I have always wondered why is it so difficult to understand girls,why are they so deep and why i just cant get them.I think there are many guys like me who dont get it and there are some who knows everything about them.so I would request everyone to please post their experience,what they find weird or not predictable about women and how to deal with it.To all the female hubbers please share your insights on this.I have just written a hub on it..so if anyone could help with the riddles about women mentioned in the hub can comment there or even post the solution here.the name of the hub is the same as the topic name
Dont be a sissy, girls hate sissies. They love manly men. Here's the sum of the whole matter - if you're good looking, and you're real smart, and you've got a job, and you've got your own place, and you drive your own car, and you're above average in the hay, then you've got it made...
Another words ,not lazy ,that makes you desirable females look for security and stability,its not about looks ,(thats a bonus) but reliablity and responsibility makes the female relax and when she is relaxed nice things happen
No problem. I'm 22, my boyfriend and I have been together for four years, we both have our own places and good jobs... but not ready to get married. So even when you have security and stability, it still takes a little more
fiercy, that may depend on who the girls/women are.
Women don't always mind "sissies". Manly can be ok - but not macho, and not too worried about always being manly.
"good looking" - surprisingly, doesn't always matter a whole lot. Good looking is nice, as long as the guy doesn't over-estimate the importance of his looks. "Attractive" is more important than "good looking", and there are some very handsome guys who aren't very appealing or attractive.
"real smart" - only if the guy is also well adjusted. "real smart" without common sense or without being socially/emotionally well adjusted doesn't count for much.
"got a job" - always good in the eyes of women; although a good reason for temporarily not having a job is ok too.
"got your own place" - depends on how old the people involved are. Younger people (student-age) aren't looking for someone to have his own place. In fact, a lot of women don't think it's all that bad if, for example, a guy is divorced and sharing a place with someone else. It's just not that a big a deal, at least not in a lot of circumstances (with good reasons for those circumstances).
"own car" - that one's for teenagers. If there's some guy in his twenties or over who happens to have his transmission go, and who happens to be borrowing a car or driving an old wreck until he can get another car - a lot of women don't care about that kind of thing.
"hay" - I can't speak for other women, and I'm too "old fashioned" to be able to say much about my own opinions on that. I will say that many men over-estimate the importance of that and under-estimate the importance of some of the things that matter far more to a lot of women.
Lisa can you please do me a favour of posting this as comment on the hub.You really have broken some of the age old myths boys have about girls.Please I would like everyone outside the hubpages benefit too.But it is always your wish.
Every girl is different. Every single one. So rather than trying to understand them as a group, understand the individual. Its just like learning about a person. You wouldn't generalize, you would learn specifically about that person.
So a guy could say, "Geez I don't understand you women at all"
a huge thing in learning about a person is to pay attention. Listen, really really listen, wihtout thinking about yourself at all, to what she says. Try not to think aobut whatyour going to say next, or how you dont agree. Allow them to be thier own person. This is usefull in any realationship, not just romantic.
She went with her gut. Her gut was that she wasn't ready to marry the man. You say your friend "liked a girl a lot" it takes a lot more than like to marry someone. It seems like since he asked the question two years later he was still hung up on her. She had moved on. Truth, she didn't love him and wasn't ready to get married. Her response is valid. "How do you expect a girl to say yes so soon and easily?"
#2 I'm not sure how you're asking the girls. Maybe they would like to go as friends, or as a group.
#3 As far as the jealousy thing, there are two parts. Part I is regarding members of the opposite sex. Part II is with time. Every girl is different. Some girls are more jealous of time spent and just want to spend more time with a guy and are not jealous of specific people or other women.
Mathematical proof - Girls Are Evil Girls require time and money. Girls = Time × Money Time is money. Time = Money Therefore: Girls = Money × Money = (Money)2 Money is the root of all evil Money = √Evil Therefore: Girls = (√Evil)2 And we are forced to conclude that: Girls = Evil
Thank you so much for your wishes and if i have a open spirit then you have an open heart.Even with so much knowledge and experience your humble enough to praise someone openly.I have many things to learn from you.
we are made as opposites so we won't get bored and our kids can have diversity growing up.I will never understand my spouse either. I just know that love and patience are more than just virtues, they are survival instincts!
Asher you summed it up very well.And the pic is just so true..lol..i hope You would post this in the comment section of the hubs as so well so that the non hubber guys can benefit from it too.Anyways your wish,But thnx for the insight.
arunjain, I'm not sure if there are rules about copying stuff from the forum into comments; and I know I can't speak for all girls and women. (I base what I say on myself and a lot of the girls and women I know - which is only one "circle" of people.) As long as you're ok with it, I can post a link to this thread (along with a comment).
(Just as a source of a woman's views on "understanding how women think", I have a blog, "Lisa Light" (found through my profile if you want it - and if you go to it don't be shocked at how pink, flowery, silly and light it is. That's the aim). Anyway, if you scroll down you'll find, "Understanding How Women Think". I can't post the link here, and I'm not assuming you're interested - but just in case you would be.)
Thank you very much, but I just went back and read the whole "Understanding How...." thing, and I now notice it's more a general approach and doesn't say anything about women's preferences or approaches when it comes to dealing with boyfriends and husbands. Actually, the last quarter of it may have some insight. Other than that, it's pretty much about general thinking. (It's been a while since I looked at it. I tend to write and abandon stuff. ).
But boys are more curious to know about women.Like i read why women go to washroom in groups and it has been a topic of discussion within our group from when.And I know why friends are going to love your blog.you have such a pleasant style.
Again, thank you. That particularly "fluffy" blog is one I've never been sure about; but the world is so full of unpleasantness and sometimes ugliness when it comes to women, I guess I just wanted to send the message that a lot of the times being a woman is fun, light, and pretty pleasant. (Besides, being writing dry articles for other people and stuff about serious issues so often, I just wanted something light.) (By the way, I completely agree with Colebabie's sensible remarks.)
arunjain, your thread here inspired me to write a Hub about what most of the women I know do want in men. (I've been a little short on "inspiration" with the last week of 90-degree heat and humidity. Between this thread and the fact that we're down to 60 degrees - voila, inspiration. )
wow...now thats a good news.I am eagerly waiting for your hub to get published.One of my friend has already become your fan.And I am happy that i could inspire you though i feel that you dont require any.
I don't agree about security, and whatever. Just give me a man, that wants me, for who I am. And I will be his wildest dreams....lol. And he would not want to go any where else. Honey, I don't care if a man makes much money, but that he makes much of me instead and I him. As for looks, I'm sorry but there is an attraction to the opposite sex, we can't deny, that we don't look at the outside of each other. If it weren't so, then we would eat a pile a doggy poo, even though we new it wasn't. And as for sissy men, no way, my man better stick up for me when I am right or when I am not around. Don't try to understand us, but listen with open ears, and don't give us advice.
I can't speak for other women since we all are essentially individuals, but having two younger sisters so different from me, it intrigues me how eccentric us three women are. I think getting to know anyone, gal or boy, as a person rather a gender, will strengthen a bond.
Using me and my siblings as an example: I am not the emotional, romantic type, nor do I like talking much in real life. I do that in my writing rather, hehe. I am quiet, insightful, yet moredominant. I like smart, artsy men that talk more than me, yet are not these brawny, macho guys (I like me some long hair). I am rather picky.
My one sibling is bubbly, loud, blonde and lovely, yet smart while having the boys at her feet. She is no push over though which I think adds to her attraction.
My youngest sister is the insecure, emotional one, who at this point thinks she needs a manly man for security and affection. Nothing wrong with wanting a good MAN but she settles for anyone.
So, when you start treating and seeing a woman as an indivudal, and perceive her oddities or outbursts as part of her personality instead of categorizing her with all the other female stereotypes, you'll really appreciate that woman, person, better.
I know I had better relationships with men when I stopped classifying them so much into the typical male stereotypes I was brought up knowing.
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