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Can single moms and stay at home moms go back to school?

  1. brittvan22 profile image71
    brittvan22posted 3 years ago

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    If you have child younger than 5 can would it be wise for you to try to go back to College? If so, why? If not, why not?

    1. Ericdierker profile image81
      Ericdierkerposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      The question should never be asked. It is irrelevant. College is not a goal or a situation. College is a place to learn something. It may not even be the right place to learn certain things. So just going to college is meaningless. An appropriate question would be something like: Should I spend time learning and training to be a _______ which I would really like to be? And the answer to that is always YES!
      But, "should I go to college?",,,,, If you ask it that way the answer is always NO!

      1. brittvan22 profile image71
        brittvan22posted 3 years ago in reply to this

        It is not an irrelevant question how dare you make such a presumptuous and blanket statement.. Life is not black and college is a goal to some. To think that setting college as a goal is wrong sounds ridiculous. Some people, no make that a lot of the population was not born with a silver spoon in their mouth and according to our hierarchical structure only less than 10 percent are at the top. Maybe you should take a minute or two out of your day to talk to actual human beings from all walks of life as I have and you see that for college some is their way to a better life for themselves and their families.  For you to be arrogant enough to tell me how to formulate my own question is ridiculous. I say what I want and ask what I want when I want. If you did not like the question the professional or appropriate thing to do was to watch it pass through you feed as many did, not attack without inquiring. Silly Rabbit! I am highly educated and was not asking this question for myself it was to get input from other hubbers, etc. I wanted to see view points from others not one ignoramus dictating what should be said and done. Once again do not school me and for future references if you handle things as you have tried to handle my question try a different approach. You can attract more bees with honey not that molded cottage cheese you have been using masquerading as sound advice or meaningful dialogue.

        1. Ericdierker profile image81
          Ericdierkerposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Strange you can ask what you want but I cannot respond what I want. So very sorry.
          I do not want to harm you and your notions. There is a large American sentiment these days that warns of incurring debt for the sole reason of "being in college". It is going the way of the white picket fence.
          I again apologize for having a different point of view. I hope you do not lead others into college that would be better off pursuing other great endeavors, just for the sake of saying "look at me, I am in college".

          1. brittvan22 profile image71
            brittvan22posted 3 years ago in reply to this

            What I was referring to was a young girl that seemingly has a tragic life. She seems to want more, but is clueless as to getting it. I have ran across people in this situation they have worked for me, etc. I have always tried to be a listening ear and advise them in a way in which they can progress and move forward. This particular young girl lost her mother as a child and her father was absent until recent. The people who raised her or had the most influence or significance in her life were her grandparents and her grandmother is gone. No need to apologize for an opposing view point I just didn't like the tone. It was very abrasive. I feel that people in this situation have been beaten down enough by life, their circumstances, or situations and need encouragement. I see her and I see the future. We are living in a society that truly doesn't value education or the matriculation process. Some use college to incur more debt to collect a refund. However, there are individuals that need it. Look at At&t a multi-billion dollar company and they do not encourage their employees to pursue higher education. One could look at it that they will hire anyone, but I think its a trap. I have moved to the rural south for the time being and had a rude awakening they say they are all about education, but the statistics are the exact opposite. My five year old goes to a school, where school policy says she can not even check out a book although she reads and is more advanced that some of her older cousins. I had to lie about her age just so she could check out a book at the public library under her own library card. I may not affect change for all but for those who need it I will be of assistance. I just think we should help them and uplift them not scold them. As a chaplain I have sat with many and learned so much, the homeless guy you pass on the underpass may have a Phd and life happened, etc. I say don't judge a book by its cover.

            1. Ericdierker profile image81
              Ericdierkerposted 3 years ago in reply to this

              Whoa miss Nelly. You just laid down the best reasons of all in this particular case. She shouldn't go, She Must Go. She is in a space where some childcare is available and probably good to socialize her child. She is in a place where college can be provided almost free of charge. She needs to build up self esteem. She needs some "me" time. She needs to shine by working hard and being an example. She needs a base in order to determine how she can be most productive. She needs to meet good folks in a learning environment.
              The scenario you laid out here is different that the generic, "what should I do?"
              I pay way too much in taxes, but if it means one good shining light can improve her inheritance for happiness, I would pay more.
              And the really cool bottom line is she needs to do it for her child. She needs to stop the old cycle and begin the new one of knowledge and prosperity of intellect.
              My other response was for young adults who graduate high school with nothing better to do. Or single moms who think it would is "just the thing to do". Your person has reason and college is for her.

  2. Silverspeeder profile image60
    Silverspeederposted 3 years ago

    I suppose it depends on your personal circumstances, for instance do you have a plan as to what you wish to learn, can you afford to do so either financially or emotionally, will it benefit you or your family.
    There is nothing wrong with anyone wanting to expand their knowledge but it should never be detrimental to yourself or others.

    1. brittvan22 profile image71
      brittvan22posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Could you expound upon what you mean by being detrimental?

      1. Silverspeeder profile image60
        Silverspeederposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        The time spent on learning could eat into the quality time you are able to give your family or yourself.
        The financial cost could be crippling.
        The knowledge gained could be nothing more than you already know or could learn yourself.
        As i said its all personal.

        1. brittvan22 profile image71
          brittvan22posted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Oh ok, I see where you're coming from. I have found some people do not even consider it in the realm of possibilities, because of their social economic status or embedded ideologies learned from their upbringing. Some yearn to attend, but can't seem to get past the notion that college is for the wealthy or privileged. I guess on some level it is for the privileged those that are privileged to understand its importance and the doors that open the realm of possibilities. I have found that some younger women have become victims of their own self-doubt. You know what I am going to hub on this right now. I think I have enough information and sources. thanks for your input.

 
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