Yes, I am the daughter of alcoholics, and the "not favorite" for the side of the family that seems to think a favorite must be chosen. I have to admit that it took me many, many years to resolve the major issues around parents and learn to do without signs of their love. Initially it was just a matter of acting out until I reached 15, when I found places to stay away from home. A quick perusal through my hubs will show a small sampling of some of the other struggles I went through emotionally and mentally at a time when I did not have the tools to deal with them.
Tomorrow I will be 26, and as of today my mother has been sober for nearly 9 years. Around year three of her sobriety we were able to start re-connecting, and today we have a good friendship -- not a traditional mother/daughter relationship, but we can now enjoy time together and I trust her with my kids.
There are some issues that I'm not sure I'll ever completely resolve for myself, but I have been able to find a fulfilling life that I love and have been able to put most of those unresolved issues behind me. One of the most damaging beliefs I held for most of my childhood and young adult life was that a parent always loves their child, and always puts him/her first....which made me wonder what was so wrong with me that I couldn't be loved like that. If I had been able to understand that I wasn't at fault, that the issues weren't mine and there was nothing I needed to fix, I think there are many things in my life that would have turned out very differently.