"Why Do Some Mothers Envy their Daughters"

 I have met quite a few unhappy young women that have problems with their mothers envying them or being jealous of them and they are miserable because they don't know why their mothers are competing with them. I think this is a ridiculous notion on the part of the mothers, but it's apparently happening in the world that we live in. I don't  really understand, why a mother that suppose to love her children, be jealous or envious the begrudge them happiness. Mothers should love their daughters and be proud of them, like I am of my three, I don't envy them anything, because I'm a mother that want the best of all worlds for my girls. We as mothers should treat them like beautiful and blessed women that they are, and not like they are the other women.  How can any mother be in competition with their daughter over anything and feel good about it, whether it's fashions, relationships, or men. Mothers how can  we love our daughters, if we want to live their life and not ours, remember , we already been there and now it's time for her to walk her road without us interfering.

We should stay in a mothers place, meaning not trying to compete with our daughters over anything, let's try to live our lives, so our daughters can be proud to call us mother, and not the other way around. We don't want our daughters to be afraid of bringing her friends a round because, we aren't acting our age and being a mother, instead of a friend.Our daughters don't need us to be a friend, they need us to be mothers and do what mothers are suppose to do. My daughters are all grown and I have never partied with them, no more than around the house at our family reunion, but never have went out with them, because I would feel uncomfortable out of my element and I sure they would feel uncomfortable in my mines.We, on occasion go to the movies or out to eat , but that's it. Mothers have to know there place; just as children have to know theirs.  Mothers that are in competition with their daughters are sick and don't know it. I'm not trying to put anyone down, but if you have this problem with your daughters, you should go get mental health help, so you can get back on the right track of living in your adult element and not in your children element.The mothers that have this problem may not see the damage they're doing ,to their relationships with their daughters, and by the time they realize it; it might be to late to repair the damage that's already been done. If this is you mother, you need to grow up and stop being so selfish with your daughter, better yet,sit down and act your age for once in your life.