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what does it take to be a good mother?

  1. seyiari profile image58
    seyiariposted 6 years ago

    i want to know what it takes to be a good mother.

    1. Bovine Currency profile image61
      Bovine Currencyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Very broad question.

      1. seyiari profile image58
        seyiariposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        is it that broad?

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        Brians Roarposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Love, Patience, Understanding, Enduring Love, Respect and being there!

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      selfless for your children, setting a good example, sacrificing for the welfare of yuor children, it takes a lot and a lifetime...

      1. Bovine Currency profile image61
        Bovine Currencyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        good start smile

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      sandra rinckposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      PATIENTS!!! yikes

    4. Everything-Jewels profile image37
      Everything-Jewelsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Mistakes. It's the only way to know what not to do the next time. Children don't come with direction, and neither do mothers. Don't expect to be perfect, there is no such thing, anyway. Just do the best you can, and know that you will raise beautiful human beings

    5. Karina S. profile image60
      Karina S.posted 6 years ago in reply to this


    6. seyiari profile image58
      seyiariposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i will like to thank every body for the answers they've given. i think i will make a hub on this in future but before then read this little right up on mother on a mission . i think it will help to know your responsibility as a  mother :

      Motherhood is an assignment from God. It is a privileged assignment that God gave to women. From the day a woman gave birth to a baby, from that day, the woman has started her assignment.
      A mother on a mission is a mother carrying out effectively the assignment God gave to her. If you become a success in your career, and you fail in your home, you are a failure. There are core assignments and there are effective assignments. The major assignment of a woman is to train her children. Proverbs 10:1{ Pro 10:1 The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father; but a foolish son is the sorrow of his mother. } A foolish son is foolish due to the inability of his mother to teach him. Proverbs 29 : 15 { Pro 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom; But a child left to himself causeth shame to his mother. }
      A child that is left to alone because his mother is running after contract will eventually bring shame to his mother. The dignity of a woman is in carrying out the assignment God gave her. Don’t live your child for a man to take care. Your career can’t make you to be fulfilled, it your child that will make you.
      Proverbs 31:1 { Pro 31:1 The words of King Lemuel, the prophecy which his mother taught him. }


      1. double_frick profile image79
        double_frickposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        i think caring about whether one is a good mother or not is a good start. one thing most women, sadly, don't even consider.
        i think once kids get older that is one thing that sticks out, whether they can look back and feel that their mom did 'the best they could.'
        an understanding that once you have children your life will change, maybe not as drastically or horribly as some would have you believe but it seems anymore girls are on the opposite end of that spectrum thinking their kid is just along for the ride. lol  thats hardly good parenting!
        making important decisions and lifestyle changes with the children's wellbeing FIRST and not second...or last.

        pmccray, i can say, i could use a little more patience hmm  but does that make or break a good mom?

        i think too that some people think the world is coming down when a human mother makes a very human mistake...then again there are plenty of moms that use that as an excuse to be a crappy mom.

    7. Lady_E profile image82
      Lady_Eposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Love and Sacrifice. smile

    8. starme77 profile image85
      starme77posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Patience, understanding , and some more patience and understanding , even if you dont understand , damn it ya better smile

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      ralwusposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Right off hand I'd say number one is, a mother needs to be a woman of the female variety.

  2. XTASIS profile image60
    XTASISposted 6 years ago


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      Home Girlposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      --Next time cook your spam before eating, it will kill all viruses!
      I think it's a good question still. I asked that myself many times. The ability to listen and to hear what is not said but what you see and anticipate if you understand what I mean, and help your children feel loved and wanted and a lot of other things!

  3. TINA V profile image80
    TINA Vposted 6 years ago

    In my opinion, a good mother, as well as a good father, provides for their children's basic needs.  They also prepare them to be ready for bigger responsibilities.  This means that they should also be a good disciplinarian and example to their kids.  They should know how to distinguish wants from needs and when they should give it.  But there is really no perfect parents in this world.

    Have a great week!

  4. andromida profile image74
    andromidaposted 6 years ago

    honesty and tolerance.

  5. d luck profile image60
    d luckposted 6 years ago

    love. that's the only important.

  6. weblog profile image60
    weblogposted 6 years ago

    Well said smile

  7. Dame Scribe profile image59
    Dame Scribeposted 6 years ago

    Love and self-love a mother experiences will spill out onto her children. big_smile

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    zampanoposted 6 years ago

    A good husband helps a lot.

  9. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    Love and patience - in extra-large doses!

  10. alexandriaruthk profile image53
    alexandriaruthkposted 6 years ago

    unconditional love for children

  11. caravalhophoto profile image61
    caravalhophotoposted 6 years ago

    always listen, set boundries and enforce, teach simplicity and live a humble life, always have a spare hug handy...oh and a sucker.

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    lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago

    giving your children validation that they are loved.

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    pgrundyposted 6 years ago

    You ask yourself three questions:

    1) Is anything on fire?

    2) Is anyone naked?

    3) Is anyone bleeding?

    If you can look at your kids and answer 'no' to two out of three, then congratulations--You are a good mother.

  14. bojanglesk8 profile image60
    bojanglesk8posted 6 years ago

    You gotta be a good cook.

  15. pmccray profile image85
    pmccrayposted 6 years ago

    Patience, patience and more patience.  You'll need patience to get through the terrible twos and the terrible teens. 

    Lots of love and patience when your kid morphs into a hormonal stranger at thirteen and doesn't want to be seen with you in public. 

    Patience to soothe the scapes and bruises of your toddler and patience to try and understand how you gave birth to a moron in their teens. 

    Your patience will turn to happiness when you watch them as an adult and you see that it was all worth while.  But know your limitations...that's why I only had one!

  16. heart4theword profile image62
    heart4thewordposted 6 years ago

    To be a good mother?  Is a mother, who is there for her children.  Supports them with their positive endeavors, helps them to learn responsibility.  Learning to guide and direct them, to make good choices in life.  How to learn from our mistakes, and to avoid making the same ones, two or three times.
    Spending time with them, in areas that interest them:)

  17. Vibhavari profile image86
    Vibhavariposted 6 years ago

    being a good mother is to accept each child for what he or she is, not insisting that they fit your standards of perfection or behavior and NEVER ever comparing one child with another...

  18. H.C Porter profile image84
    H.C Porterposted 6 years ago

    Being a good mother is accepting that you are not perfect and you will make mistakes as a mother. It is seeing your children as individuals and accepting them for who they are. A good mother teaches her children how to win and how to lose, and a good mother lets her children teach her about what is really important in life.