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It's Black & White

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    StormRyderposted 7 years ago

    I was just watching the news and they ran a story of adoption and the opposition to whites adopting black children. I thought it was ridiculous. I say give the child a home reguardless of race. I can see little harm this would cause the child. What do you think?

    1. thisisoli profile image61
      thisisoliposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Fully agree with you, it shouldn't matter what skin colour a child has, everyone should have a family.

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        Alya roseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I see no problem with this,but it seems that some poeple still put too much to skin color.Ridiculous.

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this



      i agree!

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      rhartlandsbergposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I just think adoption in general should be a more frequently used system to help find love for everyone who needs love.  I think limiting the ability to adopt any child on the basis of race or sexual orientation is discrimination at it's purest and goes against the basic anti-discrimination laws many countries have in place.

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        A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Ive been trying to get my ol lady to adopt a couple of Hustler girls, but she ain't having any of it...

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          lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          sorry but that was fucking funny

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            A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Doesn't even matter what color!

        2. Mamelody profile image60
          Mamelodyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          man, sounds like you and your old lady are a match made in heaven..

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            A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Not "old" "ol" lady! You're gonna get me killed!

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              Mamelodyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              sorry typo error..

              well u a cow boy I should think it would be hard to kill you..

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                A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Hard to protect yourself when you're asleep, and thats when they come, remember Lorena Bobbit?

                1. Mamelody profile image60
                  Mamelodyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  lol lol

    4. marcel285 profile image82
      marcel285posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Agreed.

    5. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Chalk up another sign of racism at it's finest.

      Who was advocating against it? What political statement were they trying to make?

      I would agree.
      Unfortunately, there are plenty of draw backs to putting a child of a different race with that of another, because society in general still has too much racism/racists in it. The child is subjected to more than their fair share, and get treated, sometimes even worse, because they get it from both sides.
      I am for it. I can see how it would make one stronger in the end, providing the parents stand strong beside them.

      I can tell you right now....I have witnessed "racism" in person, and I can tell you....it is still being "bred" into children. I broke off a good friendship years ago, because the parents were trying to bred their sons to hate others of a different color. My friend didn't see things their way and was open-minded. How he managed it? I'll never know. The other son, is a hateful, angry individual, I'm glad I don't know.

      Unfortunately, most people refuse to believe me, when I say it's still being "bred" into children.

      It's a horrible thing to do to a child and confusing them, and makes weapons out of human beings. It's sad to say, but it's the truth.

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        StormRyderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Good points Cags

        1. Cagsil profile image61
          Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Thank you Stormy. smile But, the fact remains. It's sad, that people cannot grow up and let go of the past. hmm

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            StormRyderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            It will never go away completely I'm sure..

            1. Cagsil profile image61
              Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I'm not convinced of that. I do have a more optimistic view that it could be eventually weeded out of society. And, I say eventually. lol

      2. Rochelle Frank profile image88
        Rochelle Frankposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        And I have seen the opposite, I'd say it depends strongly upon the parents. (See my post above.)

        1. Cagsil profile image61
          Cagsilposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Hi Rochelle. Yes, I have too seen it on both sides of the fence. I've seen it many different cultures too. Some people, just love to hate for some reason. hmm

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      LegendaryHeroposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Are these people purposely saying that they don't want to adopt a black child? Or are they just adopting white children at a greater rate?

      If its the second one then there is a psychological reason behind it. People unconsciously like those who are similar to themselves.

  2. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    I think it can be fine. I also think it may raise some special problems for the child, but nothing that informed parents can't cope with.

    It is sad that it is even an issue, as if red headed parents couldn't figure out how to raise a blonde...

  3. TheGlassSpider profile image81
    TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago

    It has been shown over and over again that children need loving parents to thrive.

    They do not need parents of any particular color, parents of any particular culture, or parents of any particular sexual orientation in order to thrive...they need GOOD parents, period.

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    while love is all a child needs with validation, there is no question this causes confusion, cultural differences, feeling different.  a good parent would be prepared to accept and help their child feel love is greater than all this, but prepared to also accept and embrace their differences.

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      Nell Roseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Hi, I do think a child should have someone in the family that is the same nationality, as when they grow older it might confuse or hurt them.
      Hi, Lyric, how are you?

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        lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Hey girl how are you?  Looking good big_smile

  5. Rochelle Frank profile image88
    Rochelle Frankposted 7 years ago

    I know a few black and white couples. If any of them were to adopt, I wonder whom they should pick. Maybe an Asian or Indian child?
    There is no black and white answer to this. They need to be good parents, that's all.

    1. cally2 profile image61
      cally2posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ooh can i get a green one? smile

      Oh no that's the back of the car on long journeys- been there done that! Bought the cleaning fluids.

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    StormRyderposted 7 years ago

    There is, according to the news report an overwhemlingly large number of black children in the system compared with white children and by insisting on same race adoption those numbers will continue to increase as there are far many more white and asian couples looking to adopt than black couples, thus more of the black children will be in the system until of legal age. I just think it would be more benificial to the child to be raised by parents reguardless of race as oppossed to the state raising them.

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    A Texanposted 7 years ago

    You know Navin Johnson was raised by a Black family and he turned out ok.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VsyS0oHLNFA

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      StormRyderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      And Dennis Rodman was raised by white parents....Oh,....never mind..lol lol

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        LMAO...bad example....   big_smile

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        Ivorwenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol lol lol

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        Greek Oneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        As long as Dennis Rodman isn't the one doing the adopting, then i am ok with it

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    Wendi Mposted 7 years ago

    That whole story pissed me off!

    Would the children seriously be better off homeless?

  9. Ohma profile image78
    Ohmaposted 7 years ago

    Whether we like it or not there will always be some people that are going to feel that one race is better or different than another. I am not saying that it is right or fair but it is what it is.
    The issue for me is that because we have not succeeded in changing the way people think about it, the children would be subjected to a lot of cruelty from some of their peers and some not very diplomatic adults.

    1. TheGlassSpider profile image81
      TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I can see where you're coming from here, but at the same time I think no matter what kind of family a child has they are possibly (probably) going to be subject to "cruelty from some of their peers and some not very diplomatic adults."

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        Ohmaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yes I do which only doubles the amount of negativity these poor children will have to endure.

    2. Rochelle Frank profile image88
      Rochelle Frankposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I agree that there will always be the problem of "what will other people think", because some will think negative things. Sometimes those perceptions will cause bad feelings and negative actions. It is unfortunate and wrong, but it is one of many challenges families can face.

      For that reason, these families need to be strong and prepared to help the children rise above that mentality. I know many more 'mixed' families now than when I was growing up, and I think these are the people who are on the front line of changing people's stereotyped ideas.

      1. Ohma profile image78
        Ohmaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I am not saying it couldn't or shouldn't be done. I am only saying that for it to be a totally positive experience we would first have to change the mindset of quite a few people.
        I live in a comparatively small city where racial tension is very high all the time. It is not uncommon to see children fighting on the streets everyday over racism. It never goes away.

        1. Rochelle Frank profile image88
          Rochelle Frankposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I understand that it can be difficult, especially in some places where people have deeply held opinions.

          Some of my early years were spent in an area where my family was a minority (white). I was never taught that any people were inferior or superior and this was 50/60 years ago. I played with a dark-haired girl and I didn't know she was black.

  10. Ben Zoltak profile image80
    Ben Zoltakposted 7 years ago

    I enjoy when conservative American whites show their true colors, it helps the good Americans win elections.

    1. TheGlassSpider profile image81
      TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      To whom, or about whom, are you speaking?

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      A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Really, have the "good Americans" won elections lately?

      1. Ben Zoltak profile image80
        Ben Zoltakposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, except of course, in Massachusetts. I guess we can't keep all the Neocommies out of the senate.

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          A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          and New Jersy and Virginia, get used to it a whole lot more coming your way!

          1. Ben Zoltak profile image80
            Ben Zoltakposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Great, so the last conservative "Texan" president first destroyed Texas' economy, then proceeded to destroy the entire countries' economy. Except for a couple of rich kids friends of the former president, everyone else is broke. That's what I'm used to from conservatives, pretending to help regular folks, while they hand all the countries wealth to the wealthy.

  11. blondepoet profile image80
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    I don't know if you guys have seen "The Blind Side" that stars Sandra Bullock. It is based on a true story about a black guy, whose mother was a smack addict, adopted by a loving white family.
    That guy went on to graduate, after being a nothing all his life, through the love and care he received from his adopted family.
    He went on to become one of the greatest NFL players of all.

    http://www.insidesocal.com/tomhoffarth/blind_side_true_story1.jpg

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      your amazing girl.  Such a beautiful heart

      shit another moment

      1. Mamelody profile image60
        Mamelodyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        is that meg ryan on the right?

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          lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol

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            Mamelodyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            hello darling can I have a boobie hug? wink

            Mine have totally shrunk from over hugging some people and need them to perk back up again tongue tongue

            Oh mine are of a darker color so I hope you don't mind big_smile

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          blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol they aren't actors. They were his real parents. Sandra plays his mother in the movie.

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        blondepoetposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Love u lyrics.

    2. Ben Zoltak profile image80
      Ben Zoltakposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Sounds like a cool story.

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      StormRyderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I haven't seen the movie...I rarely go to the movie theater..But I will watch it when it hits the movie channels. smile

  12. Ohma profile image78
    Ohmaposted 7 years ago

    Blonde, I have not seen the movie, I did read about it. Hopefully stories like this will pave the way to making mixed adoptions common place.

  13. Mamelody profile image60
    Mamelodyposted 7 years ago

    I will never understand why skin color is a problem in our society.. It really annoys the life out of me and personally I think racism should be officially a crime as its ridiculous.

    I have a friend who was raised by white parents and she's just as lovely.. when are people going to get it in their thick skulls that its not what a person looks like but what they actually are that matters?

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    china manposted 7 years ago

    My mother bore me in the southern wild,
    And I am black, but oh my soul is white!
    White as an angel is the English child,
    But I am black, as if bereaved of light.

    My mother taught me underneath a tree,
    And, sitting down before the heat of day,
    She took me on her lap and kissed me,
    And, pointed to the east, began to say:

    "Look on the rising sun: there God does live,
    And gives His light, and gives His heat away,
    And flowers and trees and beasts and men receive
    Comfort in morning, joy in the noonday.

    "And we are put on earth a little space,
    That we may learn to bear the beams of love
    And these black bodies and this sunburnt face
    Is but a cloud, and like a shady grove.

    "For when our souls have learn'd the heat to bear,
    The cloud will vanish, we shall hear His voice,
    Saying, 'Come out from the grove, my love and care
    And round my golden tent like lambs rejoice',"

    Thus did my mother say, and kissed me;
    And thus I say to little English boy.
    When I from black and he from white cloud free,
    And round the tent of God like lambs we joy

    I'll shade him from the heat till he can bear
    To lean in joy upon our Father's knee;
    And then I'll stand and stroke his silver hair,
    And be like him, and he will then love me.

    Just thought William Blake would have liked to comment on this one big_smile

 
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