it gives you headache, financial and emotional problems,,,,and the children too, you are just going to confuse them and they need time and attention, how can you give quality time to those whom you love if you are busy working so that you can sustain them?
Pro's - The guy is always pampered and fed. Never needs to lift a hand except maybe to go to work.
Con's - Most of the time bad Karma, as "this wife" is jealous of "that wife".
Kids don't always get on.
Valentine's day can be difficult to prepare for.
A lot of Dosh needed for food, family etc
Cons for the woman - You don't really have someone to call your man. He's blimmin shared.
Why do people do it?
Many on each side. I don't even know why our government even cares about people who practice polygamy.
As long as women are forced to marry these dudes, then I say let them do it.
So it's ok to force women to marry people? Man, you're brave.
Any man who wants more than one woman on an equal footing in the same house is insane!
Wow, I thought he DID mean that! The only polygamous marriage I know is a woman with two husbands. I can see women not minding if they were raised differently. In America there's pride to deal with - that's MY man, don't touch. But when you talk to women after years of marriage, yes, the women who totally still love their husbands, longingly joke about getting him a second wife so she can have a break for a while.
Don't know how that works for guys.
Women themselves have to love women as well as men and who am I to judge what their preference and morals are? Who's to say we know or have the right to judge?
I already find myself in the doghouse enough with one lady, I couldn't begin to imagine ever leaving the doghouse with two or more.
Who's judging? Example: 1-man 3-women
Man: Where would you like to eat tonight?
Women #1: I don't care you pick.
Woman #2: Same here, you pick.
Woman #3: Anything sounds good.
Man: Then it's BBQ!
Woman #1: Not BBQ again, why do you always pick BBQ, you know I don't like BBQ!
Woman #2: Of course you pick what you want. It would be nice if you thought about someone else for a change.
Woman #3: Thats fine I'm not really hungry anyway.
Man: Ok!Ok! How about Italian?
Woman #1: Italians good but not Luigi's that place is creepy!
Woman #2: I don't know if I feel like Italian tonight.
Woman #3: Italian's great! I'm starving!
At the resturant:
Woman #1: Don't be a pig and try not to wear your food!
Woman #2: He'll need a bib!
Woman #3: Don't order an appetizer because nobody wants to share with you because you don't know how to share!
Woman #1,#2,#3: Stop crying! Don't be such a baby!
Okay, if you mean like THAT...the way I think of it is where each woman has her own house (tent like in middle east, bible, etc.). Otherwise, what's the point? You don't get any break if he's always there.
Honestly, growing up, I never knew it even existed, but I have to say after watching the show "Big Love" It has really educated me on the practices of Polygamy.
Hmmm... Just thinking... How about you apply for a marriage license, and marry as many consenting adults as you can get to consent, and you can support. Male or female. Civil unions to any consenting adults. Take the religious bias and judgement out of the formula. But children are off limits. No marriage licenses for children. No hiding behind religion to be pedophiles.
Em, no. No sharing here. (Not that I believe in marriage as it stands, necessarily, anyway.) Still no sharing.
And no hiding behind Human Rights and Children's Rights to be pedophiles either.
As long as its not just another way for perverts to sleep with under age girls. What's wrong with the men these days? Leave the children alone!!!
I would just strangle my hubby if he thought he could get away with polygamy. I would have no part of it.
Polyandry would be the better choice in today's western world. Before, socially and economically, polygyny was the more feasible option but now with people needing so much money and children being left to the care of strangers because many families can't live on one income, that's changed. More men making money, one woman, fewer children and the mother can be there to care for the children.
I have to admit though, men seem to feel it proves them to be more manly if they can 'get' more women; only one woman I know of would want to deal with more than one husband in her harem.
To each their own as long as it is all done willingly. Polygamy, swinging, gay, straight, or celebacy, why should it concern anyone not directly involved in the relationship(s) in question. Too many people concerned about what is going on in the neighbors house and not concerned enough with what's happening in their own house. just my two pennies worth
One of the worst problems about polygamy is inbreeding. You don't hear much about that in the news. There are high rates of various forms of retardation and genetic problems running rampant in religious, polygamist communities.
While the idea "to each his own" is usually fine, I think a bit of knowledge and education along with responsibility go a long way in any sector of society. Best to know what you're getting into in advance, if at all possible.
Might as well there's always room for one diviate behavior.
I think that we shouldn't place our cultural expecations or norms on someone else. I don't want to be forced to have more than one wife, nor do I want to be forced to marry a person because the marriage is arranged.
Live and let live.
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