When I was a kid my mother said that she believed in "limited democracy". We started having a voice in the decisions in our house when we came of school age. But a limited voice, we could ask questions about things, we could have opinions, and we could vote. But a voice under 10 years of age had only one vote. After 10 years of age we had two votes, after 15 - three votes. and the adults in the house took the votes into consideration and had to provide a very good reason to override those votes.We learned how to discuss our reasons for our votes, and that could help sway other voters in the house. The adults made the final decisions based on votes and reasoning. We learned about decision making from an early age, but we had guidance in our decisions because we lived in our parents house. I still think this was a good process because she taught us how to ask questions and look at possibilities before we made our decisions. Kids need to be involved, but parents must teach the ways, reasoning, and consequences of decisions. By the time I was 15 I was making some really good decisions and a couple of really bad ones, but she let me live with some of those bad ones depending on the consequences. If I chose to wear pink and orange polka dots with green shoes it was my problem.