Ugh... Potty training! My son is 3.5 and we were having the hardest time! It was work and my husband and I both work, which made it even more difficult when it came to potty training. I tried everything from color dye in the toilet to books... you name it!!
A few things that worked:
1. Consistency - schedule a time when you have him go to the bathroom.
- I discovered my son would always have an accident around 9am, anticipate it and be proactive. Get him to the toilet!
2. Accidents will happen - Let him wear underwear when he's home. Accidents will happen, but the diapers nowadays are so good, that kids pee their pants and don't feel a thing!
- On long trips or out and about, he should wear pull ups until he's ready!
3. Reward System - find out what he really enjoys. My son has been wanting to go to Chuck-E-Cheese forever! (not sure why, but hey!) Get a picture of the place or the toy he really wants and make a chart.
- I made a chart with a ladder and got a picture of him and taped it to a popsicle stick. Everytime he pees in the potty he goes up one step, for poop in the potty, he goes up three. If he has an accident, he goes down 3. He has 21 steps to get up. If he reaches the top! He can have the prize.
4. Praise - Of course, everytime he goes pee or poop, he's going to want to share it with you. Make a REALLY BIG DEAL about it! and make sure to call grandma, or auntie to rave about it!
Good luck... it's not easy! but it will happen. :)