The first thing that comes to mind is the ability to be myself with my daughter as her father had the tendency to control those around him, which ultimately affected my behavior and the natural flow of things. The behavior, of which I speak, is negative; and not something I wish for my child to witness. Suffice to say, we brought out the worst in each other. Although it was a difficult choice, I believe the greatest gift I can give her is my true self; and I feel we have a greater bond because of the decision I made. Sadly, it is very difficult for her to be shuffling back-and-forth between homes; however, I hope she will come to understand one day that not only did I do it for her or me - I did it for us.