Happy Belated Mother's Day

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to all forgotten mothers. The traditional intact family takes one day each year to honor their mothers. But not all mothers who should be honored are. This highly commercialized day targets your typical family. Who will send a card to the mother of an only child who has lost that child through an accident, illness or untimely death?

Who will send a warm greeting to the mother of a fallen soldier; especially sad , heart-breaking if this was her only child?  Who will honor the mother of the drug addicted youth?  She sacrificed as much as her neighbor to feed, clothe and educate this child. How does the day make her feel? Does the silence keep her in bed all day , unable to face the day?

What about the mother of an incarcerated child?  Does she love that child less?  No matter what plans she laid down that child had his/her own agenda, never really listening to her guidance.  Determined to do what 'they' wanted at all times, hell-bent in destroying their lives. Did this mother deserve what life handed her?  Does she see this day as just another reminder of not meeting her goals?  Is she able to grow past the hurt, this child has caused her and her family?

What about the mothers of missing and exploited children, how does this day bring them joy? Perhaps, a parent or relative is keeping this child from them; perhaps that child was so young that they've forgotten her face.  Is she not still the mother to this child?  I hope she keeps herself busy or has other relatives to bestow some kindness on her this day.

Finally, the mothers of all adopted children and children in foster care; these children have been blessed with two mothers.  Do they honor one or both if they know their biological mom? If they were abused by the biological mother do they still honor their adoptive or foster mom ?Upon meeting the biological, do they feel the adoptive mom's job is done?  "She's not their blood."  Does the worth of one mom change upon meeting the other mother?  Obviously, each child/young adult will have a different perspective to all of these questions.  But there are deserving mothers out there who never get any recognition on their day.

If there is another group of mothers I have forgotten , please consider you as part of this remembrance.  I don't have the answers but I often contemplate these questions and hope that we are all sensitive to others who may not be having such a wonderful day because they were forgotten.

" Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you." Kahlil Gibran

" Mothers never change , I guess,

In their tender thoughtfulness.

All her gentle long life through

She is bent on nursing you;

An' although you may be grown,

She still claims you for her own,

An' to her you'll always be

Just a youngster at her knee. " Edgar A. Guest

"The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and , in a sense tragic . It requires that most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother and become fully independent." Erich Fromm

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fetty 5 years ago from South Jersey Author

angie ashbourne thank you for stopping by.


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angie ashbourne 5 years ago

Hi! Excellent Hub! I like the photos. God Bless Angie


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diyabhatt 6 years ago from Noida

Thank you so much for your kind words Fetty. Thanks for your best wishes... :)


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

diyabhatt, your work ethic is impressive. I am so happy that you have an adorable husband, too. I wish you nothing but the best in your life together. God Bless!!


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diyabhatt 6 years ago from Noida

My pleasure Fetty...but after getting married am unable to give them time....I work for 9 hrs in my office and have to work frm home too...at times I even don't get a week off...I miss my mum very much...I got maried 3 months back...my adorable hubby takes care of me...he don't let me cry much.... :)


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

diyabhatt, thank you for your kind comments about my hub. You realize you are mothering those children and in many ways there are you! Thank you for stopping by.


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diyabhatt 6 years ago from Noida

It's indeed a very beautiful hub Fetty...I really liked it a lot....As I don't have mother, I know her value....I salute my mom and all the lovely moms around the world, for their sacrifice and love for their children. :)


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Words by Mike thankyou for reading my hub. I appreciate your insight . Your writing is moving, beautiful and informative.


Words by Mike 6 years ago

Beautiful... Very touching Fetty. Good job. :)


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Thankyou for your kind comments. I commend you for helping to raise your nephew. I will be happy to read your related hub. Please consider writing a book about this young man's experiences. I am sure you have your trials but I hope you are blessed with great fun and wonderful life experiences together. Your mother sounds wonderful. Thanks again.


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Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

fetty, this is a sweet hub. What compassionate insight to think of mother's day in these special conditions. Thought provoking. I voted it up.

I can relate. I am currently 'mother' to my 16 yo nephew who's own mother and father are incapacitated in many ways and unable to raise him. His life is a story for a book one day...

My mother was an avid reader and librarian. I grew up on collected works of Guest and Gibran. I love the Gibran quote-my all time favorite.

BTW- I too, made a tribute to moms. If curious, check it out.


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Urs-dipak Thankyou for reading my first serious hub. I appreciate your comment.


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Thank you for your kind comments. I wish you all the best with your children. I believe they make life so much more enjoyable. Thanks again!


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green tea-cher 6 years ago

A very thoughtful hub. I am just now in the final stages of helping my children grow away from me, but I am fortunate enough to have a Happy Mother's Day. I enjoyed your choice of quotes. Thank-you.


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Habee, Thankyou for your kind words. I really respect and enjoy your hubs. Your food hubs are amazing . I am also a former teacher and have some fantastic tales to tell. Loved your school themed hub.


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

This is a beautiful, heartwarming hub!


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

You are welcome and thank you!


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Thankyou very much James. I greatly value your opinion. Congratulations on your hub "The House of David". Your work is amazing and deserves to be a featured hub.


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

A truly lovely Hub. Thank you. I enjoyed reading this fine work.

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