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How to start a good marriage.

  1. Lgali profile image46
    Lgaliposted 7 years ago

    How to start a good marriage.

    1. anjalichugh profile image87
      anjalichughposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Move forward, accepting that he is different from you and will stay that way. Things become easier if you accept that you two are biologically, psychologically and emotionally very different from each other. Once you know this.. you try to focus your energy on other constructive things which are important for a healthy relationship.

      1. Lgali profile image46
        Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        very nice views some time very hard to think that two are biologically, psychologically and emotionally very different from each other.

    2. Lady_E profile image80
      Lady_Eposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I would say get all the skeletons out of the closet so there are no nasty surprises when you are married.

    3. Paper Moon profile image84
      Paper Moonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      with a wedding

  2. Rotem profile image61
    Rotemposted 7 years ago

    Be yourself, be the woman/man he married to, be his/her best friend ever, dont argue on money issues.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      how to avoid money issues

      1. Rotem profile image61
        Rotemposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        good question.lol

        1. Lgali profile image46
          Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          i find this is major hurdle for good start

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        dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        decide your partner is worth more then money. stick to it.

    2. Davinagirl3 profile image60
      Davinagirl3posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Great advice.  Have a partner with whom you can speak of anything.  Communication is key.  It has been said before, and is always true.

  3. GeneriqueMedia profile image61
    GeneriqueMediaposted 7 years ago

    Umm...don't you turn the key? Or light a match? Or something like that?

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      that is nice ideas light a match

    2. frogdropping profile image84
      frogdroppingposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol funny - and wrong. You just don't start a row. Ever.
       
        big_smile

      1. Lgali profile image46
        Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        i think match is good for long marriage lol

        1. frogdropping profile image84
          frogdroppingposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Yes Lgali - but it's the right match that counts.

          No good pairing polar bears with snakes now, is it?

          1. mydreamsRtrue profile image60
            mydreamsRtrueposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Try something new !
            You'll never will change man. We ladies sometime will change there ways of thinking, but you'll never change ,maybe you could work with him and find out how it will work NEVER discus of Money! You'll never win! YOU'LL NEVER CHANGE A MAN YOU CONTROL HIM BUT NEVER CHANGE HIS WAY OF BEING!

            1. Lgali profile image46
              Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              very differnt take

  4. FunFacter profile image54
    FunFacterposted 7 years ago

    Question that has been asked many times but yet to find a good answer. I think its all about good chemistry.

    1. frogdropping profile image84
      frogdroppingposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yeppers - because we all know what bad chemistry causes don't we?

    2. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yes, good chemistry

  5. livewithrichard profile image84
    livewithrichardposted 7 years ago

    Communication is the key.  Finding out what he/she likes, wants or needs isn't enough, you need to find out what you like, want and need and be able to express it clearly.

    Love is not the answer to a successful marriage, you have to like the person because there will be plenty of days where you feel like you just can't be around anyone. 

    Your partner should be your best friend.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      so love + Communication imp..

    2. maidouxixi profile image60
      maidouxixiposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree with you ~~ "Your partner should be your best friend!"is the best description of the marriage.everyone should put all of your soul and heart each other  .

  6. livewithrichard profile image84
    livewithrichardposted 7 years ago

    Unless you are filthy rich, you will never avoid money problems in a marriage.  The bills never go away the income rises slower than your wants and needs.  The key as I stated earlier is communication. 

    If you are honest and communicate clearly with your partner then the money issues will be handled as a team effort and not as if you were on your own.

    Being supportive and also assertive will help you communicate more affectively.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      so communication is best key for good marriage

  7. Lady Guinevere profile image60
    Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago

    Expect changes in both of you.  The first five years are the crucial years.  Many changes will occur in every aspect of each other's lives to be made into the one.  Communication is the key--you have to be able to talk about the good things and those which you think are bad or too personal.  Never think the other person is groveling too much for think of it as if you were in their shoes.  Remember with some things--the more you talk about it and get it out into the open the better for both of you to heal it.  Be compassionate with each other.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      another good point open Communication

  8. LondonGirl profile image91
    LondonGirlposted 7 years ago

    My flatmate had a T-shirt she wore to the gym, which said, "men are like floor tiles - lay 'em right the first time and you can walk all over them forever."

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      that nice way to have good start

    2. Lady Guinevere profile image60
      Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      LOL

    3. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      nicely said

  9. GeneriqueMedia profile image61
    GeneriqueMediaposted 7 years ago

    Haha, great shirt. ;D

    The first step to a good marriage is to get off of the computer and into a dive bar.

    Well, okay, maybe not a successful marriage, but you'll still have the cake and memories.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      dive bar.LOL

  10. Lgali profile image46
    Lgaliposted 7 years ago

    very nice ideas for starting a new life

    1. GeneriqueMedia profile image61
      GeneriqueMediaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Have you tried marrying a mob boss and having to enter into a witness protection program?

      1. Lgali profile image46
        Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        why to marry mob boss?

  11. Research Analyst profile image77
    Research Analystposted 7 years ago

    Be realistic and be mature enough to know that it is not a honeymoon it is hard work.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      so to start a good marriage a hard work after a brief honeymoon

  12. artificialhaze profile image60
    artificialhazeposted 7 years ago

    Be who you are! Don't pretend that your perfect, none of us are.  If you lay everything out on the table, their will be no lies, no expectations that will be unfulfilled, your partner should know you at your worst.  Let them take care of you when you have the flu.  When you see how they behave around you while your sick, you will know whether or not you should even bother wasting your time!!

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      that is nice
      If you lay everything out on the table, their will be no lies, no expectations that will be unfulfilled, your partner should know you at your worst

    2. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I like your take..

  13. Princessa profile image85
    Princessaposted 7 years ago

    Someone sent me this today:


    An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."


    Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults are not really important.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nicely said

      1. blogdigz profile image60
        blogdigzposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        It's really cool

  14. acouasm profile image73
    acouasmposted 7 years ago

    Not nit-picking about the small stuff.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      that is goo take

  15. HappyHer profile image79
    HappyHerposted 7 years ago

    Treat your partner as they are the most welcome and important guest in your life, always.  They are the ones that should get your best manners, be gracious with them and celebrate them being in your life every day and you'll have the best marriage of all.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nice ideas

      1. HappyHer profile image79
        HappyHerposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        very nice ideas

        Thank you.  They can be hard to remember as life seems to get in the way, and there is a particular sense of security when you feel you can take it for granted that your partner will be there.  But if you can practice the art of giving your partner your best regardless of what else is going on, you will find yourself way ahead of the game of a successful relationship.

        1. Lgali profile image46
          Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          more adjustment with everyday after marriage

    2. TamCor profile image80
      TamCorposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree with you 100%!  My husband and I have done this for all of our almost 21 years together, and it works... smile

      1. Lgali profile image46
        Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        wow this is good advice for new couples

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    Adam Bposted 7 years ago

    I would say to start a good marriage and have a lasting solid marriage, don't try and change your partner.  You love him/her for who they are at the beginning, remember that he/she is that same person you fell in love with years ago.

    If you marry a musician, remember that he/she will ALWAYS be a musician.  Don't try and take that away from them and say things such as "I thought you would grow up and be more responsible" or "I thought you would gro out of it." 

    Yeah...somewhat personal...I'll stop now.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nice points

  17. CennyWenny profile image85
    CennyWennyposted 7 years ago

    Accept the fact that there will be times when you don't like each other, but believe in your marriage depsite it. I think you have to believe in marriage as an institution to really go long term. Have a good friendship, be willing to compromise, and be open.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      sorry to self advertise but check mu hub about marriage there are some changes happening in our lives.
      http://hubpages.com/hub/Is-Marriage-Ins … -in-Danger

  18. Lady_E profile image80
    Lady_Eposted 7 years ago

    Don't hide any secrets.  Get it all out in the open before you walk down the aisle.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      what kind of secrets?

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      dennisemattposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yeah, its a real knife in the heart to find out a lie after 8 or 9 years of thinking you knew everything.
      lies on purpose, to make you think the other person is something they are not because they are afraid if you knew youd leave....just tell it up front..

  19. Sunny Robinson profile image84
    Sunny Robinsonposted 7 years ago

    I think to start a good marriage, you have to keep a mindset of maintaining a good marriage.  It's a long-term and ever-evolving goal, so have the basic priorities in place to maintain it when you begin.  I've never been married, so I wouldn't quite know.  To me it seems like a relationship, but with legal papers.

    So with that in mind, I think about what it takes to start and maintain a good relationship.  Don't act like somebody else from the start, where then after you get past a few bases, you do a complete 180 and scare the crap out of your potential mate. 

    Stay honest, be yourself, and make sure all your quirks are known when things become serious.  Be aware of all your mate's quirks.  Marriage should be when you know you can accept and love all the bad and the good.

    Oh, I'd suggest living with the potential spouse for a few years before marriage to see if I could handle all his living habits.  A good start to a marriage can be spontaneous (some marriages have been spontaneous at the start and survived many years - very rare), but I would hope afterwards there was some realization to wanting to maintain a powerful relationship with the love of your life - for the rest of your life.

    Edited to add: Oh, and a few words for a good start to a marriage.
    1) Openness and transparency.
    2) Boundaries.
    3) Being on the same page on what marriage and love means.
    4) Positive communication and negotiations.
    5) Trust.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      not married and still very very good takes. Congratulation

  20. AEvans profile image70
    AEvansposted 7 years ago

    Begin as friends, before you become lovers. smile

  21. lxxy profile image60
    lxxyposted 7 years ago

    I can say it probably doesn't begin over a black out in Vegas.

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    dennisemattposted 7 years ago

    STARTING a good marriage isnt as hard as maintaning a good marriage. I would say, to start off good, make sure your not jumping into it with unrealistic expectations, like..he/she will change...and also make sure youve known each other long enough that all that beginning nice stuff is over. like, you KNOW he farts...youve seen each other at your worst times and still are madly in love.

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    Um, I forgot the question.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      How to start a good marriage. LOL

  24. kmackey32 profile image82
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    Lots and Lots of sex. LOL

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      nazishnasimposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That turns hair grey ... and then even viagra can't help!

    2. Paper Moon profile image84
      Paper Moonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      with lots of this before and after

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        nazishnasimposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        But then your hair turn grey ... and all the rear things involved! That's isn't a myth? .. is it? yikes

        1. Paper Moon profile image84
          Paper Moonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Better to have grey hair than hairy palms.

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            nazishnasimposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            !?! yikes

    3. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very very nice one

    4. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nice way to start

  25. kmackey32 profile image82
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    LOL yep thats right.

  26. Paper Moon profile image84
    Paper Moonposted 7 years ago

    wink

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      nazishnasimposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Now that explains all the hair on my body! yikes

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    nazishnasimposted 7 years ago

    I know how to end a good one.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      what is the secret

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    is someone thinking of getting married

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yes

  29. soni2006 profile image46
    soni2006posted 7 years ago

    visit my hub on this.

  30. anime_nanet profile image60
    anime_nanetposted 7 years ago

    Marry a good wife

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      how to know if she will be good?

      1. soni2006 profile image46
        soni2006posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Check her out from up to down, in and out and you will get to know the status.

        1. Lgali profile image46
          Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          very nice

  31. Garrett McLee profile image60
    Garrett McLeeposted 7 years ago

    Nothing I read in here seems wrong.  It's a compilation of all of the things everyone here has said.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      nice way to say everything

  32. Bo Bixbie profile image78
    Bo Bixbieposted 7 years ago

    Marry a mute.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very funny advice or marry a sllent movie

    2. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      where I can find

  33. Mac Mission profile image60
    Mac Missionposted 7 years ago

    pure heart with smile and patience makes good marriage. many of them say understanding , chemistry nothing works be patience, keep smile on your face think think think open heartedly accept be happy thats it..........!!!!!!!

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nice
      pure heart with smile and patience all time

  34. Lgali profile image46
    Lgaliposted 7 years ago

    where i can find mute LOL

  35. jenny88 profile image61
    jenny88posted 7 years ago

    not sure how to start one

    I thought I had it right!!!

    I think things change so much as you grow older.

    either closer or further apart.

    starting it is relatively easy!!!
    jenz

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nice

  36. Lgali profile image46
    Lgaliposted 7 years ago

    where I can find mute spouse

  37. Greek One profile image81
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    go into it with really low expectations and with no illusions that it will solve all your problems and make your life heaven on earth

    .... you'll be suprised at how good it can end up being!

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nice take
      low expectations and with no illusions

  38. Beth100 profile image82
    Beth100posted 7 years ago

    Honesty, trust and clear/open communication.  These are the basis of all relationships.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      good take

  39. Bredavies profile image71
    Bredaviesposted 7 years ago

    Remember men might do somethings to annoy you. Read mt article http://hubpages.com/hub/The-Truth-about … Truth?done

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      good one

      1. HubChief profile image68
        HubChiefposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Well does not matter how you start, idea is to maintain long consistently whatever you start with.

        Read article on making your relationship sweeter than sweet and also share with your spouse.
        http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-make-you … than-sweet


        The ideas in this article can be implemented from day 1 with life long commitment on coming back to those again and again.



        1. Lgali profile image46
          Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          nice take

  40. Davinagirl3 profile image60
    Davinagirl3posted 7 years ago

    The best way to start a good marriage is to make sure you know all you can about your spouse.  I understand he/she will reveal only what he/she wishes to reveal, but the more you know the better the relationship will be.  Don't be afraid to let your prospective spouse all of the important details about you... including your credit score.  That way it won't come up and bite you in the butt later.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      good take

    2. beautyrose profile image60
      beautyroseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hi divinagirl. Hope your in good health

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    mtsi1098posted 7 years ago

    mutual trust, mutual respect, much communication and never forget about the little things.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      mutual trust is good one

      1. Lgali profile image46
        Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        very nice

      2. Lgali profile image46
        Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        good one

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    Ghost32posted 7 years ago

    Pam and I started our good marriage by writing a letter to her SSI (disability) caseworker, telling the Feds to take their money and shove it.  To say they were shocked would be a gross understatement.

    Sh'ed been on disability for many years, but they'd decided to drastically cut her check down just because she was living in a house that was too expensive--and never mind that she only rented 20 percent of the place.  In other words, they were essentially accusing her of fraud, and that ticked both of us off royally.

    Summary:  If you want to cement your new, good marriage with an unshakeable bond, start out by making it "you and me against the world"--nothing like having an enemy in common to fuse you together as one! LOL

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      very nice take

    2. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      good take

  43. indian cooking profile image50
    indian cookingposted 7 years ago

    By taking the wedding vows seriously.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      good one

  44. Dale Mazurek profile image57
    Dale Mazurekposted 7 years ago

    You need to understand that the honeymoon stage goes away

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      you are right that goes in blink

    2. beautyrose profile image60
      beautyroseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      How long does it last?


      I think if  people would look at each othe's religion or if the other half has no religion would you mind or not? cause how you/I  start a good marriage when religion matters.

      Also does age matter for a good marriage? how about if I married a guy older than me would be ok. But how about if his 10 years younger than me? I think this has something to do with having a good marriage.  Religion and age.

  45. Daniel Carter profile image92
    Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago

    Maawidge (Remember "Princess Bride"?)

    Doesn't it take both people being mature and emotionally healthy to work?

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      good one

  46. Valerie F profile image60
    Valerie Fposted 7 years ago

    Making sure that husband and wife are mature and fully dedicated to the marriage is a good start.

    However, in our culture, starting marriage really isn't a problem. It's continuing the marriage where difficulties arise, and maturity and dedication become more important as over the years couples find out what "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health" really mean.

    Marriages don't work on their own. They require work. A lot of work.

    1. Lgali profile image46
      Lgaliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      this is good one They require work. A lot of work

 
working