Need advice really badly!

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   starme77posted 14 years ago

   

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   Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

   wow starme I am so sorry you have to deal with all of that. It definitely isn't fair for good people to have to suffer so much when they only want to help. I am truly sorry and truly do hope that things get A LOT better for you. You are a good person and don't deserve any of that kind of treatment from anyone.
   
   I am glad tha tyou get to go back to work, something that you obviously seem to enjoy (yea you can deal with numbers..they scare the h#ll out of me
   
   I hope that you get all of the paperwork done and things just get better for you and your family. *HUGS* to you...and thanks I will do my best in being strong. and doing thigns that make me happy...hmmmm...where did I leave that book of mine so I can veg and read

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   starme77posted 14 years ago

   Good idea, read , I told you  all this because sometimes it helps to hear someone elses story , to soften things for yourself. It will get better for you , just let the anger go , you'll be fine

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   Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

   yea but now...I'm getting angry 'cause I can't find my book dang it! I need radar I swear. it was in my bag next to the couch but now it's not there. GREAT! My items are growing legs and running away from me.

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   starme77posted 14 years ago

   lol funny, I'm laughing now you'll find it

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   Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

   wait wait...there it goes right out the front door cr@p! lol starme...how do you make books sit and stay? they are jsut as bad as cats

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   starme77posted 14 years ago

   Glad to see your feeling better, well, time to wake the mother in law up and get the Depends changed before she soaks the bed again yey

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   Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

   oooo yea better do that...well good luck starme! and yea I do feel a bit better. ttyl chica

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      starme77posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Didn't make it in time - beds soaked - into the washer went the stuff she's all cleaned up and having her coffee now - just wanted to tell ya - being adopted twice, once sold by a judge to some druggies - at age 38 I got a story for just about anything that ails ya  - if your ever havin a problem and need to feel better just let me know - I'll be all the moral support I can be for ya

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         Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         thanks starme I appreciate it and dang sorry ya didn't make it in time!

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   JBeadleposted 14 years ago

   I feel like I've been in your husbands shoes... when I was I'd just want a lot of unconditional love and support from my wife, girlfriend, significant other.  And I hated being in the positon of defending my bad sibs or family members which I end up doing since they are family.
   
   That is a lot to have on your plate.  I've got the same sand running through my hourglass with more breathing room and it is daunting.  For your ownself, you need to do whatever you do to pull yourself together.  If you don't take care of your needs you won't be able to take care of anyone elses.  Sometimes when I feel down I try to feel greatful for what I do have, usually people still in my life.  My mom just passed in October.  Christmas seems hard.  I want to honor my mom by showing Christmas spirit and not falling victim to depression.  For myself and my kids.  My mom would feel so badly if she was the cause of ruining Christmas time.  So she wont.
   
   My story might not fit yours.  Yours seems a bit more on the edge.  Things could be worse might not be a philosophy you like.  Sometimes I don't - cause I think - things sure could be beter.
   
   Just hang in there, take your support where you can find it.  Time has a way of changing these perspective around.  Hope that was helpful.  You aren't alone though.  A lot of heartache to go around.  Don't beat yourself up for a bad day.  You are always allowed to try again.

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    thanks JBeadle for the advice...and sorry you have to deal with family members like that too

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       starme77posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       haha lucky you guys only have one set of crazy family members - being adopted twice kinda really screws things up lots more idiots to deal with lol but I remain a happy person , keepin the good spirit alive isnt always easy when others try so hard to kill it , but its a happy person who does - just remember there is a positive in every negative , sometimes ya just gotta search really hard to find it

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          JBeadleposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Yeah, luckily "my side" is fairly normal and supportive although we lost the main support person on this side.  My wife is one of twelve and with that many kids... I think dysfunction is inevitable!  I like to soak in the bath and feel calm and hope maybe some answers come to me to deal sometimes too.  Sometimes they do.  Having a few people around who understand helps more than anything maybe.

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    bojanglesk8posted 14 years ago

    Deep breathing always helps.

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       yea it does...until I breath so much I give myself a headache lol yep done that over this situation too many times

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          starme77posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Just don't hypervenilate and pass out lol

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