This happens to me sometimes. I will get so frustrated because I feel like I am always saying the same thing. Fighting the same battles. But if I actually take the time to think before I yell and speak to her in a manner in which she feels like I am talking to her and not yelling at her, she will respond much better. We have to realize that how we react is how they are going to feel. So if we are yelling and angry, they are going to get angry and react in that way. If we are calm and understanding, then they will be calm and be much easier to talk to. It takes practice. Sometimes we are stressed, tired and just do not want to deal with it, but the more we listen to our kids, the more they will listen to us. If they are acting out, there is usually a reason why. Even when they get a little older and can express themselves in words, sometimes they do not know which words to use to express themselves. Maybe they had a bad day, they can be stressed, even as kids. It takes understanding on both parts and a lot of communication. The better we communicate with our children, the easier it will be.