Another hub I'm going to do.. and I want a quiz on it in case any younger kids are into them!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Yes and the parents were drunks and had no clue what was going on! The police were aware of the address when I called. Lots of domestic disputes I guess!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Wow! It's just baffling that people do not care what their kids are doing anymore!! What is wrong with parents, it's weird, they are either helicopter parents or not caring at all. One extreme or the other!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Yeah now I try to keep a balance - I'm helicopter mon, tues, fri - the rest of the days - whatever! Lol!


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KidsPartyFavors 5 years ago

I have no idea what to do if this happens to my daughter!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Kids - don't worry - stay on top of things - know who your kids are hanging out with and where they are coming from. Your children will often do the same things their friends are doing. When Laurel was in her teens taking away her car was a big deterrent. I did take it away for a long time it was awful for me too - I drove her everywhere instead - work or to friends houses but it was totally worth it in the long run. A little effort now goes a long way later!

Good luck:)!


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Powerpoe1 5 years ago

My daughter is only a tween, her body is developing into a young lady. Now, I understand the story of a Dad with the shotgun. I'm a single parent, Dad lives in another state. So, I'm the one protecting and taking care of the basics. Serious conversations need to take place, but you have to put yourself in the child's place. Don't be overly obsessed!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Powerpoe - surely you know this is exaggerated. It is a joke.


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

I've come to the realization as of late that "some" over protective parents, their children will say one thing, do another. Like make someone feel bad, for accepting them for who they are, then turn around and say they are sorry, later (within days) turn around and bully the person they apologized to. They have no order within their brain because it's been not taught, but rather manipulated by the overprotective parent. It's a sad thing for the children. A, what would be very nice child, especially when going into their tween years, trying to fight peer pressure, and trying to be "who they are" but the helicopter parent manipulates the child's thoughts until they end up with a mental problem of "who they are" later in life. It leads to them being either so dependent on themselves, or a co-dependent to another. Like, taking care of a non working man, because that is all they believe they are worth. It's sad what a parent can do when they won't just let a child be themselves. It's like NO CONVERSATION ABOUT WHO THEY ARE is needed, but when it's pushed on the child, the child therefor, feels they have to make choices far beyond their time, and steals their childhood. I've seen it happen to a few children, and my heart literally bleeds for them, but society doesn't care, nor will they do anything about it. When there's any intervention, the blame is placed everywhere but where it belongs and that is most of the time the parent who doesn't know WHO THEY ARE, so who are they to properly bring up a child. Not that I know anything... lol.. Kelly I think you have no problems dear, you seem to have a well rounded home and good children and husband, so with a functional family who doesn't have parents who put themselves above their children's needs, I think your 3 day a week helicopter parenting consists of paying attention to your children in a positive manner rather than doing things like hurting them mentally. I can't picture you saying you Laural, "you must think this way or that way." But my good guess is you were raised properly with good parents.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Kat - thank you! I also have only recently heard of the term helicopter parenting! I am very open with my girls and they all are productive, self sufficient honor roll students. (Laurel is in college). We are very tight - and yes, I am in their business but it's all appropriate. As usual Kat you surprise me with how well read you are! You really are a wealth of info girl!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Well, thank you in return. :) And you're welcome. The thing is, I don't like to be serious a lot and I like a lot of fun, but when I find a person who is smart, I will literally fall into their world, but only until I learned what I needed to know. Then if they cannot find humor or fun in that world, I can't be there anymore. Remember yesterday when I told you I visited my Dr? lol.. he was pleasantly surprised when he asked me "Will I ever really know you" and I said, no. There's no reason for you to. You're someone I need for my health, and I spent a good deal of my years skipping school and reading rather than skipping and getting high. I was never in trouble for that, because all my parents cared, was that I WAS INDEED learning. I'm glad to hear your kids are on the honor roll, I never carried good grades until the library was within walking distance of my school, and the only reasons my grades didn't put me in honor roll is because I didn't eat what was in front of me, because like we talked about that (in order to get the grade you have to mark the wrong answer that they say is right) Not many other parents agree with that. Your kids know the difference.

I sought out the wealth of information that the building called library held. I did carry 4.0 in college, but schools bored me and are too easy, and from what it sounds like to me with your kids, it's too easy for them. Honor students are either felt to be made they're not good enough if they're not honor roll, and stupid if they are not, or they are whizzing through it (without a funnel lol) because their brains are seeking out more, and if your child came home and wanted to read or write or color their hair blue and dance in circles, only to stop and write a song or a poem or a story about it, then why would you rob them of that creativity? That's exactly what it would do. If one of your children was not honor roll, you'd not be making that child feel less than the one that was, as long as they knew just to be a good person, that is the importance in life. When I was in my teen years that I couldn't go out, I read my dad's books. Philosophy, history, geography and sadly I knew of concentration camps while I'd put that book down and go play Barbie or jump rope. I had to always come back to it, because I always crave to know more. But my parents didn't like my art, but they didn't take it away from me. They kept me supplied, and they put that before their needs.

I get highly annoyed at parents today that put themselves first. My parents saved winters for us to be well traveled in the summers. People now days are "omg I could not stand to be locked with my 3 kids for 5 hours in a car" but what I have respect for are people that DO. Like let's say BBG. You know, look what she does, she gives her kids a WEALTH of information and learning when they take their quick family vaca, her kids are not a problem for her! She pack's all 3 of them 'em up, and the family hit the road and they drive a good 2,000 miles, and think what those kids learn from that, rather than sticking them on a plane and sleeping the whole time they're gone. It's a family thing and they make it just that. She'll have well rounded smart children even if a school book doesn't reflect that (although it most likely will surpass that) Because their children are that important to them.

don't anybody get me wrong, not everyone can afford that, but my good guess is her family doesn't go bar hopping or spending on their own needs when they know banked money is going to yield them a trip that strengthens a family bond rather than breaks it down. AH, but if you've only recently heard that term then please read up on it. I have a teacher as a follower whose not heard the term, but it's a very popular wording of those to are overprotective to a FAULT. They harm their children lives, lie to them, teach them to fault others, and ultimately steal their lives and don't let them have so much as their own privacy as a journal without scouring every word. What life is that for a kid... my mother actually taught me to write, my father taught me to read more than a school book, not a story book but a REAL book. I could name countries and capitols before I was 10, and then people wondered why I was stuck up LOL!!!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Kat - I love to travel with the kids - I'm planning a trip to the Black Hills now (South Dakota:) and really looking forward to it!! My nephew is going again too! It's going to be a great time. I don't understand parents who don't have lots of fun with their kids. They will be gone soon enough.

I had an older sister - I begged her to teach me to read when I was 4. I wanted so badly to be able to read myself a story:)!! LOL I also had a library card starting very young. I could go to the library all by myself and I spent hours there!


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Katharella 5 years ago from Lost in America

Kids are fun actually to travel with! And when you are a kid! When my oldest sister didn't have to go anymore, me and my other sister would play games with road signs! We'd make them up! People don't realize it's a fun learning tool!

Oh, our favorite was, the alphabet, I had to find a sign (and we each had to see it, mom and dad moderated)LOL, like to make a sentence. If I was A. Then I had to start the sentence (that made sense with "Alligators" (next exit lol) then hers would have to be B. So sign after sign, "Begin" ugh.. mine would be C.. "Craving".. hers D. Dead.. ew.. "E" .. Eagles" and all the way down the alphabet! or just when we were tired or close her A, me B her C whatever the word meant didn't matter.

That's cute, so did your sis teach ya how to read? You could have been a writer for children's books! Road games can be fun, we did them with license plates too.. in fact I've still done it at this age lol.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

We play an alphabet game similar to that. Dave and I turn on the radio and we try to be the first to guess the song title and artist of each new song. It's fun and really makes the time fly!

Yes - my sister did teach me. Oh I would get so frustrated because I just couldn't learn fast enough. What makes me laugh now is that I was so independent even then - I didn't want an adult to have to read to me. I was tired of having to wait and all those good books I wasn't reading!


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Collisa 5 years ago from California

My daughter's not even allowed to look at a man until she's well into her 40's. (Kidding, of course!) This is a nerve-wracking topic. My girl is 11 now, so I guess I'm coming up to it. Think Ah might go buy mahself a shotgun...


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Collies - I do know the feeling! It is nerve wracking too - even if the date lasts two hours it seems like forever! Haha! Thanks for the great comment:)


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Aceblogs 5 years ago from India

great work there , i have read 2 of your hubs so far and i really liked what you write ! Well i know how anxious and worried parents do become when they have a daughter and they start dating , though i am unmarried yet but my uncle's daughther was caught dating some one by her parents and that was the day of a mess for her !


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hi Aceblogs! Good to meet you:). When parents have girls and they start dating - wow! It's trauma! Lol I was always waiting to hear the car door slam at curfew so I could breathe and sleep. My oldest just moved in with the guy from IT - glad to say he is a really great guy and I like him too. Now - just 2 more daughters to raise!

Thanks so much for the read and comments - made me smile, again: about this!


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Kathleen Cochran 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

When my daughter started dating my husband got right to the point. He put a sign in our yard that said, "In this house lives a beautiful teenaged girl and a Daddy with a shotgun." 'Nuff said!

I just wrote a hub on my youngest son getting married this weekend - you might be interested. In fact I've written a couple on my children's weddings. Certainly material for hubs. Enjoyed yours!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hi Kathleen - I'd love to check your hubs out! My daughter said her BF's mom asked her a ton of questions the other day...one - have you discussed marriage with my son?" and "you aren't going to remodel or do anything to his house ARE you?" I laughed so hard! She's only 23 so not ready for all that yet...but I hear that clock ticking:)

Your husband - hilarious and don't I know the feeling! Thanks for the comment and laughs!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

Poor Laurel! LOL You did good:) My youngest dated and married her high school sweetheart so she took away my fun of being a tough parent and my oldest dated guys I liked and actually married one I like! Maybe with Faith I could be a tough granny!!!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Sunshine - you are lucky! I have gone though a couple boyfriends I did NOT approve of...Dave evn followed them a few times! Hahaha! BUT! Now she gets it! When I ask her to reflect - well she can't even imagine still being with "that" guy. She's like "oh what was I thinking????" I'm like, yeah I know but that's what moms are for:) preventing disasters if possible! Lol


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rgarnett 4 years ago from KC, MO

This is an awesome hub! I am having a girl. This is incredibly helpful. I will be sure to hold tight to it, well into her teenage years!


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hi rgarnett! Awww - congratulations!!! But yes...the boys will be trying to take her away from you before you know it! LOL Good Luck and my best wishes!!


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livewithrichard 4 years ago from Charleston, SC

Awesome!!! If I had girls I would do the same thing. I was very protective of my nieces and they hated bringing boys over to meet me. I was always polite and would engage them in conversation which sooner or later would involve me showing the boys my display case that houses my military and special forces awards and a few shiny firearms. I just wanted them to have something resonate in the back of their minds that my nieces were not play things and they had an uncle that was passionate about their well being. Fortunately, we never had a problem.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hey Livewithrichard - I love those ideas! haha! And yes - just let them know you are very good with names and you never forget a face too! haha!

Thanks so much - I bet you are a favorite uncle - my uncle played rugby for years and is pretty stocky and he used to like to be my body guard too:) haha I speak to him about every week and consider him one of my best friends to this day!


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

Thanks for the information, now I know what to do in a few years time. (And thanks for the laughs! )


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hi Melovy:) lol It is such an emotional thing when your children start dating! My oldest just moved out. ahhhh! So weird...she is such a grown up now. Only two more to go. Good luck my friend!


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Margaret Scarboro 4 years ago

This will definitely come in handy, since my daughter is 17 going on 50.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Ohhhh 17! Now that is a fun age - NOT! lol My oldest one was ancient at 17 and she just knew everything! I used to say she was just a walking encyclopedia! haha! Good luck to you! Get the finger print kit!


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Very interesting hub. You seem like a tough mother, but cool and understanding at the same time. Your daughter will appreciate that. I just started reading your hubs and I like your work. thanks for sharing!


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hi lovedoctor - I really am a tough mom. I love having a great time and doing a lot of fun stuff but the work comes first. Like if they clean their rooms then they go to the movies. I am no nonsense when it comes to behavior or responsibility. But hey - so far - the oldest is 23 now and is almost finished with her bachelor's in Criminal Justice. She works full time at a mortgage company, does not live at home and drops in to see me often. The youngest just got an academic award for having an A average for 2 years in a row:) The middle girl always hits honor roll and so far - no one but me has needed counseling! hahaha!

Thank you very much!


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Congratulations! You must be very proud of them. Lol.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO Author

Hey lovedoctor - so far so good! I am a pretty proud mama:)

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