What harmful mistakes are made by parents raising daughters?

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   What harmful mistakes are made by parents raising daughters?
   
   

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   Parents who make the mistakes when raising teenagers are often those who  are not educated enough to know how to raise their teenagers.  The harmful mistakes are introducing their past traits to the new generation

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree.

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      Ericdierkerposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      One could argue just the opposite. A failure to pass on good moral traits to the new generation. Seems to me the problems are not so much bad morals as a lack thereof.

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      Lizam1posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I too agree with you.  Also seeing "themselves" as their daughters re-creates the cycle and can induce mental health and other social problems.

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   Jackie Lynnleyposted 10 years ago

   I think by letting them grow up too fast. You see such young girls hanging at malls dressed like, well, like they shouldn't. They look to be ten and twelve maybe with make-up, the works. I think it is so sad they never get to be little girls. Give them an interest in something besides boys!

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      Lizam1posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Once children get beyond 8 it is sad that many parents think they don't need to "parent" any more.  Then when the relationship breaks down and their daughter (or son) is choosing to do whatever, the parents, and society, blame the children.

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   LopezUnleashedposted 10 years ago

   My main concern is the way we teach our daughters NO respect for their bodies.  Call me old fashioned if you will, but it scares the day light out of me to see what girls are wearing these days, especially in the summer months.  Those tiny bathing suits are just so not smart.  Shorts should not be THAT small, skirts should not be so short, tanks should not reveal so much, there is NO need for a 5 year old to wear high heels, and don't even get me started on the makeup.  Girls are learning way too young how to market their bodies and they I believe that many parents are not truly aware of what they are doing.  It makes me sick to see full grown men oogle and stare down a pair of 12 year olds and talk nasty about them as they walk by.  I realize that sometimes men are just pigs and it doesn't matter what our girls wear, there will always be someone out there to disrepect them anyway.  However, that is NOT an excuse to not bother to teach girls to treat their bodies as a gift to be cherished not exploited and oogled at.  And I do firmly belileve there would be less of that problem if we started both genders off right.  Girls to respect their bodies and boys to respect girls bodies as well.

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      Lizam1posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      So, just a note as mum raising two teen daughters.  Some of the "yummy mummies" are guilty of same and in fact put their very young daughters into clothes that are about fashion not about play.

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   skgraoposted 10 years ago

   Giving freedom to do what they want is the worst mistake but if you do not give that freedom it may be still a worst mistake.You have no choice now in this 21st century all ready we see tradition have disappeared and culture has come from models who expose god given body to sex criminals and get in to mess or get killed.If girls do not make mistakes parents are very very LUCKY.

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      Lizam1posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      We all have choices about how we parent.  Tradition and culture has also resulted in girls being killed and sexually exploited.  Mistakes are part of what shapes who we are.  Acceptance and guidance is what helps us not repeat the mistakes.

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   pstraubie48posted 10 years ago

   I guess I was lucky as my parents raised me well ...I was taught to be confident, independent, and self assured. I was taught many life skills before I went off to college.
   If parents are not teaching those things to their daughters then that would be what I think would be harmful.

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   Lizam1posted 10 years ago

   The most important thing to do for our children is maintain the relationship and focus on how we behave as parents.  As a parenting educator  and family support worker, many of the troubled girls I see - anxiety, depression, self harm, eating disorders etc comes from lack of attachment, being put down, ignored at home or too much pressure to be perfect. 
   
   Connect and nurture is the key and goes with no name calling such as "lazy" or "stupid" . What we can do is guide our daughters to understand role models they want to be like and explore with them what it is they like, help them express their values and respect things they like to do, set good boundaries around safety and behaviours in the home and outside. 
   
   Telling a teen "not" to do something is likely to lead to the opposite, talking to a teen about values and making safety plans together when and if mistakes happen leaves the door open and makes the relationship stronger.
   
   Hope for the good and the good will follow.  Expect the worst and the worst will happen.

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   peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

   In Asian countries, parents tend to overlook the positive parts of raising daughters. They have the concept that when daughters are grown up, they will marry off and do not belong to the family anymore. That is why most parents give their possessions to sons instead of daughters. This is the worst  and wrong way that parents think.

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