aww this is too cute. put the spoon in and out of your mouth a few time in front of her, do this everyday until she catch on. make it look fun like making airplane sounds when you take it out or putting the spoon in your mouth. if she want to grab the spoon out of your hand let her. check to see if she is left or right hand. i would put my kids in their high chair, put their bibs on, put the spoon in the jar and see what would happen next. boy did i have some cleaning to do. it only last a few day and soon they was feeding their self. Hope what I suggest help little.