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How do you cope with feeling your life turned out all wrong?


I know the common strategies for general coping - thinking positively, being grateful, believing that "It's never too late to be what you might have been," going to counseling, and on and on. But at those moments when you look at facebook, etc and see pictures of your friends with their families around them, people who have grandchildren, etc. etc., and you have little of that in your life - how do you cope at those moments? I imagine there's no "silver bullet". You try to be very grateful for what you do have and immerse yourself in your work and helping others, but...

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Bruce A. Beaudet says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Very good points, Bruce. Thank you. Did I mention to you before that my dearest college friend and the dear friend he married are Beaudet's? Chuck designs exquisite quality jewelry in Eugene, OR.


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    Insane Mundane 3 years ago

    That's right; it is all about the experience... An occasional numbskull learns along the way, while the many go with the flow in an aimless fashion all while the majority acts as mere variables within other peoples' path. The sun sets & rises..

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Dora Isaac Weithers (MsDora) says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    MsDora, as usual you have great insight. I don't think my grandmother situation will change in the foresee-able future, but that could happen. 'Count your blessings, don't compare your blessing with other's blessings' (I just heard that recently)


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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Cute: "not many people are going to post photos of themselves crying on Facebook" That has GOT to be the quote of the decade! Love it! I know what you're saying abt the "swapping" places - nor would we want to swap if it came down to it, right?

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Poetic, I like your approach. I'll check out your hubs that you mentioned might help. I love the phrase "all that barley". I might just adopt it!

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Diana L Pierce (Diana Lee) says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Thanks Diana. Everyone struggles, that's true. I guess when we're brave enough to "wonder if we could have done something better along the way," it opens us up to doing something better NOW. Cheers!

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Anne Pettit says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Anne, the quote is beautiful. Thank you for your kind words about my profile. I'm deciding to embrace DashingScorpio's quote: 'People don't post photos of themselves crying on facebook.' I love it. Thank you again. Cheers!

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Devika Primić (DDE) says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    DDE, (love how your name is kinda like a play on words (names) True. Like you mentioned, I'm trying to figure out what I actually want this last chapter of my life to be.

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Patricia Scott (pstraubie48) says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Pstraubie48, you add true perspective with the story of your grandson. Thank you for "the Angels" You're very kind.

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Deborah S. Lawrence (deedeelaw) says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Deedeelaw, I have recently decided that I want to make the last chapters "spectacular". Thank you for that image!

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Great practical hints, Lupine. Have you made a nice hub on these points because I think they would be great since they are a combination of various points, packaged into one.


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Paula (fpherj48) says

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Thank you for such wonderful encouragement. This is quite beautiful. I really don't know how to respond other than to say I'm very touched, fpherj48.(I suspect your "name" might be consistent with a "rap" I wrote about how women my age don't say **)


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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    I like the "good karma" concept. And the fact that 1 never knows if something is a blessing in disguise. In 2005 my husband was laid off and we had to sell the house we bought. Guess what? It was JUST before the bubble burst. - true blessing

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    You're adorable! I read 1 or 2 of V's books yrs ago, but I think I should try that again. I love the concept of "some huge cosmic mistake". I find that delightfully humorous. I've wondered if we're all here by mistake b/c so much is unfathomable.

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    Billie Kelpin 3 years ago

    Rt, lovely! The one reason why I feel happy that my daughter started to focus on comedy is because for that time she's on the stage, she truly does bring a smile to others' faces. I that wish that each of us has quite noble in our human existence.

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