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Is public humiliation an acceptable punishment for children?


was a story of a guy who caught his son being a bully, then made his kid hold a sign listing his punishments and posted it on Facebook - it went viral. People are justifying this saying it will teach his son a lesson. Yes, perhaps - but at what cost? Do we teach kids not be bullies by bullying them back with public humiliation? Why do these things go viral and why do people think these parents are "brilliant" in their approach to discipline? A kid who is a bully is already damaged - how is damaging them more publicly supposed to help? I was both bullied & abused and I can't see the logic.

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win-winresources says

22 months ago
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    Christin Sander (ChristinS) 22 months ago

    I agree there should be consequences for actions. In this particular case, the boy was 15 - old enough to know better certainly. There are numerous "public shaming" things viral on the internet though and I think it is counterproductive.

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peachy (peachpurple) says

22 months ago
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    Christin Sander (ChristinS) 22 months ago

    I totally agree that it's likely to make the bullying behavior escalate ultimately.

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22 months ago
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    Ali Reese (Ali Dawn R) 22 months ago

    I appreciate your candor and on-par analysis of the situation with the child.


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Paula (fpherj48) says

22 months ago
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    Christin Sander (ChristinS) 22 months ago

    Paula, I couldn't agree more and I like your approach better - to teach that kindness feels good, as opposed to adding more shame and misery to an already obviously struggling person.

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    Christin Sander (ChristinS) 22 months ago

    Agreed. I think people mistake discipline and punishment. Discipline is positive and instills lessons and morals. Punishment is demeaning and devalues the target. Discipline teaches respect - not humiliation.

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    Christin Sander (ChristinS) 22 months ago

    I'm with you. This is not a situation where "fighting fire with fire" is going to work - at least I don't see how. I can see it reinforcing more bad behavior though.


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