Do you believe in physical punishment for children?

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   ExpandYourMindposted 13 years ago

   Do you believe in physical punishment for children?
   
   Is your response related to your parent's discipline style?

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   DavitosanXposted 13 years ago

   This is a very delicate subject! Personally, I was brought up with light physical punishment. Did it work? Well, the threat of a spanking did get me to behave for a while, but I guess that if my parents had threatened me to take my nintendo away for a week, I would've behaved too.
   
   I vote "no", but it's up to each parent to decide whether they use physical punishments or not. (Caring parents know the difference between punishment and abuse)

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   miss-fortuneposted 13 years ago

   yes, when necessary, and very mild when it comes to physical punishment for children.

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   saddlerider1posted 13 years ago

   When I was a boy, I can't begin to tell you how many times I stood under the clock outside the principals office waiting to get the strap, I devised a method, I would pull one of my hairs out of my head and lay it across the palm of my hand, when the strap came down it would cut my palm a little, thus creating some blood , he would immediately put away the strap and send me back to my class:0)  NO I am happy our kids don't have to go through that cruel punishment, although I wish the school systems of our world would come up with something closer to corporal punishment without the need to draw blood. Good question, you should get a huge response of differing opinions.

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   SilverGenesposted 13 years ago

   No, I don't think I do believe physical punishment is the answer. All that shows a child is that I am bigger than he is and can demand my way through force. It didn't do anything for me as a child except make me angry and secretive. It did not teach me respect but quite the opposite. I think there are better ways but many of us are not smart enough to implement them.

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   jamesbrownbeteposted 13 years ago

   No! There are smarter way to punish them if they can make mistakes. Like giving them some consequences. For me, hurting them physically in order to discipline them is not an act of showing love for children.

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   Apostle Jackposted 13 years ago

   It have to be some type of control to let them know
   what is wrong or right,or they will be teaching you what
   is wrong and what is right.
   The world look for those that are not so swift in life,
   and those that are not taught well,as prey.
   If they don't learn to draw a line at home,the world
   is very cruel in filling in where there is no control nor
   a positive view on life.
   It's the parents fault...when the child is not prepared.
   It's the childs fault,when they dont listen.
   
   No line,no control.no control,no hold.no hold=an unprepared child.
   A little tap here ,and a little tap there,...is OK.
   If not, you can devise your own,but some form of
   punishment must be applied.or you are not giving your
   child a chance.

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   ExpandYourMindposted 13 years ago

   Everyone . . . Thanks for weighing in on this.  I wonder if there have ever been any studies done on the effectiveness or ineffectiveness of disciplinary methods.

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   Sonjadeanposted 13 years ago

   No. That's not showing any love. It is showing more hatred. being a mother of two boys , there have been times when i spanked them but i find that it do not work. i don;t want them gorwing up to abuse women or anyone. I lecture them a lot. I give them extensive chores to do. also i worked in a prison system and we could not hit inmates it's illegal where i come from.It dosn't matter what they say or do to an officer. You have to defend yourself but you can;t strike them just because they are locked up. I give the same discipline to my chil;dren. Everyday they do not talk back to me or yell and direspect me. This is more effective. Jesus did not hit anyone either. He used parables.

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    coolhubsposted 13 years ago

    I think in our stoneage its a resounding no.
    We know better the consequences of physical punishment.
    Subconciously that child will grow up to abuse others who are under them or those less physically strong than them. Sometimes physical punishment can be seen as a form of cry  of helplessness.
    Physical punishment create actual pain which is highly resented.
    If you explain what one has done is wrong,then agree on some remedy or a punishment, it is more effective.The punishment ought to help in reflecting on why it has been necessary and not to show who is in power.
    Where a punisment is necessary,a certain withdrawal of something or grounding is good enough.

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    LovingOurChildrenposted 13 years ago

    Well, I wrote an article about this (and other forms of discipline and punishment) at Ezine Articles, so rather than reprint it all here, it might be better to supply a link:
    
    http://ezinearticles.com/?Resolving-Con … id=5232137

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    samster1989posted 13 years ago

    Well, physical punishment is essentially causing minor damage to a person's body, thus disassembling some cell structures of their flesh. Now, when you hit a child, lets say for talking bad, stealing, or shooting spit wads in class, you are connecting  that act to their body, but whether or not a person's body is intact has no moral connection to our habits. I mean, its like limiting a person's free speech because they're room is messy! Its just arbitrary, based on the principles that if you do something bad you have to be miserable for some arbitrary unrelated reason. On the other hand, if my child were to hit a friend while playing, the child is misusing the relationship with its friend and it would be better to take away the rights to company with that friend temporarily, because the principle of this is that if you are going to misuse something you have no right to have it. If you use a toy or object, whether its your hands or a toy car to hurt people, you have no right to have that toy, at least in the context in which it is harmfull. In addition, hitting a child for hitting a friend is hypocritical no? Abdul-Baha, a serious activist for peace to say the least, said "O ye loving mothers, know ye that in God's sight, the best of all ways to worship Him is to educate the children and train them in all the perfections of humankind; and no nobler deed than this can be imagined," and I don't see the act of hitting and minor acts of disassembling a person's body as constituting a perfection of human kind. Be kind to the kids man.

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    Mayaanjaliposted 13 years ago

    It does not seem appropriate in the present age.  But there are certain children who respond to change only after some form of physical punishment.
    Depends on how far the physical punishment can go!  But in general no!  I do not believe in it .

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    The Suburban Poetposted 12 years ago

    I was spanked but not often as a child. My parents picked their spots. But they did ues a belt. I spanked both my children but again it was sparing. I think I was just so outrage by their disrespect or whatever it was that I ended up spanking their behind with an open palm. I think they were more shocked and chagrined by this than anything else. I found that within an hour they were looking for my approval. They would hover around me and hug me. At this point they are not discipline problems beyond typical childhood selfishness....  (15 year old boy and 8 year old girl).

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