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A Good Foundation for Family Structure

  1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    What is it?

    1. janesix profile image61
      janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      One parent stays home with the kids to raise the family properly while the other parent works. Not both parents working and send the kids off to day care.

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
        Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        I concur.  Furthermore, I think the importance of mothers is highly underrated.

        1. janesix profile image61
          janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          So do I. Babies always do better with a good bond with the mother, breastfeeding for at least a year etc.

    2. dianetrotter profile image82
      dianetrotterposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Oh Kathryn, don't get me on my soap box.  I am sooo tired of hearing about "baby mama" and "baby daddy" sperm donors.  The purpose of having children is NOT to have someone to love you.  Then when multiple fathers are involved the plot thickens.

      In this politically correct world, getting serious means "moving in" together.  This is why it is hard for kids in the inner city to learn.  They have more on their minds when they come to school that cannot be compartmentalized until the school day is over.  Who comes to the parent night, back to school night, assemblies, etc.

      I'm getting upset.  Gotta stop!

      Diane

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
        Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Hi Diane. Thanks for your stand.. on yer soap box.  big_smile

        Here is what I am proposing:
        If MEN understood how their responsible committed behavior could benefit the future of society and the world, they might willingly CHOOSE to control the biological promptings of their hormones.
        This makes sense to me.
        Empowering themselves and guaranteeing a truly hopeful and joyful future would be a win-win for both themselves and society.
        Right?


        Are we men or mice?

        1. dianetrotter profile image82
          dianetrotterposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          For teenagers, hormones speak louder than words.  I do take the risk and talk to them about the cycle of poverty they create by planning to get a "county" check, food stamps and WIC.

          When kids don't come from a family, they are often unable to relate to a well structured family unit.  All they know is what they do.  When they don't venture outside their neighborhoods, they think it is cool for pants to sag and talk stupid.  School field trips provided the needed awareness when there was money.  However, there is no money for trips.  The emphasis is on passing exams that they are not prepared for because of their pasts.  If is easier to stay up than to have to catch up.

          Those teachers who changed the tests were between a rock and a hard place.

          1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
            Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            If men want empowerment, all they have to do is look within. They don't have to impress anyone of their power. They already have it. They can tap into it.
            We need to help them toward the worthy goal of establishing self-mastery. This ability does start in school through appropriate education. It has to do with understanding the big picture of what it takes to thrive in this world. It is becoming more and more crucial for all American citizens, myself included, to ignore their little small pitiful selves and find the hidden tigers within them.

            Keep up the good work, dianetrotter!

            1. dianetrotter profile image82
              dianetrotterposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Thank you Kathryn!  It is possible to encourage them.  The problem is that there are just so many of them and you can't reach all of them.  Facebook helps me keep track of former students.  So I'm able continue to encourage some after school.

              You are sooo right!  We all have to do what we can to encourage and help others.

  2. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    Yes, Indeed.
    ...actually more than a year.

    1. janesix profile image61
      janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      It's sad when it's politically incorrect to say mothers should stay home with their young children.

      No wonder this country is such a mess.

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
        Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        In Europe, new mothers are given two years off! I have heard this… I wonder if it is true...  We should give our new mothers two years off!

        1. janesix profile image61
          janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Or, they should just stay home anyway, and make the children their priority. If the father can't make enough to support the family, then they need to rethink having kids they can't afford in the first place.

          1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
            Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Yes. My thought is this. The father really needs to be committed to his decisions to start a family. If he is willing to take responsibility for what he has caused to happen, all will be fine.
            I think this willingness to take responsibility provides a solid foundation.
            It gets down to intention.

            1. janesix profile image61
              janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I agree.

              1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
                Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                ...would you say it comes down to the father's attitude?

                1. janesix profile image61
                  janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  I would say both parents. If the mother isn't part of the game as well, then there will be trouble.

  3. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    First question, for girls, before having sex with their significant other…" What if I get pregnant?"
    His response should tell them whether or not they should go ahead.

    Did you know that condoms are dispensed at colleges and other locations for FREE here in So. Cal?
    Isn't this encouraging irresponsible sexual practices?

    1. janesix profile image61
      janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Not really. They're going to do it anyway, it's just natural. So they might as well use proper protection.

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
        Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Condoms are not proper protection. 1% chance of pregnancy is too much chance of pregnancy.
        Why is this so hard to comprehend?
        Our society is just too permissive in my opinion.
        We need freedom within boundaries.
        Not just running-amok freedom.
        No sex until you are married… or at least engaged!

        1. janesix profile image61
          janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Good enough for me.

          1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
            Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Its good enough for anyone.
            If they care about the future.
            The most successful people are proactive and future-oriented.



            MOM.

            1. janesix profile image61
              janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I've never claimed to be a successful person. In fact, I've claimed to be the opposite.

              1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
                Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                hmmm.    But, success is part of survival!
                Isn't it human nature to want to survive?

                1. janesix profile image61
                  janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  I've chosen to have no children, so my defective genes will not infect the gene pool. The future is safe from me at least.lol

                  1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
                    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Children are very expensive. No one thinks of this in the beginning. Why is this?  One can become quite wealthy as long as one stays out of debt and doesn't have the expense of children and/or pets.
                    If I were a man, I would become wealthy first.
                    My grandfather married a wealthy woman to become wealthy.
                    Was this a good thing?   Did he love her?

                    Still Wondering.

  4. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    It would seem empowering to make it clear how Men can influence the future of the world.
    If they care about it.

  5. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    ...are we victims of our own human nature?

    1. janesix profile image61
      janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Of course not. But some people, probably most, will have sex because the urge to is just so strong. They know they could get pregnant, but they set that aside and don't worry about it temporarily. It's pretty strong, don't you think? Especially with the young. They take more risks than a more experienced older person..

      The urge to procreate is strong, because our need to pass on our genes is what drives evolution.

      1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
        Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        drives evolution…
        what drives it?

        1. janesix profile image61
          janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Life?

          1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
            Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            life drives us… and we have no control over life?

            1. janesix profile image61
              janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              We have some. Condoms. Tubal ligations. Birth control pills. Abstinence. It must be hard to do though, as birth control is a multi million or billion dollar industry.

              1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
                Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                ...so the urges within us are instinctive and basically we have no ability to control them.
                Guess so.


                Never mind then, kids. School of hard knocks will set you straight, if you can't control yourselves. Oh well. 
                Yawn…


                MOM

                1. janesix profile image61
                  janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  "so the urges within us are instinctive and basically we have no ability to control them"

                  Of course I've NEVER said anything like that. In fact, I always say the opposite. We absolutely have the ability to go against instinct..

                  I said it's a HARD thing to do. Wouldn't you agree?

                  1. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
                    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    ...well, that's why we have to talk about this issue which is essentially a no brainer.  LOL!
                    Yes it is hard.
                    I guess it is good to admit it. Thank you.
                    ...a lot. smile

  6. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    Self-mastery, wisdom-guided will. These are the things Men need to work on.




    MOM

  7. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    By the way, I am very offended by Madonna's kissing of Drake. See You Tube clip if you dare.
    There is a mom who gave up. What a grubby example of a mom.

  8. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    And I still think freely distributing condoms to college students encourages uncommitted, irresponsible decision making.
    Mature, older adults need to encourage the younger ones to take avenues of personal happiness and success...
    not despair and anguish.

  9. Kathryn L Hill profile image85
    Kathryn L Hillposted 2 years ago

    Am I brilliant or what?

 
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