I just heard about a study that suggests that children who have sarcastic parents are more likely to end up being smart mouthed and disrespectful. I agree with this study. As anyone who has kids knows, either consciously or subconsciously they imitate their parents, and in my opinion sarcasm is a personality trait that kids of a certain age cannot fully understand.
Sarcasm is an "art" but while it is an art, it is not nice. (Art in delivering your point)
Family is where the children are first socialized, so you have a point, but when they go outside the house, they will have conflict with others if they apply "sarcasm" spec. if they think that this is the way to speak with others and to get your point deliver.
Good answer Pretty, well. I am a sarcastic person but I did not start using it until I knew how to use it without upsetting people, some people don't like it. I think it is a 'skill' that takes practice, although some kids can pull it off and come off as cute, many will come off as disrespecting their elders. Don't know what generation others came from but, being a 80s baby we were taught to respect our elders.
lol, me too Tony. I don't know where it came from. The study said that TV and movies are also an influence, with all the witty dialogue. Ever seen that movie Juno? The people who did the study suggest monitoring what young kids watch to prevent this, really? Shouldn't that be done anyway?
Good point about Scorpios! Although I am a Taurus and his dad was a Sagittarius and he is an Aries, I required my son to sharpen his tongue at least 20 minutes a day. I'd like to think I engrained in him the importance of being sound of body, mind and wit.
Read carefully, my friend. Nowhere did I claim to have taught anyone anything. I said I tried to impress upon my son the importance of being sound of mind, body and wit. Trust me. When it comes to parenting -- and wittiness -- I know my limitations!
What part do you not understand about the words "impress upon"? It's the same as teach. But, that still doesn't answer the question- How you could teach and/or impress upon your son wit, when you have none to begin with?
Whatever the parent shows to the child, will be picked up by the child, as being okay to do. Should it remain consistent through the child's growing, then it will be ingrained in them to do it.
The only time that isn't true, is when you have a more positive influence in the child's life, during that same period of time. The negative aspect delivered by the parents can be circumvented by the positive influence. The child is sure to learn the difference between the two and making a conscious choice, which path they go.
I'd think it makes a difference if the sarcasm is directed at the children, or is about other things in life. Children who are spoken to with respect tend to speak to others (especially those who treat them with respect) with respect. Parents who are "fresh" to their kids do get kids who learn that "that's how everyone talks to everyone else". I never spoke in sarcastic tones to my kids. On the other hand, one of the things that makes them laugh is that I've often been sarcastic about someone else. Lightening the mood by trying to be funny, and make kids laugh, is important for parents to do too. The stuff/people I've been sarcastic about is always stuff/people that I know my kids would think is "stupid" (or otherwise negative) already, so I've guessed I've used sarcasm in that situation as a way of letting my kids we need to see the humor in some situations or people's (including my own) "stupidity". Being "that kind of sarcastic" is a matter of having children "in on the joke" - not the brunt of meanness and/or "being spoken to like dirt".
There's a difference between funny sarcasm about other people or a situation and the kind of mean, demeaning, disrespectful, sarcasm some parents direct at their kids. Whenever I see someone using that rude kind of sarcasm AT their little kid of, maybe, four or five; I'm always fairly certain it's only a matter of about three/four years before their verbally downtrodden little kid starts mouthing off at them or else giving them "smart-mouthed" answers.
I would have to disagree with the study. I am very sarcastic in life, but I am not vicious and overly demeaning. I will say that sarcasm is somewhat demeaning, but there are also limitations to be shown and timing to be judged. If a parent can't show these items to their children as well - the parent should probably keep their thoughts to themselves. Disrespect is shown by children because they are not shown that there are limitations and/or what those limitations are.
I wasn't aware that sarcasm was something new this generation. For some reason I thought it has been around for a long time.
If your going to reply to someone's thread why be sarcastic? If the thread is not interesting, move on. Why do some hubbers think that other hubbers come to the forums to be lectured too.Maybe some hubbers...