Unfortunately, most people practice dumb dating instead of smart dating. When one dates &/or enter into a relationship, one must assess his/her partner's physical, educational, emotional, intellectual, mental, psychological, & socioeconomic qualifications. Also, the person that one is dating &/or in a relationship with must have similar &/or even slightly better aforementioned qualifications. No one in his/her right or logical mind would date or enter into a relationship w/a person who has less of the aforementioned qualifications than h/she has.
However people do not date smart or have smart relationships. That is why there are so many marital difficulties. Each & every aspect of a person must be thoroughly assessed before dating &/or entering into a relationship w/him or her. This goes quadruple when considering a spouse. So many people do not marry smart but marry dumb. When one is considering marriage, the physical, educational, emotional, intellectual, mental, psychological, & socioeconomic fitness of the future spouse must be thoroughly assessed & considered. Unfortunately, too few people do that which result in less than idea home environments, particularly for the children. When one dates, enters into a relationship &/or consider marriage & ultimately parenthood, one must do so as an adult, not as an overemotional adolescent.