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Older woman; REALLY young man!

  1. perfectperception profile image59
    perfectperceptionposted 6 years ago

    I'm a single mom having an issue dealing with the fact that my son is dating an older woman.  What are your thoughts?

    1. bird of happines profile image59
      bird of happinesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      well my best friend is a couger woman , but its depend how old is your sons girlfriend and how old is he?
      in my friends case they both just fill interests to each other, and psychological needs, they both know it will have no future and its only now , so they live the moment. i dont know what it is in your case.

    2. waynet profile image48
      waynetposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Ding dong I say....he'll learn lots of interesting stuff like how to cook and tie his shoe laces and many other things!

    3. peachpurple profile image78
      peachpurpleposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      if the older woman is mature and not married, give it a shot. Older woman not more than 6 years should be ok eventhough she may look like an older sis. She might turn your son into a mature man.

    4. purpleangel47 profile image61
      purpleangel47posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Well, now that I've been dropped kicking and screaming into the "older woman" category wink - and where did that 'cougar' reference for older women come from? - I can see how easy it could be to relate to a younger man whose maturity matches mine. Never dated anybody younger yet; but there's an energy, vitality and FUN aspect of my own personality that doesn't seem to fit with some men my age and older. I usually think of age as just two vowels and a consonant.

  2. KCC Big Country profile image84
    KCC Big Countryposted 6 years ago

    How old, how young?  Generally, I'm ok with it.  Gotta be legal though.

  3. Lisa HW profile image83
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    I wouldn't be too thrilled about it, by any means; but if the son is over a certain age there's not much his mother can do about it.  If she were good to him, and good for him, I suppose I'd be more able to overcome my "issues" with it than if I thought she was some old, immature, loser  (lol) who was using him, or if I thought my son were using her.

    (The other day I was talking with someone who is the mother of grown kids.  We were talking about worries, etc. etc., and she laughed and said, "I've learned that when it comes to grown kids and the stuff they do, you just have to say, 'Whatever...'".  (Of course, she was talking about  kids 24/25 and over.)

  4. alternate poet profile image75
    alternate poetposted 6 years ago

    The biggest issue in large age gap relationships is other people. As long as the age difference in the relationship is not used in an abusive way then they can both gain from it in more positive ways than you can imagine.

    Part of the problem is that when your son 'leaves' you for another woman you can keep the advantages of experience and seniority to retain some kind of control over your son, when the partner is equal to you - you just lose him.  If you have done your job right he will keep you, don't worry big_smile

  5. lorlie6 profile image85
    lorlie6posted 6 years ago

    I married a man 13 years my junior.  We're still going strong.  Needless to say, my family was up in arms, but our love is lasting longer than some of theirs.

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      steelone1posted 22 months ago in reply to this

      Are u still married?

  6. Greek One profile image79
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm the available elderly!

    I remember in my single days, I LOVED dating older women...

    We would go lawn bowling, the watch The Price is Right ALL NIGHT LONG!

    In the morning I would go home smelling of Ben Gay, with bag loads of hard candy in my pockets.

    1. Sed-me profile image84
      Sed-meposted 22 months ago in reply to this

      Penny whistles and moon pies!

  7. BRIAN SLATER profile image86
    BRIAN SLATERposted 6 years ago

    Depending on his age, providing he's older enough to get dressed himself I would say let him enjoy himself and have some fun. Better for him to learn about women from an experienced partner. He will become a better lover because of it, lets just hope she makes him breakfast or your fridge will empty double quick.