I remember a mother( a first cousin once removed) who blamed her two year old son for being a late talker. She remarked to me that her son was slow; however, according to her grandmother, my maternal aunt, she never spent much time interacting with her son. She once stated that he should have learned to talk "on his own". Doesn't she realize that at this age, parents must teach, interact with, and motivate children to learn. I am aware that she married very young when she got pregnant. She did not want to get married and believed that she has lost many opportunities. She is angry and taking out her frustrations on her son because of those missed opportunities. I believe that this is sad. However, I believe that when a toddler and/or young child, especially if he/she is bright(as this child was), does not develop properly, it is the parents' fault. It is the parents' duty to teach and educate their children especially in the crucial developmental stages from 1 to 5 years old. Many parents either do not know or refuse to accept their part to educate their children during these crucial years of development. All she does when she returns home from work is to watch television, go out with her friends, and to arrange to have him placed with a playgroup.
I agree that parents need to nurture and help their children develop though interaction but many loving, involved parents also have late blooming kids so it's not always fair to blame the parents as you suggest.
Have you seen the way America raises her daughters these days?
there are too many parents that shouldn't be parents. She sound immature.
The little boy needs someone to interact with.
He may be afraid to speak.
Poor son! I thought a mother will always love her son unconditionally. Its not her son's fault that she married early. She shouldn't take her frustrations to her son. If only the son has the option to choose who his mother would be. The mother never grew up.
I have just watched a news item about an 8-year old girl who was maltreated by her relative by using a hammer, pouring hot water on her and other unheard of punishments on a young child. Believe me, you cannot look at her without crying. She's badly bruised and has to be transferred to a big hospital. I'm still reeling up to now. Her case is different from what you have mentioned in your story. She's an orphan and she was left to the care of her aunt. But still, both of them shouldn't experience what they are experiencing now!
And I always tell my students to love their parents because they sacrifice so much for them. Yet, reading this, watching what I have just watched? I don't know what to think. Anyway, they are just isolated cases since most parents I know are responsible ones. Whew!
yes, there are many parents that will not responsibility, i have see many parents like these.
Yes, there are some "late blooming" children who have caring and involved parents but that is rare. However, if a toddler does not talk by 2 years of age, it is the parents' fault. Parenthood is a tough job which involves sacrifice and being responsible. Parents must constantly interact and talk to their child beginning in infancy. Children respond when parents are interested in them.
A child not speaking until it is older can be for many other reasons. I also think this young woman would benefit from encouragement and support from family and friends.
If a child is slow to learn to talk, being with other children in a playgroup might be helpful to him. Maybe, he needs input from the health care team to check that he does not have a hearing problem and if he does then the sooner it is discovered the better for him.
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