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I want another baby.

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    sandra rinckposted 7 years ago

    I can't get it out of my head lately.  Everywhere I look there is another widdle iddy biddy boo boo and I want another one!  I know it aint the right time right now for me to have another baby but... golly I gotta tell ya, it does not make it any easier when you have a 3 year old that needs other kids. 

    So going to the park or wherever there are other kids does not make it any easier to get having another baby out of my head. 

    Seriously, I already have their names picked out.  Yeah, we are gonna have twins, boys no less.  I know, I think I am going insane.

    Is this my biological clock ticking because the first time I got pregnant it was a surprise! No ticking there unless you count the two minutes I waited for the test results. lol

    smile

    1. HealthCare Basics profile image82
      HealthCare Basicsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sandra, not surprised you have that craving. Especially here in San Diego where there is a baby boom going on. I have a hard time navigating the sidewalks due to all the strollers these days, and when did they get so big? I just love the triplet strollers where everyone else has to walk in the street to get around..... LOL..  smile

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        sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I know right!  It does seem like that, everywhere a baby. ZOMFG!
        I love those double/tripple jogger strollers too but my favorite is the mommy juggling a toddle, a baby in a stroller and a couple of dogs while trying to jog off the extra pounds.

        See those are troopers!  big_smile

    2. TrinaLynne profile image72
      TrinaLynneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I am with you in wanting another baby. Take it to the skull though Pro's and Con's. You only have 1, I have 4 and want another. Everyone thinks I'm nuts. I say if its in your best interest, go for it. If not, I'll send my little ones to keep yours company....lol.

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        sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        deal!

    3. Davinagirl3 profile image60
      Davinagirl3posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My daughter is eight months old and since she is too wiggly to hold now, I want one too.  The only thing is... EVERYTHING!!!!  I just think of the expense and the feeling goes away.

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        sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yeah but after a while it seems like they are worth every penny. big_smile

    4. Silverlining profile image79
      Silverliningposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I feel the same. My little boy is a year and a half now and I so badly want another one. I want them to grow up playing with each other, not fighting...and I know if they are too far apart they will never be friends. :-(
      My husband doesn’t want another one.;-(

      1. LondonGirl profile image91
        LondonGirlposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        My OH has one brother, who is 7 years younger than him. They've always got on very well, and are very close now as adults.

        I get on fantastically with my brother, too, who is 7 years younger than I am. We have 2 sisters between us, though.

  2. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    I can make you one wink

    If seriously - go for it and good luck! smile

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      LOL, but really we gotta wait at least another year. sad

    2. Christenstock profile image73
      Christenstockposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That seriously made me laugh. I just spilled my Gatorade.

  3. raiderfan profile image60
    raiderfanposted 7 years ago

    caca and cryin'- think about it. alot.

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yeah but I kinda miss it.  I know, gross but I do. The little cries, feeding them, dressing them up, their little smiles...  yeah, I really need a good reason to suppress my ticker. big_smile

      1. curiozities profile image60
        curiozitiesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        My first son is only three months old and already people are nagging me about when my wife and I will have our next child.  My answer is always that I am enjoying him; as you point out even feeding and changing him are a treat, all to see that little smile and hear the cooing and see those little eyes all full of wonder...

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          sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          yeah then they get bigger and you want them to be small again... I suppose that is how you end up wanting another one at some point... for some anyways.

          Congratulations with your new baby boy.  It's good advise to enjoy them as much as you can while they still let you hold them and stuff.

          After that, you are practically begging them to need you again.  But it's a good thing when you realize they are there own person. big_smile

  4. Lady Guinevere profile image60
    Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago

    Have you had a good talk with your BF about all this?  That would be a start.  Think about how you were as a teen and then thinks real hard about what things you did and what things your Morgan will be doing that will be worse.  That should get it out of your head for a little bit anyway.  5 years is not too long between siblings and it will make it easier on you and your budget when college time comes around.

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      yeah, we both want to do it but we both want to wait.  FYI I was 27 when I had Morgan not exactly a teenager. LOL but thank you for the compliment, it means a lot at 31. big_smile

      1. LondonGirl profile image91
        LondonGirlposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        We are essentially in quite a similar position - I was 27 when I got pregnant with Isaac (not entirely on purpose, but a delightful surprise), he was 4 a couple of days ago, and babies are starting to look very sweet indeed!

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          sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Well happy birthday Issac!  Yeah, I love babies.  I tell my lil'girl she is the sweetest surprise I ever received. smile

          1. Lady Guinevere profile image60
            Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Well my oldest was a surprise too.  Her baby was planned though and so will be the next one.  Surprises are the best kind though!!

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              sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              it definitely seems so, then again I haven't had one that was planned. 

              Do you think it is true what they say about loving all your kids equally?

              I think about it sometimes.  Being a little afraid that Morgan wouldn't feel as loved as she really is if we bring siblings into the picture.

              1. Lady Guinevere profile image60
                Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I loved mine equally.  There is something about having more than one and that is the gift of sharing.  They don't normally learn that until they are in kindergarden and the way things look in the financial markets there were alot of those who didn't learn how to share.  I didn't go as far as my mother did with mysister and it as in treating us like twins and we were like 2 years apart.  We would always wait until one of us opened a gift and we knew what the other would get --only in a different color.

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                  sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  LOL, that sucks.  Lemme guess matching barbie dolls? big_smile  Oh no wait, one got the barbie car and the other the barbie doll.  Mothers can be like that, my mom was like that and I am the only girl. big_smile

                  1. Lady Guinevere profile image60
                    Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago in reply to this
            2. LondonGirl profile image91
              LondonGirlposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              My parents' youngest was a sort of surprise - my brother is only 16 months younger than Olivia, and Eleanor and I were only 5 and 7 when Bruv was born. They intended to have another, but my mother thought that, at 37, it would take her longer to get pregnant. It didn't (-:

          2. LondonGirl profile image91
            LondonGirlposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            We dinned it into his head that "Isaac is 3". Now he won't accept "Isaac is 4".

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              sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              LOL, how cute. smile

        2. earnestshub profile image86
          earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          As a grandfather of 6, I say have a baby! The love of children is not easy to suppress, and the financial worries go away with time. As far as caring for a baby, it is a delight, nappies, crying and all

          1. Kidgas profile image80
            Kidgasposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            earnestshub,
            You don't look old enough to have 6 grandkids.  I worry about how many I will have someday since my wife and I have 6 kids of our own.

            1. earnestshub profile image86
              earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Kidgas, trust me you will love it! I am off in a couple of hours to babysit, I do it all time, whenever my kids need a babysitter I am there. Being a grandparent is wonderful!

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                wordscribe41posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                That melts my heart, earnesthub.  My kids grandparents are not involved this way, it's very sad, actually.  Can you adopt my kids?  smile

  5. kmackey32 profile image81
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    Oh me to. But my tubes are tyed.

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      can't you get them untied?

      1. kmackey32 profile image81
        kmackey32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yea you can but it costs lots of money

    2. Lady Guinevere profile image60
      Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You have to see when they were and how they were.  Tubal Ligation is not tied,  It is cut and burned and can never be undone.  If it has been more than five years since you had tht done, it is irreverible.  The doctor's done tell you everything!

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        sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Wow!  something to remember when I feel like I am done having babies.

        1. Lady Guinevere profile image60
          Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Yeah, I was told that they would be tied, but found out they weren't after the fact.

  6. kmackey32 profile image81
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    my tubes werent burnt, just tyed. lol

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    logic,commonsenseposted 7 years ago

    Just curious, were they fit to be tied? smile
    Sorry, I just had to say it.

  8. kmackey32 profile image81
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    LOL i wish they were'nt fir to be tied. ha

    1. kmackey32 profile image81
      kmackey32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oops fit i mean

  9. goldentoad profile image61
    goldentoadposted 7 years ago

    I think I walked into the wrong conversation.

  10. cheaptrick profile image75
    cheaptrickposted 7 years ago

    having no children of my own,i feel perfectly qualified to offer advise on rearing children.in the animal kingdom it seems the calmest and best temprements are in animals that eat there young...(OUCH,did he realy say that,what a BAD man!)...

  11. Nanny J.O.A.T. profile image90
    Nanny J.O.A.T.posted 7 years ago

    Tick Tock Tick...Smash!!!!

    It gets rougher in a pregnancy as you get older - There is almost 20 years between my youngest and oldest. It's definitely something you should consider very carefully with the input from your other half.

    Tying tubes - what a relief! No more lil surprises!! I'll gladly wait for the grandkids.

  12. Lady Guinevere profile image60
    Lady Guinevereposted 7 years ago

    My daughter is 32 and just had her first child in December.  Her pregnancy was so easy.  I was kind of jealous there because both my pregnancies were horrible!  She wants to have another one in about a year and hopefully that will be just as easy.

  13. HealthCare Basics profile image82
    HealthCare Basicsposted 7 years ago

    Yes, Balboa Park is full of moms trying to take off the pounds, run the pooch, and entertain the baby at the same time. Now that the economy is pooped out, you see more Dads doing the same thing.... smile

    If you see the old guy with two Dachshunds limping around the park.... it's me  smile

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I will be sure to stop and say hi if I spot you! big_smile

  14. spiderpam profile image58
    spiderpamposted 7 years ago

    I have 2 boys one 3 and the other 9 mos. I'm done. smile I'll pray for you in this venture. I hope it all works out.

  15. getpaidtopost profile image60
    getpaidtopostposted 7 years ago

    Having children is all good, however if you have doubts like its the wrong time, financially, I would consider carefully. A good way to have kids and money at the same time is to foster. In the UK you get paid between £300 - £500 a week. This also gives you good sense of achievement as you are helping others. The only major downside is giving the kids back to their parents.

    In the UK we have a shortage of over 15000 foster parents. Not sure what the figure is for USA but I bet its more. All children need security and if you would like to help contact you local fostering agency for more info.

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    Blackngoldbananaposted 7 years ago

    I had my first child at 32 and got pregnant again before she was a year old.  Imagine my surpise when the Doctor told me that there might be complications because I had the hormone levels of a 40 year old women.  I thought I had lots of time to have kids, but it turned out I didn't...just something to think about.

    Now I'm waaaay to old and have to wait for grandchildren...just not too soon.

  17. lrohner profile image85
    lrohnerposted 7 years ago

    I completely understand where you're coming from. With one 3 year old, this is a good time to have another. My kids were all two years apart from each other, and the two years that I only had one child was incredibly hard. Kudos to all parents with a single child.

    Having my second child made my life drastically easier -- no kidding. Like you said, they need playmates. Having the third was just perfect. There was a lot more cleaning and cooking, but much less emotional wear and tear. If I chose one to do something special with, the other two had each other.

    Hang in there. Your time will come.

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    Go borrow one for a week and you will surely change your mind.

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      sandra rinckposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I practically did... now I really, really want another one.

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        ralwusposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Well then Sandra, you have it bad. I have no doubts you are an excellent mother so now find the willing partner of your choice and get it. good luck to you.

  19. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    Come on, as soon as you reunite with your bf you'll make one smile

  20. Anamika S profile image71
    Anamika Sposted 7 years ago

    You should follow your heart and have a talk with your Boyfriend or Husband  on the issue.

  21. Mighty Mom profile image89
    Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

    That ticking is only gonna get louder until you heed Nature's call. The thing is, you never know how it might happen. You could get lucky right away, or not...
    We'll all be excited when we get the news! Good luck. MM

  22. Ladybird33 profile image74
    Ladybird33posted 7 years ago

    Do it, have another baby...my husband and I tried for years to concieve then we adopted (best thing ever) but I wish I would have started adopting earlier to have more children. So many lucky happy wishes for you and yours!

  23. Sunny Robinson profile image84
    Sunny Robinsonposted 7 years ago

    I have four future stepchildren.  One is in Atlanta and is 13 years old, so when she returns from residential hospital, she will be with her mother.  So technically - three.  There's 5 year old girl, 7 year old boy, and 9 year old boy.  My fiance had his vasectomy after the 5 year old because his ex-wife simply wanted to keep going while they could barely feed their four kids and currently is wanting more babies with her new boyfriend.

    However, I'm 21 and I desperately want a baby.  I understand the ticktocks, the desperation, etc.  I also feel sad knowing I may never know the joys of pregnancy, a wiggling baby of my own, the diaper changing, co-sleeping, late night feedings, and all that comes with it.

    I would definitely take the opportunity to have one more, if I were you and if I could afford it.

  24. kmackey32 profile image81
    kmackey32posted 7 years ago

    I love kids too. I have about 10 in my house right now. All the neighbor kids love to come here. I guess they say my house is the best place to go.

    1. earnestshub profile image86
      earnestshubposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Good for you kmackey32! You can almost guarantee that the kids know how you feel, and that is the attraction.I have never met anyone who loves animals and kids I did not like.

    2. andromida profile image74
      andromidaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You mean all the 10 kids belong to you.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 7 years ago

    It's strange how these maternal feelings just grab you..... I was always wanting babies...... like always, i would only hear a baby cry and that was it.....  I had 3 by the time I was 22 silly me......  then all the way through my life if someone would just hand me a baby I would be in heaven...... now though I like to hand them back, kinda got over it,but maybe it is some sort of illness I have dont know...... My poor husband, he use to be out of his mine with me.... as he earned the most money, he used to say how he could  not afford it etc etc... your hub has really taken me back..... Everyone laughs at me as I always seem to be cuddling someone's babies, I love little black babies, and there are a lot around me oh they are gorgeous.

  26. Lady_E profile image82
    Lady_Eposted 7 years ago

    I'd say go for it.  Its a beautiful thing. Bon Chance.

 
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