Move forward, accepting that he is different from you and will stay that way. Things become easier if you accept that you two are biologically, psychologically and emotionally very different from each other. Once you know this.. you try to focus your energy on other constructive things which are important for a healthy relationship.
Try something new ! You'll never will change man. We ladies sometime will change there ways of thinking, but you'll never change ,maybe you could work with him and find out how it will work NEVER discus of Money! You'll never win! YOU'LL NEVER CHANGE A MAN YOU CONTROL HIM BUT NEVER CHANGE HIS WAY OF BEING!
Expect changes in both of you. The first five years are the crucial years. Many changes will occur in every aspect of each other's lives to be made into the one. Communication is the key--you have to be able to talk about the good things and those which you think are bad or too personal. Never think the other person is groveling too much for think of it as if you were in their shoes. Remember with some things--the more you talk about it and get it out into the open the better for both of you to heal it. Be compassionate with each other.
Be who you are! Don't pretend that your perfect, none of us are. If you lay everything out on the table, their will be no lies, no expectations that will be unfulfilled, your partner should know you at your worst. Let them take care of you when you have the flu. When you see how they behave around you while your sick, you will know whether or not you should even bother wasting your time!!
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults are not really important.
Treat your partner as they are the most welcome and important guest in your life, always. They are the ones that should get your best manners, be gracious with them and celebrate them being in your life every day and you'll have the best marriage of all.
Thank you. They can be hard to remember as life seems to get in the way, and there is a particular sense of security when you feel you can take it for granted that your partner will be there. But if you can practice the art of giving your partner your best regardless of what else is going on, you will find yourself way ahead of the game of a successful relationship.
I would say to start a good marriage and have a lasting solid marriage, don't try and change your partner. You love him/her for who they are at the beginning, remember that he/she is that same person you fell in love with years ago.
If you marry a musician, remember that he/she will ALWAYS be a musician. Don't try and take that away from them and say things such as "I thought you would grow up and be more responsible" or "I thought you would gro out of it."
Accept the fact that there will be times when you don't like each other, but believe in your marriage depsite it. I think you have to believe in marriage as an institution to really go long term. Have a good friendship, be willing to compromise, and be open.
yeah, its a real knife in the heart to find out a lie after 8 or 9 years of thinking you knew everything. lies on purpose, to make you think the other person is something they are not because they are afraid if you knew youd leave....just tell it up front..
I think to start a good marriage, you have to keep a mindset of maintaining a good marriage. It's a long-term and ever-evolving goal, so have the basic priorities in place to maintain it when you begin. I've never been married, so I wouldn't quite know. To me it seems like a relationship, but with legal papers.
So with that in mind, I think about what it takes to start and maintain a good relationship. Don't act like somebody else from the start, where then after you get past a few bases, you do a complete 180 and scare the crap out of your potential mate.
Stay honest, be yourself, and make sure all your quirks are known when things become serious. Be aware of all your mate's quirks. Marriage should be when you know you can accept and love all the bad and the good.
Oh, I'd suggest living with the potential spouse for a few years before marriage to see if I could handle all his living habits. A good start to a marriage can be spontaneous (some marriages have been spontaneous at the start and survived many years - very rare), but I would hope afterwards there was some realization to wanting to maintain a powerful relationship with the love of your life - for the rest of your life.
Edited to add: Oh, and a few words for a good start to a marriage. 1) Openness and transparency. 2) Boundaries. 3) Being on the same page on what marriage and love means. 4) Positive communication and negotiations. 5) Trust.
STARTING a good marriage isnt as hard as maintaning a good marriage. I would say, to start off good, make sure your not jumping into it with unrealistic expectations, like..he/she will change...and also make sure youve known each other long enough that all that beginning nice stuff is over. like, you KNOW he farts...youve seen each other at your worst times and still are madly in love.
pure heart with smile and patience makes good marriage. many of them say understanding , chemistry nothing works be patience, keep smile on your face think think think open heartedly accept be happy thats it..........!!!!!!!
The best way to start a good marriage is to make sure you know all you can about your spouse. I understand he/she will reveal only what he/she wishes to reveal, but the more you know the better the relationship will be. Don't be afraid to let your prospective spouse all of the important details about you... including your credit score. That way it won't come up and bite you in the butt later.
Pam and I started our good marriage by writing a letter to her SSI (disability) caseworker, telling the Feds to take their money and shove it. To say they were shocked would be a gross understatement.
Sh'ed been on disability for many years, but they'd decided to drastically cut her check down just because she was living in a house that was too expensive--and never mind that she only rented 20 percent of the place. In other words, they were essentially accusing her of fraud, and that ticked both of us off royally.
Summary: If you want to cement your new, good marriage with an unshakeable bond, start out by making it "you and me against the world"--nothing like having an enemy in common to fuse you together as one! LOL
I think if people would look at each othe's religion or if the other half has no religion would you mind or not? cause how you/I start a good marriage when religion matters.
Also does age matter for a good marriage? how about if I married a guy older than me would be ok. But how about if his 10 years younger than me? I think this has something to do with having a good marriage. Religion and age.
Making sure that husband and wife are mature and fully dedicated to the marriage is a good start.
However, in our culture, starting marriage really isn't a problem. It's continuing the marriage where difficulties arise, and maturity and dedication become more important as over the years couples find out what "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health" really mean.
Marriages don't work on their own. They require work. A lot of work.