When my daughter first got on Facebook, the agreement was that both her dad and me be friended - and that we have her password. Those were our conditions and she was fine with it. There were comments here and there from "friends" that were maybe not what I would like to see, but I held back on the criticism. Only issues of someone using foul language or saying something that my radar thought needed attention (there was a friend who was having personal difficulties). That's the long way of saying that you really need to realize that Facebook is their social "hangout" and that sometimes they will complain about you or say "my life sucks" and you just keep watch and maybe mention it in passing, but mostly realise it's how they blow off steam. I listened ALL THE TIME when my daughter told me about computer games and Facebook games - and I visited every one and checked them out. Today, she's almost 19, and I trust her implicitly to make good decisions online. I guess the way to prove it is that she still lets us know her password from time to time when we need to check something and she is not near a computer. You also have the computer as a discipline tool once she is online. Most importantly, don't just say "no computer tonight." Literally, unhook the keyboard and keep it elsewhere (if it is a laptop, password protect it and exert your power). Facebook (or something like it) is here to stay, and as long as you monitor without being a helicopter, and limit use (not on school nights, for example), you'll be okay.