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Are you close with your family???

  1. optimus grimlock profile image60
    optimus grimlockposted 6 years ago

    I am and I believe its vital to our lives to have great support systems!!!

    1. pisean282311 profile image58
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    2. pinkboxer profile image59
      pinkboxerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am very close to my family. We need support systems in our lives. There are too many lonely people in the world today.

    3. frogdropping profile image84
      frogdroppingposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      They don't need to come from immediate family though.

      I'm close to roughly 1/3 of mine - my sister and my dad. My children and I (three of) are very close, we're a great unit. I also have a wonderful partner. And a small group of great friends.

      I don't miss what I never had smile

    4. casper18 profile image60
      casper18posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i will say i am very close to my family  we have been thur so much and i an't but 19 years old me and my husaben have been married for  one year and many more to go and i want to thank GOD most of all becase he brought us togther  he was fourteen and i was 12 years old and  we have been going for seven  years GOD brought  and happy  so there is a lot that people dont know about me and ia leave it all in the past  so ther is nothing but furture a head of us thx and GOD bless you

  2. Rafini profile image79
    Rafiniposted 6 years ago

    Nope, never was and it's no longer an option.  Both of my parents left this world over 10 years ago and I disowned my only sister (for EXCELLENT reasons)  Don't know the rest of my family.

    I'm as close as I can be with my kids, however.  But, their father's family does everything they can to make it difficult for me - my daughter chooses to not contact me for weeks/months at a time and when I call her they talk to her while she's on the phone with me or have something for her to do or they need to use the phone. (they all live together, my ex, his mother, his sister, my daughter)  When she comes to my house, (which isn't often) they are usually calling her within 45 minutes asking When is she coming home??  Yeah, they're very manipulative.  My boys are better, but still, they've been exposed to the manipulation and deceit because there's no way I could have done it myself.  (I had to choose the lesser of two evils - marriage or divorce)

    1. casper18 profile image60
      casper18posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      wow i am so sorry you need any one to talk to you give me a call ok (336) 791-3079 my name is cassie fuller dixon i am 19 and married  thx GOD bless you

    2. Sonjadean profile image59
      Sonjadeanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I agree. I am not close with my family either. For one thing I am an only child, my father was a married man. I knew my other half brothers and sisters,but not as siblings.It's tough. My cousins and all. They compete with me and tell me about my  boyfriend who has always been there for me and my boys,five years and counting. Recently we had some financial issues,but I will never stop loving him. My family can't stand him. He comes from a very religous background like me and drug free. They are thje opposite. The have jobs, cars, but they tell me that I am stupid and I need to get a "Sugardaddy" to pay my bills. I refuse to do that. I think that is degrading. I think they are the ones stupid and I refuse to be around them. My boyfriend and I are loners. Rarely do we ever do outside and we are hardly on the phone. we are both very attractive people. I like the drama-free atmosphere. My cousins even spoiled Mother's Day for me.

  3. Jarn profile image86
    Jarnposted 6 years ago

    Yes, I'm very close with my family. I keep their jars on my nightstand.

  4. torimari profile image81
    torimariposted 6 years ago

    I am with my sisters and dad. The rest of my family, hardly. It's unfortunate.

  5. WaffleCheese profile image78
    WaffleCheeseposted 6 years ago

    Very close with my wife, my nuclear family, and both sides of my extended family.

    Also, and this might come as a shock, I am close with my inlaws as well.

  6. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    We are a very close family!

  7. Lisa HW profile image84
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    My family is close, but I don't see the "support system" thing as the main benefit.  It's just nice to have a family that's close.  It think any help from family members is a secondary thing that follows being close and only comes up when someone needs help.

  8. Cagsil profile image83
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    I am close to my mother. My father has been deceased for 20+ years. My sister is not part of my life, in the family sort of way, but communication is in tact. My sister's two daughters, I have one healthy family tie and not the other.

    The rest of my family is spread throughout America, in Florida, Ohio, California, Mexico, Arizona, and New York. They I do not hear from, and most of them are directly related to my mother.

    My mother doesn't hear from any of them and in the last 4 years, I've managed have my grandmother pass, her boyfriend of 30 years and my aunt took her own life, pills overdose.

    Probably TMI for some, but hey it's truth. wink

  9. nasus loops profile image80
    nasus loopsposted 6 years ago

    I am very close to my mother who lives only 15mins away.  My brother lives a bit further afield but we see each other at least once a month and talk.  I get on well with his wife as well.  My father died 19years ago.

    My in-laws are a totally different kettle of fish.  Mother-in-law can be a very selfish person and I do struggle to deal with this.  As individuals I get on well with my husbands brothers and their families, but when in a group situation I am very much the outsider, struggling to communicate.  Whether this is because I am so much younger than them and not such an outgoing person I do not know, but it is hard to deal with.

  10. EmpressFelicity profile image84
    EmpressFelicityposted 6 years ago

    No.  I'm an only child and my mother died just over three years ago.  I do have some cousins and an aunt in Germany (I'm in the UK), but I very rarely meet up with them.

    My mother divorced my dad when I was very young and I didn't see him again until I decided to make contact about twelve years ago.  I met up with him a couple of times and it was pleasant enough, although I could tell straight off that he's not the sort of person you can get close to. 

    Not long after his split from my mum he remarried and went on to have two more children, who are both now in their mid-to-late thirties (I'm 45).  The way he told it when he and I met up, both they and their mother wanted (and presumably still want) nothing to do with me, to the extent that I can't contact him at all because it would be "terribly upsetting" for them.  So now his sole communication with me is a regular birthday and Christmas card, along with a cheque in each. 

    Of course, I am somewhat sceptical, given that nowadays we have these things called mobile phones and the Internet/email that allow people to stay in touch quite easily without other people knowing.  In any case, I don't see myself as a shameful secret and don't for the life of me understand why his second wife and their children should regard me as a problem (maybe they think I'm after my dad's money???)

    Families mad

  11. flread45 profile image82
    flread45posted 6 years ago

    Talk every day..

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    Precious Williamsposted 6 years ago

    I was a foster child and have no contact to my birth mother and am not close to my foster parents.  For many years this concerned me. Now I can honestly say that it doesn't.  You hope for their approval, love, whatever and it can feel awful when you don't get it.  But now I try to live by the mantra of I can't change their behaviour - I can only change my own' And you know that has helped.

    I still get a pang when I see other families being very close but there are two things that I remember.  One - are they really as happy as they appear? I have no idea but looks can be deceptive.  And two - there are many people in the world who do not have family through circumstance and not choice. Many still have  happy fulfilling lives - Support systems can help whether they be friends or families although I think they are nice, I'm not sure that I would agree they are absolutely essential.

    1. Sonjadean profile image59
      Sonjadeanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Keep moving forward.

  13. Wendy Krick profile image48
    Wendy Krickposted 6 years ago

    We are a very close family. I talk to my Mom at least twice a week.

  14. Pcunix profile image90
    Pcunixposted 6 years ago

    Yes.  What's left of it, anyway.  Never very large to begin with and now too many are gone.

    But yes, family is important.

  15. Daniel Carter profile image91
    Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago

    I do love my family. They are fab people. But I only talk with them about twice a year, and get together perhaps once a year. It's plenty. We are all okay with that. There are several reasons why.

    I have adopted several other people in my life as well. Some of them I see daily.

    Yes, everyone needs a support system, but my observation is that those who have a great support system in the blood line family, are much fewer than those who have a great support system by the people they've adopted into their lives. My support system is completely based on those whom I've adopted.