When is the right moment to give up on your relationship??

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  1. boberto profile image54
    bobertoposted 14 years ago

    When is the right moment to give up on your relationship??

    Have you ever been with someone and feel that it is you that makes the majority of the effort? Have you ever felt that you give everything for the one you love but don't get much back? Have you ever felt that you are being taken for granted?......Let's face it when we fall in love your life revolves around that person. But on occasions some people start to take you for granted and get comfortable, so this sometimes leaves the other person in the relationship down a lot of the time.

    Has this ever happened to you? let me know your thoughts!

    1. goodfriendiam profile image60
      goodfriendiamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      When you give your other half encouragement, support, and nothing comes back its time to bail out.

    2. emievil profile image68
      emievilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I was in a relationship when my ex-boyfriend took me for granted because he thought that anyway we will get married eventually. In just about the same time, I met another guy and I sort of fell out of love with my ex and in love with my next boyfriend (who is now my husband). The right moment for me was when I realized why should I stick with my ex (who is taking me for granted) when there is this other guy who loves me better. Needless to say, I didn't regret my decision to break up with him and move on with my life.

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    dennisemattposted 14 years ago

    This has happend to me. But, Im kinda wierd. I made up my mind to marry my husband, and I love him unconditionally. That means, even in tough times, I stick with it.
    that being said, I have been in abusive reltaionships too. There is a difference between the normal ups and downs of a healthy relationship, and being treated like crap, all the time.

    http://www.itsnotok.org/amiabused.html

  3. getpaidtopost profile image40
    getpaidtopostposted 14 years ago

    people show love and affection in different ways, however we can also show insubordination. you should way up the good and bad points and with the results see if it is worth while continuing in the relationship. smile

  4. Davinagirl3 profile image60
    Davinagirl3posted 14 years ago

    If you are going to get out, get out before you have children.  The less people that get hurt, the better.

  5. Colebabie profile image59
    Colebabieposted 14 years ago

    I have had a couple conversations with my boyfriend about appreciation. He always takes them seriously and has changed. I know how difficult it must be to be putting in so much, using so much of yourself and feeling that the other person could care less. In my opinion it is time to get out when there is no progress. Not even a hint of him/her taking what you say seriously.

    1. Davinagirl3 profile image60
      Davinagirl3posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, it's like they are pretending to listen to you.

  6. 1weddingsource profile image60
    1weddingsourceposted 14 years ago

    When you feel that you don't want your partner around you anymore. And it irritates you to see him everyday.

    When you decide to end a relationship, decide during the time that you are relaxed and calm. In this way, both of you can talk and will still have a good relationship though you put an end to it.

    1. Colebabie profile image59
      Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree with that. I was in a relationship where towards the end I didn't answer his calls, made excuses not to see him. I just didn't want to be in the relationship anymore. And he didn't deserve that, he was and still is a great guy. It was definitely time to end it. I agree about how to break up as well. We didn't have a bad break up. Although we aren't "friends" I have no bad feelings towards him and vice versa.

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    fierycjposted 14 years ago

    A girlfriend - as soon as she becomes phony. A wife - never.

    1. Colebabie profile image59
      Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      What makes a girlfriend a phony? You would never get a divorce?

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        fierycjposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        I would never get a divorce. When I marry, its for keeps. What makes a girlfriend phony? I can write a bible on that shit. No friggin' kidding.

    2. profile image0
      dennisemattposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      well, I am not the only "old fashioned" person here. Dont get married unless you mean it.
      ps, I like your new fire.

      1. profile image0
        fierycjposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks Dennise. I feel like an explosive fireball these days.

      2. profile image0
        fierycjposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks Dennise. I feel like an explosive fireball these days.

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          dennisemattposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          well....duh. its your name after all.  smile  hub more.

  8. Karen Banes profile image70
    Karen Banesposted 14 years ago

    The right moment to give up on a relationship is probably just before it gets ugly. Unfortunately this moment is easily identified in retrospect, but hard to spot at the time.

  9. Dale Mazurek profile image63
    Dale Mazurekposted 14 years ago

    I would have no idea how to answer this.  In about 2 weeks I will be celebrating my 21st wedding anniversary and in all honesty I love my wife more and more every day.

    Of course we had our trying times but we decided a long time ago that we could make it through anything and we did.

    At this point we never fight or anything anymore.  We are just enjoying life together.

    No matter what just make sure you are not giving up too soon.

    1. Lady_E profile image62
      Lady_Eposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You are very lucky. What a blessing.
      Happy Anniversary in Advance.

  10. Lady_E profile image62
    Lady_Eposted 14 years ago

    Hard question. There are certain situations in life that you wouldn't know how to deal with, until you are actually faced with it - especially when kids are involved. smile

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    pgrundyposted 14 years ago

    When love is gone so am I.

    I don't mean 'in love', I mean love, the kind that abides. You can get through any problem no matter how stressful if there is love, but if that basic component has evaporated it's not fair to either person to keep dragging the relationship around like a dead cat.

  12. blondepoet profile image66
    blondepoetposted 14 years ago

    I would have to say when you hear him on the phone whispering.... so you..sneak a little closer...your insticts are peaking...sweat begins to appear on your brow....just close enough to hear him say,"I love you too Cecil."

    1. Misha profile image62
      Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Am I the first to say you good morning today? wink

      1. blondepoet profile image66
        blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Oh Good morning Misha would you like some syrup on your hot cakes this morning? smile smile
        http://artmeetscommerce.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/pancake.jpg
        You are definitely the first!!!

        1. Misha profile image62
          Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Oh, how tasty! smile

          *whispering* love you too Deb wink

          1. blondepoet profile image66
            blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Awww Любите Вас также.

        2. Ambition profile image60
          Ambitionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          good morning blondepoet

          1. blondepoet profile image66
            blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Hey there Ambition oh thanks for the greeting...
            Damn it no pancakes left... Misha was as hungry as a hippopotamus. But how about a bit of nice succulent toast???
            http://www.parts-unknown.org/~benfell/csueastbay/teaching/assignments/5/toast.gif

            1. Ambition profile image60
              Ambitionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

              ummmmmmmumumum  i had to wait for 4 hours to get this deliciousy. Misha didn't have a single piece.

              1. blondepoet profile image66
                blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Awww you know that saying, "A womans work is never done". It may be late but the taste is just as fine..Toast is the best bet as I can't risk that damn smoke alarm going off again when I made those hot-cakes.

    2. Lady_E profile image62
      Lady_Eposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Lol. Well that really made me giggle.

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      pgrundyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      OMG I've been there. Somehow it hurts less than if its another woman. It's like, well, I couldn't have fixed this no way no how, it's not my fault.

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    CabinGirlposted 14 years ago

    Its night here !

    1. Ambition profile image60
      Ambitionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile

      good night

      1. profile image50
        CabinGirlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Goodnight, for some reason I kinda dont miss you two freaks smile

        1. Ambition profile image60
          Ambitionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          oh!! no problem smile

          1. profile image50
            CabinGirlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Am I keeping you up, as you said goodnight !

            1. fortunerep profile image68
              fortunerepposted 14 years agoin reply to this

              whats up cabin girl

              1. profile image48
                badcompany99posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Check yer mail x

            2. Ambition profile image60
              Ambitionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

              No, i was just saying good night a gelling and invitative good not a good bye goodnight.

  14. profile image50
    CabinGirlposted 14 years ago

    I am off to bed Captain, nothing happening, see you in the morning !

    1. profile image48
      badcompany99posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Off to bed myself Cabin Girl, goodnight !

 
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