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Amen! I also choose to not have children but still could never imagine my child calling me by my first name. There would be a swift and firm correction that would last a lifetime!
Linda Bryen says
My grandfather + great grandpa were Filipino. My dad was a loving, no nonsense type that taught us to be polite + respectful. To each his own I guess but I am still shocked by this disrespect whenever I see it .
Eric Calderwood says
I agree. My dad was always dad or daddy because I respected him and his role in my life. Never did it cross my mind to address him by his 1st name because it is disrespectful.
Anywhere - parents can choose to be known by their first names if they like. I'm in New Zealand, it's not common but it is done. Each to their own.
Penny Godfirnon says
I agree in theory but at times the behavior isn't corrected + is forced upon others. If a child is not taught to address people properly, they will have needless difficulties + some of these same kids have many problems following rules + laws.
The thing is that calling their parents by their first names does not mean they will be rude kids. They are as capable of being raised to be respectful to others as children calling their parents mum and dad.
Yes, this reality I do not deny. However, I do speak from seeing it in action that fairly often those who have no qualms about disrespecting family will easily (if not more so) disrespect those outside their family in various situations/settings.
Why is it seen as disrespectful? Perhaps the parents prefer to be called their 1st name as a respectful term? It's not like the child is deciding + doing so against their wishes. I know very polite kids who use 1st names + rude kids who don't.
Acknowledging one's title shows recognition + appreciation of another's role/work, the very definition of respect. Not doing so is disrespectful whether the kid is a good or bad apple in other ways. Not doing so can be an insult or faux pas.
The choice of the parents to use name rather than title is not an automatic sign that the children will disrespect others. I'm sorry but being respectful is taught - not automatically known by using Ma + Pa.
I agree that respect is taught and acknowledging a person's role via title and properly addressing that person particularly when they are an elder is being respectful.
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