Experienced mothers, What is the best advice you could give to a new mom?

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   Ms Chievousposted 12 years ago

   Experienced mothers, What is the best advice you could give to a new mom?

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   Thundermamaposted 12 years ago

   If possible create a good support network for yourself of other new mothers and people who would be happy to come and give you an hour or two off. As much as you will love and treasure your new little one, there will be moments where you will be desperate to get away from them for the sake of your sanity. good luck!

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   fitmomposted 12 years ago

   Cherish each day you have and build a strong relationship with them that will last a lifetime. Take time to take care of yourself and do small things to pamper yourself. I didn't do that with my first baby and I've done much better the second time around.

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   msvioletsposted 12 years ago

   Listen to your gut instincts.  There is a huge difference between new mother jitters and that inner voice that tells you when there's something 'different' going on.  Get to know that voice, and when it speaks...listen.  Don't let the doctors dismiss valid concerns.  Ask questions so you can understand why the pediatrician is or isn't concerned. 
   Learn.  Find other parents, ones who have a relationship with their children that you can respect.  Surround yourself with mentors.  Listen to input; and then do what you feel in your own gut is right.  Forget clocks and schedules and 'the right way'.  Your way, what works for your family, is the right way.  All babies, and all families are different. 
   Enjoy it while it lasts!

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   algarveviewposted 12 years ago

   I don't know if I qualify as an experienced mom, after all my twins are only (almost) four, but I would say: be patient, you are not suppose to know everything, this is new to you, you are learning, it's okay to make mistakes, it's also a way to learn, you are not suppose to know your child and know what to do immediatly as soon as you have him/her, it takes time, but in time you will know what to do, what he/she needs, when, and who he/she is better than anyone, it's just not automatic. One day at a time. All the best to you and your baby and have a wonderful day!

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   Becky Katzposted 12 years ago

   Discipline your child and teach them to behave while they are little. Once they get to three and four years old, it is too late to start.
   Make time for you. Their father can watch them once in awhile so you can take a bath or meet with friends.
   Make time for your spouse or partner. You will not last as a couple if you can not be alone together, even if it is just running to the store together without the kids. The kids will do better with both parents together raising them.
   I am a grandma now and I am still with their father. We still love to be together and we still go on dates. My children want that for themselves. Give them something to strive for.

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   GoodLadyposted 12 years ago

   Oh, just love your baby!  Put a bit of lipstick on. (Rest as much as you can!) Eat nourishing foods, even if all you have time for is a granola bar or yogurt.  Try to have a morning walk (the air is good for you both and so is the exercise once you are OK to walk).  Keep on chuggin' and bring baby with you (rather than treat your baby like somebody who has to be treated with golden gloves).  Get one of those sling things that will keep your baby next to you.   Babies want to be a part of it. Keep normal house sounds, (don't shsshsh) so they get used to their new home.
   Just keep them clean, fed and cuddled and take care of yourself and you'll be fine.

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   Starmom41posted 11 years ago

   I'd say don't fall into the current trend of using pacifiers.  If you spend your time with your child, you will learn to understand his needs.

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